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Remember

SO it’s been several month’s since my last post, and I thought with the Holidays upon us, it was time to do one before the year runs out.

Where do I Start? The past year has been a year of stress, love, no time, performances and best friends.  Work has been unbearably busy with major changes for both my team and vendors, the love of my life continues to amaze me, the time I have to do what I want and need seems non-existent, we have started to get paying gigs for our country music, and we made many new fabulous friends. Why I titled this entry “remember”, is I have been feeling so blessed and happy, yet really frustrated at the same time.  You know how sometimes you get so tired of all life’s challenges and so called growth opportunities?  How you have a great day and something or someone just comes along and screws that good “high” up.  Life…….sometimes it’s a real downer.

When it gets to this point for me, When life’s challenges and choice’s become overwhelming, I turn to Mother-Father- God, ………and remember the good things.

  • If you have a Job, Remember – you are fortunate to have a job, there are so many that don’t.
  • Remember – that one person can’t effect your happiness and joy……. unless you let them.
  • Remember – that every situation has a choice, and you have the power to choose…..always.  and It is in that choice that you define who you really are.  
  • Remember – that friends and family are precious……never take them for granted.  
  • Remember –  to stop and appreciate the day and time you have…..you will never get this moment back.
  • Remember to say “I really appreciate you” to those you depend on and who are always there for you. 
  • Remember to say “I love you”……. And often.  

So to begin the Holiday Season…..Remember, and be thankful for what you have, be thankful for who you love and appreciate, and for having another day in this crazy, wonderful life.  

Peace. Love. Happiness.

 Veronica Crystal Young                 TVArtscapes.com

40s Goddess

 

 

 

Stolen

Well I’ve debated on whether to even write this or not, but I decided it would be a good idea if even one person is helped by it. 

Last week my wallet was stolen, right out of my purse, in a grocery store. I turned my back for a moment when reaching for items, and it was gone when I went to check-out. Damn! No wallet.   Within 20 minutes 3 credit cards had fraudulent charges on them. Thank goodness the grocery store was close to my home and I was able to call all companies and the bank quickly and report the theft.

I was devastated, not to mention angry.  I sometimes forget that there are people in this world who are selfish, criminal and just plain bad.  People who have no regard for others at all.  I tend to think the absolute best of people until they show their ugly side.  I made excuses like they must have been hungry or maybe they had children to feed or they have been out of work, etc.  But the way the charges happened so fast, and in different directions from the store, calculated and direct, made me realize these were just plain thieves, robbers and horrible people. Later that week I discovered that there had been a robbery that same night in the parking garage. 

I guess I can count my lucky stars I wasn’t directly engaged and the theft happened without a confrontation, but that doesn’t help the feeling of violation and the headaches of getting your life back in order after this type of ordeal.

It has been a week and there was so much to do.  If this ever happens to you there are obvious actions to take.  1) Call all Credit cards and report cards stolen. 2) Place an alert on all 3 credit agencies regarding stolen wallet.  3) Make a police report that details what happened and the lost sustained.  4) Apply for new License with DMV. 

Also, just to prepare for the worst, always keep Credit card info for cards you have in your wallet at home.  Only carry cards you actually use.  And I hope I don’t have to remind everyone to never keep your PINS, social security card or passwords in your wallet. That’s just common sense.   Always make sure you have a secret password on all your credit cards.  It is an additional security piece of information that you can request on your cards.

So this incident is behind me.  I am still disheartened by the apathy of the grocery store and the police, but with everything else going on in the world, I guess one lost wallet is low on the totem pole. And you can be sure these thieves count on that.

So my friends, just a note to stay alert, always keep your purse and wallet close, and try to keep a positive attitude about people when something like this happens.   Lean on your friends and family for moral and emotional support, and remember each day is a gift.  To be lived fully and freely…..while keeping both eyes open about the truth of the less than honest people of the world.

Remember, no one can steal your happiness or love, unless you let them.  Don’t let them!  Back to editing the next DVD – MountainScapes.

Peace, Love and Light always,

Veronica Crystal Young   40s Goddess

www.tvartscapes.com    

 

New Years – Reflection and Self Discovery

Well it’s another New Years Eve. I always hear that it has come so fast!  And I’m usually the one saying it. It seems like we just had New Years Eve and that I built my vision board for 2012.  But here it is again.  Last year was not the best Holiday Season, at least for me. It wasn’t special, it wasn’t exciting, I didn’t even put up a tree!  This year was different. Amazing how life can change on a dime, isn’t it? 

 This Christmas was the best Christmas ever, at least that is this writer’s feeling.  This past year has brought both real heartache and true love……all in the same year.  I guess it’s lucky that way.  Balance is important and it is really heaven when we can achieve it amidst a harried and insecure world.

So on the agenda for the holidays was parties with good friends and meeting some new ones; shopping on Christmas Eve to feel the hustle and bustle of the holidays, and of course spending time with my Eric. My tree was the best one ever with butterflies, New Orleans style masks, glitter and every girls favorite, shoe ornaments! All these things made this the best Holiday ever! 

On the stressful side this season was Family and work drama.  Sometimes it seems this drama will never end and it’s a part of everyday living, but I believe it’s all in how you hande it. You can be aware of all the drama playing out, choose to acknowledge it and engage in the continuing saga, or be aware of it and decide if engaging in it is worth your time, effort and possible aggravation. Obviously some drama needs to be addressed, especially if it effects your work adversely or family happiness. Maybe sincere apologies need to be made, not only to diffuse the drama, but to mend hearts and families. Maybe a clarification of events or of a discussion that took place. Search your heart and soul and hear what your inner voice is telling you. Don’t be afraid to say you were in the wrong either. It’s not about being right or wrong. Life is all about growth and being real. You can’t be real if you can’t even admit you have faults and make mistakes. And if your soul searching reveals some self-discoveries that are less than pleasant, treat yourself and others, for that matter, with gentle thoughts, love and forgiveness.  It’s the only way……and besides It’s the New Year!   A time for reflection, renewal, and moving past obstacles that keep you from your Fabulous Self! 

So my friends, I will close by wishing all of you a safe, drama free, prosperous,  loving New Year. Enjoy the reflective New Years Eve in this, the remainder of 2012. The end of the world did not happen and I’m so glad because I have so much to do! Including finishing yet another TV ArtScapes DVD – HanaScapes and MountainScapes!

Love, Light and Happiness People.  Live it, Spread it,  Be it.
The world needs it.

Veronia Crystal Young   40s Goddess    www.tvartscapes.com   

Appreciation

Open.  What a gift. Life has a way of teaching us so many lessons.   I write this blog because it is one of the places to voice my lessons, observations and stories.  The past 4 months have been stressful, scary and so perfect that I have to write about Appreciation today.
Several things have happened to inspire this topic.  You may have noticed that it has been several months since my last entry.  Well that is due to a few changes in my life that have been both nerve-wracking and quite wonderful….quite perfect to put it more aptly. 

On the work front, I have acquired yet another department and quite a large responsibility.  With it comes some hefty learning for me, new staff and all the challenges that brings with it, and the assimilation with my current team. It has been challenging and scary but manageable when I break it up into smaller goals and complete “my check-off” lists.  It has been both stressful and fulfilling as I navigate the new position, staff, and identify operations and improvements needed.

It makes me appreciate my team, who are always on top of their work and who have “can do” attitudes. It makes me appreciate my fellow managers who are very supportive and who teach me new things every day. It makes me appreciate the relationships I have with what I like to call the “Epic core,” a group of hardworking strategists and technical builders. Sometimes if it weren’t for them, I think I would lose my mind! It makes me appreciate my boss for believing in me and giving me so many opportunities to grow and contribute. Sometimes with your work situation, it helps to stop and count your gratitude’s.  It helps the days go by smoother and sometimes allows you to regroup from a negative attitude, giving a perspective on how it really could be much worse. Especially since so many struggle with not even having a job these days.  Count your blessings people.  If you have a job, find the thankfulness. If you don’t and are searching, be thankful for the opportunities that are coming your way and ask for the openness and grace to recognize it when it appears.

AND, now for the “quite perfect” part of this entry.  As I start this part of the entry, I’m sitting in the backyard with the sun rising, the grapevines overhead and the morning stillness, and a crow flies overhead.  My Native American animal cards come to mind and I look up Crow. 

Crow is an omen of change. The Ancient Chiefs tell us that Crow sees simultaneously the three fates – past, present, and future. If Crow medicine appears, learn to allow your personal integrity to be your guide. Your personal will can then emerge so that you will stand in your truth. The prime path of true Crow people says to be mindful of your opinions and actions. Be willing to walk your talk, speak your truth, know your life’s mission, and balance past, present, and future in the now. Shape shift that old reality and become your future self. Allow the bending of physical laws to aid in creating the shape shifted world of peace and love.

All of this is so true, especially for me now. About 4 months ago, practicing the concepts I stated in my “Open” entry, I met a very special man.  It had been a long time coming and I had always tried to believe that one day I would find the love of my life.  Searching for the special connection always eluded me.  Sure there were connections, but this was so different. A powerful, deep connection that comes with knowing and feeling real love and great joy that you are occupying the same world together. Time and space disappear and you feel connected……always. 

It has been my greatest joy, and I so appreciate him and how our life together is unfolding. It has taken many years to find, and yes, I was just about to give up hope. But shifting to “Open” made a difference in my daily life.  Accepting whatever the situation was in every given circumstance, knowing who I was and honoring and living that regardless of what others thought or said allowed me to receive.  Living your life authentically is magic, and practicing real appreciation sometimes forces acceptance and allows “Open” to happen. 
* Always live your truth.
* Live life to the fullest, with integrity, thankfulness and appreciation for where you are now.
* Be open to the opportunities Mother-Father-God will bring you.  She only brings what we can handle.

The Native American “Crow” medicine description burns in my mind as I leave you to find your authentic self and open to life’s loves and experiences. 

  • Learn to allow your personal integrity to be your guide, and your sense of feeling alone will vanish. Your personal will can then emerge so that you will stand in your truth. 
  •  Be mindful of your opinions and actions. Be willing to walk your talk, speak your truth, know your life’s mission, and balance past, present, and future in the now.
  • Shape shift that old reality and become your future self.
  • Allow the bending of physical laws to aid in creating the shape shifted world of peace, love, thankfulness and opportunity.

Blessed be….

Veronica Crystal Young      -40s Goddess           www.tvartscapes.com   

Open

Last weekend I attended a retreat at the the beautiful Glen Ivy Hot Springs Resort and Spa. It was an inspirational place, and I loved it that my room was right next to a stream and waterfall for early morning walks.

The weekend started with a lovely gathering in the main lodge. The theme for the weekend was “love.” Well let’s face it, you can’t get a better topic or a more inspiring focus then that.

The women were from all over, from as far as New York and Canada. We all chose what aspect of love we wanted to focus on for the weekend, and we placed a symbol of that focus on the gold, fabric draped steps of the great room. I thought about what I brought as a symbol of love, and I knew immediately what my focus had to be.

In my hands was a stone shaped heart. I bought it in Sedona, one of the gorgeous places I love to go for reflection and renewal, and it seemed to have all the qualities of love. It had sections to it, lighter sections that seemed to be held together with darker strands of gold. To me the lighter sections symbolized the “pieces” of love, all the emotions and circumstances we encounter like passion, fear, doubt, acceptance, honesty, trust, hurt, compromise….and many more. The dark gold stand symbolized how a relationship is always held together with the power of love. BUT, the best thing about my heart rock was the center. It opened up to reveal dazzling, brilliant, crystals and that is where I found my inspiration for my focus that weekend.

Openness. As I held the heart rock in my hand, I was reminded that being open to love, being open to receive and being open to give, THAT is where the brilliance is. “Open” can be hard as we encounter life’s challenges, as we are hurt by the words and deeds of others, as we navigate our own doubts and build walls of protection and fear. Sometimes our own actions can derail us and we find it difficult to forgive ourselves. But if we open our hearts to the oneness in this world, to the magnificence of every living thing and every other person, we will know and experience love. A love of no judgement, no conditions and a love that includes love of ourselves, because how can there be magnificence in this world and not have it include you? We are all one. I can’t tell you how walking anywhere with a conscious openness can change your life. Peace, joy, a feeling of belonging and that you are never alone. Pretty awesome when we can remember to approach everything in life this way and make a conscious choice to remain open.

I have my stone heart sitting on my nightstand so as I wake up every morning I can remember to be “open” to life’s great treasures; in nature, in people, in the challenges of circumstance. Joy, peace, happiness and love is yours, be open to it.

The brilliance of open …….is magic. May you find it and keep it, for being open is Love.

Veronica Crystal Young    40sGoddess-

www.tvartscapes.com   

Rain – Its Healing Powers

The healing and life giving property of water.  We need it, and it usually brings all sorts of feelings and emotions when it comes.  Some people have mood swings when it rains.  Some curl up with a good book, some light a fireplace and spend time with a loved one, others work at home or shop or just simply enjoy it.

Regardless of how you feel about the rain, it will always come…eventually, giving the healing and life sustaining water that mother earth needs. Water is an amazing gift, and being a Pisces, It is one of my favorite things in life, in any form. 

Oceans, lakes, streams….the rain. It is a reminder to me about flow, about allowing what is, and it always instills in me a personal strength and inspiration. I can’t help but be inspired when I sit at the bottom of a powerful waterfall or on the cliffs overlooking a tempestuous sea.

No matter how you feel about the rain, try to use it as a time to reflect.  A time to check in with your soul and replenish your own personal strength and examine your beliefs.  Is there anything you need to nurture in yourself that you have not been paying attention too? Do you need to take a day and appreciate what you have instead of what you don’t have? Take a breather from the constant “do-do-do” of life and decide how to honor yourself.  Re-evaluate anything that is not serving you. Today is just as good a day to do it. And when the sun finally comes out, it is a reminder to us that there is always sunshine after the storm. Always another day to start anew, always a great light that will shine both in you and from you, when you are honoring who you are and your magnificence.  Because, my dears, you are truly that magnificent.

Take your cue from the rain, and nurture that which is ”you”.
Growth will occur, and your light will shine…. Always.  

Love and Light this fine rainy Day!!

 Veronica Crystal Young   -40s Goddess
www.tvartscapes.com                 

Valentine’s Day

Well, it’s Valentine’s Day, and I’m in beautiful Lake Tahoe again. A romantic setting…. gorgeous sunset, the lake, a fire pit, a martini, and inspiration. At least that is what comes up or me. Does it matter that I’m here alone on this day? Does it matter that I see couples everywhere, sharing their lives, dreams and moments together? Does it sting, just a little? 

 In years past it has been hard to be alone on this special of days. A day to express appreciation, caring and love for that special someone is your life. But what to do if you are currently single? What if that special “other” is not in the picture, at least for now?

I decided to treat myself to a great late lunch by the Lake at my favorite resturaunt. It is right on the lake, has picture windows and I am writing, reflecting and capturing the moment in both video and pictures, my favorite thing to do. I am so full of peace and love. Isn’t that what Valentine’s Day is all about? Do you need another person to feel those things? I don’t think so. But with that said, let’s face it, seeing a beautiful sunset, walking the bamboo forest or experiencing the power of a waterfall is just that much more  magnificent when shared. THAT is what I miss.

So if you are single, if that significant other has eluded you to date, do something for that special “you.”
That wonderful, loving person that YOU are. You deserve it. Learn to appreciate you and the time you have in this life. Appreciate the NOW that is so difficult to continually live in this crazy world. Celebrate and love the person you are! All of you. No matter what faults you think you have, or what your perception is of what you are lacking.  

By the way, we don’t need a special day to celebrate. Live the celebration of YOU every day. Make the plan to do something for your wonderful self at least once a month. Because you, my dears, are gorgeous and complete just as you are, and just as you are NOW.   You are a Goddess after all!

Love to you this Valentine’s Day. May your days be filled with Love. And here’s wishing, if you desire it, that someone special will appear in your life. Someone deserving, and exactly what you want…..to share life moments.

 Peace and light,

Veronica Crystal Young   

Integrity

Ok, so it was time to re-evaluate a few priorities again.  Yes. It’s a constant struggle, this thing called life.  Always encountering situations where we can continue to create who we are.

Sometimes on this journey, we encounter situations that test our integrity.   What do we believe, who are we, what do we want to project.  Do we compromise what we know is right even just for a little while because, well, we just “need to?” Do we have something to prove or does our mind go a mile a minute rationalizing the situation? We women are good at that. Do we take care of ourselves or someone else at the cost of our own integrity?  Do we have something we did that we are not proud of and that we beat ourselves up for?

Here’s a news flash.  Everyone does.  Cut your self a break!  As women, we evaluate, questions, evaluate again, dissect a situation to death! Why this, why that, what did I do to bring this on, and even “What was I thinking!”

All we have to remember, at any time, in any situation, is who we are and what we want to be is defined by our actions.  That really is it.  And if we stumble, if we fall, if we experience a “What the hell did I do” moment, it’s ok.  Make amends and apologies if it’s needed, and forgive yourself….for being human, having a lapse in judgement or for losing yourself for the moment, and move on with your fantastic, wonderful life. Because it is! Believe that too, and if you don’t, well that’s another subject all together.  “What do you need to be happy.”

Integrity.  It is what we believe and how we act based on those beliefs.  Make no mistake.  Actions speak louder than words and if you are not acting in alignment with your beliefs or words, you might need to evaluate what you really do believe, or who you really are.  And people, that can be a painful realization sometimes.  But not one that can’t be changed. That’s what life is all about, the journey…constant change….evaluation of self, connection and Love …always love.   At least that is what this writer believes.  Besides, How boring would life be without challenges, change and growth?

So as I sit by the pool in beautiful Palm Springs, (yes, I have to brag) I am grateful for everything and everyone in my life.  My family and friends fill me with love and I am blessed for it.  My work (All of the various hats I wear) fulfills me. My work relationships can be challenging, but I would have it no other way for it helps me grow. And I thank mother/father/god for my life, my experiences and the lessons that move me closer to oneness, for truly, we are all one.  Blessed be,,…

GO AND GET IT!  Whatever it is!

Veronica Crystal Young                 www.tvartscapes.com

Hope

So people, some things have happened in my life to bring up the subject of Hope.  Family struggles,  friends doubting themselves or life’s path, and me, struggling with some “Hope” issues of my own. 

 Hope is a very powerful thing.  It can get you thru each day when the days are filled with hardship, both emotionally and physically.  It is sometimes hard to find when the days are looking dark, you are feeling quite alone and you can’t seem to grasp any energy and picture your life in a positive light.   Here are some things that I do to turn that darkness into light.

 1)      Be still and thank the universe (This is the “God” of your faith).  Give thanks and gratitude for living, for this wonderful school of life, for this wonderful experience called “human,” flaws and all.  Truly think about all that is you, all that you have accomplished. If you feel like you have not accomplished anything, just look at the fact that you are a powerful, beautiful being.  One that has choices and control over what to create in this life.  Choice is truly a gift.  Being thankful and recognizing the gifts you have in your life, is the first step to Hope.

 2)      Get clear on what you “think” you need.  I only put it that way because sometimes what we think we need is so far from the truth.  State what this is in clear, concise sentences.  Even better to write it down because action has power and moves energy.  And always say, “I humbly request, this, or in your infinite wisdom, something better.”  This is because the universe knows exactly what we need, even though it doesn’t feel like it sometimes!

 3)      Ask the universe to provide direction for you.  Mother/Father God is very good at putting up sign posts and synchronicities in your life to point you in the right direction. It is up to us to recognize them and act.

 4)      Trust yourself when taking action…. Or no action.  I say this because sign posts and directions sometimes point to “wait.”  This can be really hard, especially for those of us who are used to action, action, and more action.  Yes, I am guilty of this, but I’ve come to realize the wisdom of doing nothing in certain situations.  No action is really an action, it is the action of wait till I receive better information, or wait because it looks like a current path is harmful to you or others.  And try not to confuse a “no action” feeling with fear of action.  This too is difficult, but if you really look at what actions are speaking to you, it should be obvious which ones are tied to fear.  Over coming that fear might be the right road.  Only you can get to the heart of that one.

 5)      One day at a time.  If you constantly look at your life in terms of past and future, you will set yourself up.  Now this is fine if your entire life has been bliss.  But hardship and pain has a way of latching onto us, living in our bodies and our souls, and cropping up as fear for future and present situations.  It’s called being Human!  Remember the past does not necessarily equal the future, and no one can predict the future.  NOW is the only way to live.  Don’t miss it by being depressed, fearful and preoccupied with “what if.” Take today for today, live life to the fullest, because TODAY is a sure thing.

 6)      Lastly, know that the universe and the energy that drives her, does not wish anything but love and the best for us. She wants us to be loved and to love…. to be creative and powerful beings, free to chose our destiny’s.  I know because I feel that love and supportive energy every day.  I see it in the beauty and balance of nature;  I see it the faces of children;  I see it when I experience a kind gesture from someone; I see it in the little miracles that happen when you least expect it.  

 Hope….. it is a blessed virtue, and I wish it for everyone so that they may find their own majesty, beauty and grace.  Love and Light, my beautiful people.  Till next time on this journey of discovery!

40s Goddess     Veronica Crystal Young                   www.tvartscapes.com         

Choose Love

I sat on the edge of the Grand Canyon. The snow was so white, and it glistened as it lay next to the red and orange rock that made up a frightening drop off a cliff. The snow had stopped just hours before and the clouds, light from the release, looked like cotton in the sky, and they threw eerie shadows over this great wonder of the world.  The wind was cold and it whipped thru the Canyon, as if to announce, “I can whip thru the open air  and I can go wherever I want; over your Cliffs, thru your trees, down ravines.”  It didn’t care if there were walls and cliffs a mile deep, it found it’s way to the bottom and back up again, sometimes with such force it knocked over weak signs and old tree trunks that had the life taken from them, except for the snakes and critters that might call them home.

 

What a place.  I seem so small compared to this great Canyon, a beauty of mother earth that has been a place of wonder and astonishment for centuries.  Being here, any worries or supposed hardships in my life, any doubts, any negativity or hurt seems to melt away.  There is only Love, love of this place called Earth and its’ mysteries, love of the people I see here, love for myself; feelings of awe, blessings, and peace.  How I wish everyone could experience it. To open your heart and feel love all around and feel so full.  I tell you it is the best medicine on earth!

I am so happy and fortunate to have my friends, my work, my family….my life.  We all have hardships, to varying degrees. But no matter where our paths have taken us, we always have the power and the choice to love.  Never forget that.  You don’t have to be in a wonderful, inspiring place to feel and experience the love, all you have to do is chose it. It’s there, believe me.

This Holiday season, remember to sprinkle each day with love.  No matter where you are, no matter what time, what place, what people you are with, always remember to open your heart to Love.  Be thankful for what you have and who you are.  And know that you are loved too.

Peace and Love to you my friends, always…..

40’s Goddess     Veronica Crystal Young

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