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Challenges

ChallengesChallenges are always at the root of growth. They can be issues that are work related, family, friends….maybe even our very thoughts on where we stand with religion, our country, and the state of the world.

I have always welcomed challenge, as it is an opportunity for personal growth. An opportunity to demonstrate who I really am as well as reflect on any choices I make and how they impact the world and others. Facing difficult situations is also a great time to evaluate what is really important in your life, what is worth your time and energy. If dealing with a stressful situation leaves you drained and unable to be yourself and who you truly are, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate your participation? If you decide to continue to engage the challenge, how might you take care of yourself in combating stress, fatigue, anger or depression?

Challenges are thrown up daily, and we can develop our own prescriptions to fight these burn-out symptoms, and help us master the art of “being.” I like to say “BE” stands for Beginning and End. Beginning and End occupy the same time, which is NOW. In order to just experience the NOW, we need to be present and not allow thoughts and worries about the past or future, about those “challenges” that might have derailed our stability.

I always try to make the time to go to a beach, a lake or take a walk in nature if life drains my psyche.   Reflection for me is so much easier away from the constant barrage of electronics and people. God’s rhythms of the ocean waves, a waterfall or the wind thru the trees in a forest always makes for a deep connection to “Be” and “Now”, not to mention a total recharge and reconnect for my mind.

So welcome challenges. Welcome them as wonderful chances to grow, reflect, make choices, be in the Now, and reflect who you truly are.   Beautiful and Love.

Love and Light Always,

Veronica Crystal Young   40s Goddess

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Dad

DadDads,

We all have one. When we are little, they seem to be larger than life. This can be positive or negative, depending on your Dad, of course.  As a girl, you know and trust that Dad will protect and provide for you.  I can only assume it is the same for boys.

We get a lot from our parents.  How relationships work, how they don’t.  How to trust or not trust, how to love, how to hate.  Being a parent is a hugh responsibility.  Some people are meant to be parents, some not.  No matter which type of parent you think you are or will become, know that you have a great impact on the little ones that depend on you every day.

My Dad was very dedicated to us when we were young.  He worked 2 jobs and my mother was able to stay at home, which was a great thing.  When we four kids grew older, around 10-15, he took a job with the post office which is where he retired.  We always took great vacations – camping, boating, going to other states and national parks. It was a blast and those are times I will always cherish.

My dad was also “the enforcer.”  You know that line, “wait till your father gets home,” well we heard it a lot.  Or maybe it was just something us kids understood without the actual words being said.  We knew if we were giving mom grief or we were fighting a little too much, that we would be in trouble when Dad got home, so we were basically “scared” into being good kids.  I guess that’s the point, right?

Around my 7th or 8th grade year my Father changed. Maybe it was the fact that my two older brothers were at those difficult teenage years.  Maybe it was because his own memories of this teenage years came back to him (Whatever that was) and he couldn’t disconnect from the anger, hurt , guilt or abuse from his own past.  I don’t know.  Towards me he became more controlling and became physically abusive.  Towards my brothers he just became mean and we all suffered his psychological abuse.  No matter the reason, It happened, and it is a part of my past and who I am. It always will be.  But the past is the past, and it is important to understand and accept that.

As you grow older, the larger than life persona that is Dad fades away, as we come to realize he is just  a man, just a human being like everyone else.  He has his faults, flaws, hang-ups…just like the rest of us.  There comes a time in every adult’s life where we can either blame our parents for the way our lives turned out, or we can forgive and move on to the reach the other side…to individuality, strength, self-worth and love.  It’s a much better road, I assure you.

I forgave my Dad along time ago.  He sits in a Alzheimer’s home currently.  He has forgotten the life of abuse he inflicted. It’s convenient I guess.  His guilt is also forgotten and he spends his time in “no time” with “no body.”  He lost his entire family due to his inability to search his soul, face himself and his demons, and do what is right with the responsibility of raising a family.

I used to be sad on Father’s Day.  But now, I just remember the good man, the man I knew he was before whatever latched onto him took him to dark places that he did not have the strength to battle.  Before he lost site of Love and of himself.

So Dad, I love the man you once were…..and I miss him….. terribly.  I know you have found peace in the empty space of no memories. I know I have found peace. And found happiness and strength in the fact that I have created the life I am so very proud of.

So as Father’s day passes again, remember your Dad.   The good, the bad, the struggles, the joys…and bless the man that created  the wonderful, strong, beautiful person that is YOU!

Love, Peace and Happiness
Veronica Crystal Young

Life

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LIFE

Contemplate, self evaluate, make choices, weigh consequences, work hard, be kind to yourself and others, appreciate nature and all its gifts, take responsibility for your actions, respect others opinions, and love-love-love.

Create your life, Create your loves, Be who you really are. There is only one YOU.    May your New Year be filled with……… Life.

 

Some great quotes for the New Year:

“In the end, it’s not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how man moments took your breath away.” ― Shing Xiong

“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” ― Mae West

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” ― Oscar Wilde

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” ― George Bernard Shaw

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” ― Anne Frank

“Where there is love there is life.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

Enough said…

Veronica Crystal Young     -40s Goddess      www.tvartscapes.com

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Remember

SO it’s been several month’s since my last post, and I thought with the Holidays upon us, it was time to do one before the year runs out.

Where do I Start? The past year has been a year of stress, love, no time, performances and best friends.  Work has been unbearably busy with major changes for both my team and vendors, the love of my life continues to amaze me, the time I have to do what I want and need seems non-existent, we have started to get paying gigs for our country music, and we made many new fabulous friends. Why I titled this entry “remember”, is I have been feeling so blessed and happy, yet really frustrated at the same time.  You know how sometimes you get so tired of all life’s challenges and so called growth opportunities?  How you have a great day and something or someone just comes along and screws that good “high” up.  Life…….sometimes it’s a real downer.

When it gets to this point for me, When life’s challenges and choice’s become overwhelming, I turn to Mother-Father- God, ………and remember the good things.

  • If you have a Job, Remember – you are fortunate to have a job, there are so many that don’t.
  • Remember – that one person can’t effect your happiness and joy……. unless you let them.
  • Remember – that every situation has a choice, and you have the power to choose…..always.  and It is in that choice that you define who you really are.  
  • Remember – that friends and family are precious……never take them for granted.  
  • Remember –  to stop and appreciate the day and time you have…..you will never get this moment back.
  • Remember to say “I really appreciate you” to those you depend on and who are always there for you. 
  • Remember to say “I love you”……. And often.  

So to begin the Holiday Season…..Remember, and be thankful for what you have, be thankful for who you love and appreciate, and for having another day in this crazy, wonderful life.  

Peace. Love. Happiness.

 Veronica Crystal Young                 TVArtscapes.com

40s Goddess

 

 

 

New Years 2014

SO it’s New Years, Again!!!!  This year seemed to fly by as usual and it’s time to reassess our lives, figure out our goals for the coming year and remember all the “stuff” that happened this past year that made us laugh, made us cry and made us who we are. Some people only tend to focus on the good things that happened,  some only the bad.  I say look at everything, for “everything” is what shapes us and makes us grow. It helps to stay away from those “good-bad” labels  too.  I always feel if we can learn and grow from any circumstance, we are a better person for it. 

Awareness is always a first step into change for our future.  It allows us to see opportunities to change behaviors  and to be the person we want to be. How we deal with conflict, how we deal with adversity, how we react when someone hurts or angers us.  All these things can provide insight into who we are.  If we are willing to have an honest talk with ourselves and do some self examination, we can discover new strengths and change what we don’t like in ourselves and celebrate the awesomeness that  we do like.

Ask yourself if  you need to change any behaviors to handle situations differently.    Do you need to address others in any way, make amends or express your true feelings?  Be more proactive and decisive when it comes to uncomfortable situations? Work less to spend more time with family?  Work more to handle that large debt or curve spending habits?  Spend more time being thankful for what you have instead of wanting what you don’t have?  Tell those you love that you love them…everyday.   Reassess that relationship with “that” person – you know the one.  The one that never makes you feel good and always makes you doubt yourself,  keeps you walking on eggshells, is a total chore to be around because they are so draining?  Is it time to move on?  Do you need to be more kind, less judgmental? Do you need to take time away from everyone to chill and focus on you?

There are so many things to review in a year, but here is a great thing to do to help with the assessment.  Fill an empty Jar with all the things thathappen in the year.  Come New Years, pull all the notes out and review them.   It’s an awesome way to remember the year and I’m going to do this in 2014.  Thanks  Facebook friends for sharing this tidbit!

So in closing, I want to wish everyone a great New Year.  And remember, The start of a New Year is always a chance for new beginnings, but EVERY DAY is also a chance to start anew!  We hold our world in our hands…… it’s all in the handling of each situation and each moment. 

Peace, Love and Prosperity!  

Veronica Crystal Young, 40s Goddess

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Creativity

As I sit here watching the sunrise, I find myself thinking about creativity.  Creation.  Our ability to manifest something wonderful and all the excitement, work and love that goes into every thought and process for that creation.   It has been awhile since I have made a blog entry, so this topic seems fitting as I have been busy “creating” something new in my life.  

A few of you know that I am a singer, or at least I have been.  Performing in bands, musicals and shows, any piano bar that would let me……Ithas always been a passion of mine.  In my late 20s I was a songwriter, but just like the “entire world,” my songs and voice never made it to the vast stage that is the general public.  My passion and love for singing and writing has been rekindled since I met Eric, and together we have created our first song. 

I can’t tell you the joy and happiness that working on and completing this song has brought me.  It rekindled my passion for telling my story thru music.  I certainly have my TV ArtScapes Nature Series and all the joy that creating these wonderful Nature DVDs brings, but now I have another outlet to express myself, and hopefully inspire. It has been so fun, working with someone that shares my passion for music. Oh yeah, and he is  also an awesome guitar player!  I am so blessed to have found my voice again.

We have been lucky enough to have found a place to hone our passion for singing.  It has been at the Vincent Hill Station Restaurant and Saloon, in Acton, California. We are known simply as “Eric and Veronica” and our picture, skillfully taken by JC Forbes, hangs on the “wall of fame” with other performers.  You can find us there most Sunday afternoons from 3:00 to 7:00PM.  We hope to unveil our new song in a few weeks. And as soon as I can find some extra time in the studio, it will be on YouTube!

All I know, and I can say this from experience, is never, ever, give up on the dream of what you want your life to be.  We have dreams and goals for a reason. Dreams are usually what fuels us. Dreams are  most always linked to our purpose in life.  Don’t deny the journey to explore and refine your passions.  The reward for that journey is far more valuable than giving up.  It’s a journey of self discovery, sometimes disappointing, sometimes joyous, but always enlightening.  And perhaps you will find fulfillment, contentment and love along the way.

What do you want to create? Do it now. There is no time better to start then today!

Love and Light Always,

Veronica Crystal Young- 40s Goddess

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ADVENTURE Push your limits

Fun, excitment, pushing limits……We all need it. At least that is what this writer thinks. 

Haven’t you ever seen extreme rock climbing, or bungee jumping, skydiving or ziplining and said, “Man, that looks fun but I could never do that!”

The morning started with anticipation and nervousness as we all gathered around the black harnesses laying on the floor.  Our instructors’ names were Amy and Robert, two young pups who had much fun pulling our legs and trying to add a little levity to the situation, as you could see the unspoken nervousness in some peoples eyes. “Anyone ever zipped before?”  Silence.  Instruction began and one of the main training points was how to slow down and brake.  Careful training ensued with step by step instructions about the importance of first looking up at the cable, and then placing your hand in the proper position to brake and have control of your speed.  Assessing your position from the treetop landing station and judging your pressure on the wire was very important.

There were several treetop reiteration of this instruction, especially when my best friend came hurling to a landing station full force without heeding Amy’s bird flapping arms indicating SLOW DOWN. 

Zipping across the forest tree-tops at 20-40 miles an hour with nothing but the clothes on your back really empowers you to feel like you have control over your destiny, because in this situation, you REALLY do.   If you do not brake correctly you could come up short at the end of the ZIP and have to pull your way into the treetop station. Brake to late and you could crash and burn.  Well, not really, because Amy and Robert are professionals and there are safeguards for that, but you get my meaning. 

I don’t know about you it seems to me most people, including me, get caught up in their everyday routines, and all the pressures of life, and we forget to take risks, forget to challenge ourselves, because frankly, we are too tired. Try to make a real effort to do something to challenge yourself, push your comfort zones.   Zip thru life with excitement and no fear.   If you must put on the brakes, do so smoothly with clear intention.  Take your time to assess all choices, consequences, and responsibilities to arrive at any and all destinations and goals.  We always have the choice and the power over our own destinies, even if, at times, it doesn’t feel like it.

Oh, and if you do try something, and you find that it is too overwhelming to handle for where you are today, remember you can always go back and try again. Sometimes when this happens I like to visualize before actually doing the “push my limits” exercise. Like skydiving.  Pretty intense. I thank God the clouds came in after flight school because I had to wait to jump.  I had a whole week to visualize jumping out of that plane, and it helped when it came time to take that leap.

We all really should try to do something at least once a month, definitely once a year, outside our comfort zone. Push yourself to reach the place of challenge and exhilaration because, believe me, it can change your perspective and have a positive impact on how you feel about yourself and your path. Just try it once.  Like the ad says….Just Do It!

You’ll be glad you did. And remember, “It is said, the man who lives without risk, does not live.”

Veronica Crystal Young    40s Goddess        www.tvartscapes.com

                            

Stolen

Well I’ve debated on whether to even write this or not, but I decided it would be a good idea if even one person is helped by it. 

Last week my wallet was stolen, right out of my purse, in a grocery store. I turned my back for a moment when reaching for items, and it was gone when I went to check-out. Damn! No wallet.   Within 20 minutes 3 credit cards had fraudulent charges on them. Thank goodness the grocery store was close to my home and I was able to call all companies and the bank quickly and report the theft.

I was devastated, not to mention angry.  I sometimes forget that there are people in this world who are selfish, criminal and just plain bad.  People who have no regard for others at all.  I tend to think the absolute best of people until they show their ugly side.  I made excuses like they must have been hungry or maybe they had children to feed or they have been out of work, etc.  But the way the charges happened so fast, and in different directions from the store, calculated and direct, made me realize these were just plain thieves, robbers and horrible people. Later that week I discovered that there had been a robbery that same night in the parking garage. 

I guess I can count my lucky stars I wasn’t directly engaged and the theft happened without a confrontation, but that doesn’t help the feeling of violation and the headaches of getting your life back in order after this type of ordeal.

It has been a week and there was so much to do.  If this ever happens to you there are obvious actions to take.  1) Call all Credit cards and report cards stolen. 2) Place an alert on all 3 credit agencies regarding stolen wallet.  3) Make a police report that details what happened and the lost sustained.  4) Apply for new License with DMV. 

Also, just to prepare for the worst, always keep Credit card info for cards you have in your wallet at home.  Only carry cards you actually use.  And I hope I don’t have to remind everyone to never keep your PINS, social security card or passwords in your wallet. That’s just common sense.   Always make sure you have a secret password on all your credit cards.  It is an additional security piece of information that you can request on your cards.

So this incident is behind me.  I am still disheartened by the apathy of the grocery store and the police, but with everything else going on in the world, I guess one lost wallet is low on the totem pole. And you can be sure these thieves count on that.

So my friends, just a note to stay alert, always keep your purse and wallet close, and try to keep a positive attitude about people when something like this happens.   Lean on your friends and family for moral and emotional support, and remember each day is a gift.  To be lived fully and freely…..while keeping both eyes open about the truth of the less than honest people of the world.

Remember, no one can steal your happiness or love, unless you let them.  Don’t let them!  Back to editing the next DVD – MountainScapes.

Peace, Love and Light always,

Veronica Crystal Young   40s Goddess

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New Years – Reflection and Self Discovery

Well it’s another New Years Eve. I always hear that it has come so fast!  And I’m usually the one saying it. It seems like we just had New Years Eve and that I built my vision board for 2012.  But here it is again.  Last year was not the best Holiday Season, at least for me. It wasn’t special, it wasn’t exciting, I didn’t even put up a tree!  This year was different. Amazing how life can change on a dime, isn’t it? 

 This Christmas was the best Christmas ever, at least that is this writer’s feeling.  This past year has brought both real heartache and true love……all in the same year.  I guess it’s lucky that way.  Balance is important and it is really heaven when we can achieve it amidst a harried and insecure world.

So on the agenda for the holidays was parties with good friends and meeting some new ones; shopping on Christmas Eve to feel the hustle and bustle of the holidays, and of course spending time with my Eric. My tree was the best one ever with butterflies, New Orleans style masks, glitter and every girls favorite, shoe ornaments! All these things made this the best Holiday ever! 

On the stressful side this season was Family and work drama.  Sometimes it seems this drama will never end and it’s a part of everyday living, but I believe it’s all in how you hande it. You can be aware of all the drama playing out, choose to acknowledge it and engage in the continuing saga, or be aware of it and decide if engaging in it is worth your time, effort and possible aggravation. Obviously some drama needs to be addressed, especially if it effects your work adversely or family happiness. Maybe sincere apologies need to be made, not only to diffuse the drama, but to mend hearts and families. Maybe a clarification of events or of a discussion that took place. Search your heart and soul and hear what your inner voice is telling you. Don’t be afraid to say you were in the wrong either. It’s not about being right or wrong. Life is all about growth and being real. You can’t be real if you can’t even admit you have faults and make mistakes. And if your soul searching reveals some self-discoveries that are less than pleasant, treat yourself and others, for that matter, with gentle thoughts, love and forgiveness.  It’s the only way……and besides It’s the New Year!   A time for reflection, renewal, and moving past obstacles that keep you from your Fabulous Self! 

So my friends, I will close by wishing all of you a safe, drama free, prosperous,  loving New Year. Enjoy the reflective New Years Eve in this, the remainder of 2012. The end of the world did not happen and I’m so glad because I have so much to do! Including finishing yet another TV ArtScapes DVD – HanaScapes and MountainScapes!

Love, Light and Happiness People.  Live it, Spread it,  Be it.
The world needs it.

Veronia Crystal Young   40s Goddess    www.tvartscapes.com   

Appreciation

Open.  What a gift. Life has a way of teaching us so many lessons.   I write this blog because it is one of the places to voice my lessons, observations and stories.  The past 4 months have been stressful, scary and so perfect that I have to write about Appreciation today.
Several things have happened to inspire this topic.  You may have noticed that it has been several months since my last entry.  Well that is due to a few changes in my life that have been both nerve-wracking and quite wonderful….quite perfect to put it more aptly. 

On the work front, I have acquired yet another department and quite a large responsibility.  With it comes some hefty learning for me, new staff and all the challenges that brings with it, and the assimilation with my current team. It has been challenging and scary but manageable when I break it up into smaller goals and complete “my check-off” lists.  It has been both stressful and fulfilling as I navigate the new position, staff, and identify operations and improvements needed.

It makes me appreciate my team, who are always on top of their work and who have “can do” attitudes. It makes me appreciate my fellow managers who are very supportive and who teach me new things every day. It makes me appreciate the relationships I have with what I like to call the “Epic core,” a group of hardworking strategists and technical builders. Sometimes if it weren’t for them, I think I would lose my mind! It makes me appreciate my boss for believing in me and giving me so many opportunities to grow and contribute. Sometimes with your work situation, it helps to stop and count your gratitude’s.  It helps the days go by smoother and sometimes allows you to regroup from a negative attitude, giving a perspective on how it really could be much worse. Especially since so many struggle with not even having a job these days.  Count your blessings people.  If you have a job, find the thankfulness. If you don’t and are searching, be thankful for the opportunities that are coming your way and ask for the openness and grace to recognize it when it appears.

AND, now for the “quite perfect” part of this entry.  As I start this part of the entry, I’m sitting in the backyard with the sun rising, the grapevines overhead and the morning stillness, and a crow flies overhead.  My Native American animal cards come to mind and I look up Crow. 

Crow is an omen of change. The Ancient Chiefs tell us that Crow sees simultaneously the three fates – past, present, and future. If Crow medicine appears, learn to allow your personal integrity to be your guide. Your personal will can then emerge so that you will stand in your truth. The prime path of true Crow people says to be mindful of your opinions and actions. Be willing to walk your talk, speak your truth, know your life’s mission, and balance past, present, and future in the now. Shape shift that old reality and become your future self. Allow the bending of physical laws to aid in creating the shape shifted world of peace and love.

All of this is so true, especially for me now. About 4 months ago, practicing the concepts I stated in my “Open” entry, I met a very special man.  It had been a long time coming and I had always tried to believe that one day I would find the love of my life.  Searching for the special connection always eluded me.  Sure there were connections, but this was so different. A powerful, deep connection that comes with knowing and feeling real love and great joy that you are occupying the same world together. Time and space disappear and you feel connected……always. 

It has been my greatest joy, and I so appreciate him and how our life together is unfolding. It has taken many years to find, and yes, I was just about to give up hope. But shifting to “Open” made a difference in my daily life.  Accepting whatever the situation was in every given circumstance, knowing who I was and honoring and living that regardless of what others thought or said allowed me to receive.  Living your life authentically is magic, and practicing real appreciation sometimes forces acceptance and allows “Open” to happen. 
* Always live your truth.
* Live life to the fullest, with integrity, thankfulness and appreciation for where you are now.
* Be open to the opportunities Mother-Father-God will bring you.  She only brings what we can handle.

The Native American “Crow” medicine description burns in my mind as I leave you to find your authentic self and open to life’s loves and experiences. 

  • Learn to allow your personal integrity to be your guide, and your sense of feeling alone will vanish. Your personal will can then emerge so that you will stand in your truth. 
  •  Be mindful of your opinions and actions. Be willing to walk your talk, speak your truth, know your life’s mission, and balance past, present, and future in the now.
  • Shape shift that old reality and become your future self.
  • Allow the bending of physical laws to aid in creating the shape shifted world of peace, love, thankfulness and opportunity.

Blessed be….

Veronica Crystal Young      -40s Goddess           www.tvartscapes.com