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Remember

SO it’s been several month’s since my last post, and I thought with the Holidays upon us, it was time to do one before the year runs out.

Where do I Start? The past year has been a year of stress, love, no time, performances and best friends.  Work has been unbearably busy with major changes for both my team and vendors, the love of my life continues to amaze me, the time I have to do what I want and need seems non-existent, we have started to get paying gigs for our country music, and we made many new fabulous friends. Why I titled this entry “remember”, is I have been feeling so blessed and happy, yet really frustrated at the same time.  You know how sometimes you get so tired of all life’s challenges and so called growth opportunities?  How you have a great day and something or someone just comes along and screws that good “high” up.  Life…….sometimes it’s a real downer.

When it gets to this point for me, When life’s challenges and choice’s become overwhelming, I turn to Mother-Father- God, ………and remember the good things.

  • If you have a Job, Remember – you are fortunate to have a job, there are so many that don’t.
  • Remember – that one person can’t effect your happiness and joy……. unless you let them.
  • Remember – that every situation has a choice, and you have the power to choose…..always.  and It is in that choice that you define who you really are.  
  • Remember – that friends and family are precious……never take them for granted.  
  • Remember –  to stop and appreciate the day and time you have…..you will never get this moment back.
  • Remember to say “I really appreciate you” to those you depend on and who are always there for you. 
  • Remember to say “I love you”……. And often.  

So to begin the Holiday Season…..Remember, and be thankful for what you have, be thankful for who you love and appreciate, and for having another day in this crazy, wonderful life.  

Peace. Love. Happiness.

 Veronica Crystal Young                 TVArtscapes.com

40s Goddess

 

 

 

Valentine’s Day

Well, it’s Valentine’s Day, and I’m in beautiful Lake Tahoe again. A romantic setting…. gorgeous sunset, the lake, a fire pit, a martini, and inspiration. At least that is what comes up or me. Does it matter that I’m here alone on this day? Does it matter that I see couples everywhere, sharing their lives, dreams and moments together? Does it sting, just a little? 

 In years past it has been hard to be alone on this special of days. A day to express appreciation, caring and love for that special someone is your life. But what to do if you are currently single? What if that special “other” is not in the picture, at least for now?

I decided to treat myself to a great late lunch by the Lake at my favorite resturaunt. It is right on the lake, has picture windows and I am writing, reflecting and capturing the moment in both video and pictures, my favorite thing to do. I am so full of peace and love. Isn’t that what Valentine’s Day is all about? Do you need another person to feel those things? I don’t think so. But with that said, let’s face it, seeing a beautiful sunset, walking the bamboo forest or experiencing the power of a waterfall is just that much more  magnificent when shared. THAT is what I miss.

So if you are single, if that significant other has eluded you to date, do something for that special “you.”
That wonderful, loving person that YOU are. You deserve it. Learn to appreciate you and the time you have in this life. Appreciate the NOW that is so difficult to continually live in this crazy world. Celebrate and love the person you are! All of you. No matter what faults you think you have, or what your perception is of what you are lacking.  

By the way, we don’t need a special day to celebrate. Live the celebration of YOU every day. Make the plan to do something for your wonderful self at least once a month. Because you, my dears, are gorgeous and complete just as you are, and just as you are NOW.   You are a Goddess after all!

Love to you this Valentine’s Day. May your days be filled with Love. And here’s wishing, if you desire it, that someone special will appear in your life. Someone deserving, and exactly what you want…..to share life moments.

 Peace and light,

Veronica Crystal Young   

Hope

So people, some things have happened in my life to bring up the subject of Hope.  Family struggles,  friends doubting themselves or life’s path, and me, struggling with some “Hope” issues of my own. 

 Hope is a very powerful thing.  It can get you thru each day when the days are filled with hardship, both emotionally and physically.  It is sometimes hard to find when the days are looking dark, you are feeling quite alone and you can’t seem to grasp any energy and picture your life in a positive light.   Here are some things that I do to turn that darkness into light.

 1)      Be still and thank the universe (This is the “God” of your faith).  Give thanks and gratitude for living, for this wonderful school of life, for this wonderful experience called “human,” flaws and all.  Truly think about all that is you, all that you have accomplished. If you feel like you have not accomplished anything, just look at the fact that you are a powerful, beautiful being.  One that has choices and control over what to create in this life.  Choice is truly a gift.  Being thankful and recognizing the gifts you have in your life, is the first step to Hope.

 2)      Get clear on what you “think” you need.  I only put it that way because sometimes what we think we need is so far from the truth.  State what this is in clear, concise sentences.  Even better to write it down because action has power and moves energy.  And always say, “I humbly request, this, or in your infinite wisdom, something better.”  This is because the universe knows exactly what we need, even though it doesn’t feel like it sometimes!

 3)      Ask the universe to provide direction for you.  Mother/Father God is very good at putting up sign posts and synchronicities in your life to point you in the right direction. It is up to us to recognize them and act.

 4)      Trust yourself when taking action…. Or no action.  I say this because sign posts and directions sometimes point to “wait.”  This can be really hard, especially for those of us who are used to action, action, and more action.  Yes, I am guilty of this, but I’ve come to realize the wisdom of doing nothing in certain situations.  No action is really an action, it is the action of wait till I receive better information, or wait because it looks like a current path is harmful to you or others.  And try not to confuse a “no action” feeling with fear of action.  This too is difficult, but if you really look at what actions are speaking to you, it should be obvious which ones are tied to fear.  Over coming that fear might be the right road.  Only you can get to the heart of that one.

 5)      One day at a time.  If you constantly look at your life in terms of past and future, you will set yourself up.  Now this is fine if your entire life has been bliss.  But hardship and pain has a way of latching onto us, living in our bodies and our souls, and cropping up as fear for future and present situations.  It’s called being Human!  Remember the past does not necessarily equal the future, and no one can predict the future.  NOW is the only way to live.  Don’t miss it by being depressed, fearful and preoccupied with “what if.” Take today for today, live life to the fullest, because TODAY is a sure thing.

 6)      Lastly, know that the universe and the energy that drives her, does not wish anything but love and the best for us. She wants us to be loved and to love…. to be creative and powerful beings, free to chose our destiny’s.  I know because I feel that love and supportive energy every day.  I see it in the beauty and balance of nature;  I see it the faces of children;  I see it when I experience a kind gesture from someone; I see it in the little miracles that happen when you least expect it.  

 Hope….. it is a blessed virtue, and I wish it for everyone so that they may find their own majesty, beauty and grace.  Love and Light, my beautiful people.  Till next time on this journey of discovery!

40s Goddess     Veronica Crystal Young                   www.tvartscapes.com         

Choose Love

I sat on the edge of the Grand Canyon. The snow was so white, and it glistened as it lay next to the red and orange rock that made up a frightening drop off a cliff. The snow had stopped just hours before and the clouds, light from the release, looked like cotton in the sky, and they threw eerie shadows over this great wonder of the world.  The wind was cold and it whipped thru the Canyon, as if to announce, “I can whip thru the open air  and I can go wherever I want; over your Cliffs, thru your trees, down ravines.”  It didn’t care if there were walls and cliffs a mile deep, it found it’s way to the bottom and back up again, sometimes with such force it knocked over weak signs and old tree trunks that had the life taken from them, except for the snakes and critters that might call them home.

 

What a place.  I seem so small compared to this great Canyon, a beauty of mother earth that has been a place of wonder and astonishment for centuries.  Being here, any worries or supposed hardships in my life, any doubts, any negativity or hurt seems to melt away.  There is only Love, love of this place called Earth and its’ mysteries, love of the people I see here, love for myself; feelings of awe, blessings, and peace.  How I wish everyone could experience it. To open your heart and feel love all around and feel so full.  I tell you it is the best medicine on earth!

I am so happy and fortunate to have my friends, my work, my family….my life.  We all have hardships, to varying degrees. But no matter where our paths have taken us, we always have the power and the choice to love.  Never forget that.  You don’t have to be in a wonderful, inspiring place to feel and experience the love, all you have to do is chose it. It’s there, believe me.

This Holiday season, remember to sprinkle each day with love.  No matter where you are, no matter what time, what place, what people you are with, always remember to open your heart to Love.  Be thankful for what you have and who you are.  And know that you are loved too.

Peace and Love to you my friends, always…..

40’s Goddess     Veronica Crystal Young

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Relax Already!

Relax Already!

So you would think that being in one of the most beautiful places on earth would make one relax, wind down and really take life slow, releasing all the tensions and problems one thinks is clogging up their life. Well, I’m here to tell you…. no! It’s not that easy for some of us.

There I was in Maui, at the beautiful Hyatt Hotel with stunning waterfalls, lagoons, and several pools right on the ocean, and it still was hard to just relax, sleep on a lounge chair or read a book, at least for an hour or two. I was still so anxious and in work mode, it was hard to “turn off” totally. I know it will take a few days…thank goodness I was there for a few days, at least I’ll be relaxed by the third day….I hope.

Does it take you some time to decompress? Do you get anxious or feel like you should be “doing” something to fill up the time? I, at least, have my videography and filming that makes me feel like I am not “wasting time.” And what is wasting time? Why do some of us feel that if we are not pursing our passions, working towards something or visiting family or friends that we are “wasting time?” I guess it comes from being a type A personality, where nothing is ever quite done, nothing is ever perfect. I have to sit down with myself and have a heart to heart talk, and give myself permission to relax. Permission to let time run out and watch it go by with absolutely no regret for not filling it with work, or calls or “business stuff.” I was going to be filming in a few days and that is my greatest joy, but until then, laying by the pool, sipping a pina colada and making new friends was just gonna have to do! It’s rough…..I know.

So give yourself permission to just be and enjoy time without feeling like you have to be somewhere, be doing anything or talking to anyone. Enjoy the “Being” and the rejuvenation will begin. You will have a fresh perspective on everything and you can actually start the process of learning how to “be” all the time, even when you are home, at work or in stressful situations. Teach yourself to take a moment to check into the “being” state. It is the Now, it is sacred, and it is necessary….for all of us.

Peace and love my friends. May you find the state of “being,’ relaxed and rejuvenated by life’s simple moments. They are life’s greatest moments.  Mahalo….

40s Goddess    Veronica Crystal Young

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Nature’s Healing

I’ve written about nature and connection before but it bears repeating.  I’ve been remise in writing for about 65 days.  Life has gotten the better of me these last few months, but I will work to change that because I am the only one that can.  Time to get back to business.

As I sit by the fast moving river in Beaver Creek, Colorado, the water seems to be on a mission!  I can’ t help but be inspired to also move thru whatever health and life issues have set me in a downward spiral with barely the strength to meet the day sometimes.  The Aspens seem to “twinkle” with the sun’s warmth dancing on their vibrant green leaves, and it is a striking contract with the white bark and knotted tree trunk which seems to have eyes eyes that say “everything is going to be ok.”  Simple really, we should take a clue from nature always.

This trip to Colorado was about renewal for me. It was about taking back my power, reflecting on my choices and making a decision on a course of action.  Hiking, biking, rafting and experiencing nature’s beauty (and adventure) helped to calm the stress, focus my thoughts, and relax.  Something I hope the TV ArtScapes DVD series I have developed about “feeling” like nature is right outside your window, brings to whoever sees it.  We all have too much stress in our lives, we need to learn to acquiesce to calm.  Relax, renew, recharge in nature.  And you don’t need anyone else to do it either.

Every time I am in nature, every time, I feel great, inspired by it’s magnificence. I am reminded that we are all one, we are all here on this planet to contribute, to live, to love to share and finally return to mother earth and,  I believe, continue on our journey in some way.  Take a hike, ride a bike, visit the ocean or forest……nature’s healing awaits!

Peace, joy and adventure always,

40s goddess        Veronica Crystal Young

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Cougar Travel

What’s Important

As I reach another Birthday, I can’t help but think about ….what’s important.

Having been away from the hustle and bustle of work, city life for a week or so, it’s really easy to feel what is important, especially with this sunrise!

As I woke up at 5:30AM to pack up my camera & coffee, I started out praying the sun would cooperate with me this time and produce an amazing sight. As I drove thru the jungle and finally to the parking lot of the State Park, the sound of the pounding waves were unmistakable.  Four days past when the Tsunami was suppose to hit, mother nature was reeling. I grabbed my coffee and I could see in the distance the sun trying to peak out from behind grey clouds over a grey ocean.

The ground was made up of lava rocks and is covered in places with bright green; It is a beautiful contrast against the dark black rock.  As I neared the edge of the rock, the sun was barely creeping up in the horizon, the clouds had cleared a bit, and my heart was just soaring.  How can anyone be depressed, upset or sad around this? I actually cried a little at the stunning beauty.  It was breathtaking.  No one, I mean not a soul was around.   It was me and the ocean…..and the great creator.

I thought about my life, what had been joyful this past year, and what had been a challenge.  Those things I wish I could change, those things I needed to let go because I couldn’t change them, and I thought about what I wanted in my life. I have always been strong. I have always thought I knew what was important and what I wanted.  In this place……it was hard to think about “real” life.   At times I can find myself struggling with what I really want, with what’s important.  In this magical place, where you cannot help but feel magnificent calm and creative inspiration, I can see it very clearly.

Family. Love them and appreciate them with all your heart, for despite the trying times, and there will be some, they are your anchors to this life and to who you are.  Good or bad, they help shape you. Your parents and siblings helped shape your earliest thoughts and ideas about this world, yourself and others.  Your spouse helps you remember who you really are and shares your soul’s purpose. Your children help you re-examine life and how you see the world. Bless them, and tell them as often as possible, how much you love and care for them.  There is nothing as strong as family. (See Dad and Mom)

Friends. Love them and tell them often. Also forgive them, for there are times when they will disappoint or hurt you.  They are human, get over it. And know that true friends will always have your best interest at heart and will always protect and love you. (See “Friends” )

You. Love and forgive yourself, for there are times when you will disappoint and hurt yourself, times when you wish you could change the past.  Whatever you feel you did or did not do that caused any type of regret. You are human, get over it!  Life it too short. Despite our tradition of new year’s resolutions, the reality is, we have the opportunity daily to start over and renew our lives.

World Peace.  Enough said on that one.  I think you get it.

Bottom line  for what’s important – Love. Love for everyone and everything, no matter what is said, done or not done. No matter the circumstance, no matter the choices, the right choice and the only choice – is love.  That’s what’s important.  What a lovely world if everyone could just get this one thing.

It’s that simple….. and that hard.   Peace and Love my Friends….

40s Goddess  –  Veronica Crystal Young

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Expectations

ExpectationSuch a big word that holds so much meaning.  Happy, sad, miserable, or ecstatic.  Our emotions and moods can run the gamut, depending on what our expectations are in any given situation. 

 

Just look at the “real” reason you are upset or happy in any given situation.  Are you feeling badly about yourself or a situation? That usually comes down to an expectation not realized, either with yourself or with someone else.  If you are ecstatic, was your expectation much less then the reality of the situation?   

 

Painful as it may be, when I dig deep to look at certain choices that I’ve made, it’s my own expectations that have hurt me.  Was my expectation too high? Was the reality of achieving the goal to crazy or impossible?  Was it that I had set up a meeting, call, or trip and my expectations fell short of the reality?  Did someone follow-thru with what I thought would happen or totally floor me with the opposite response, good or bad?  Remember the “good and “bad” is just your perception.  That’s a whole other topic!

 

I guess the most important thing to remember is that we have the control to choose our expectations. Just like it is in our control to deal with our perceived negative repercussions of expectations not realized.  We can either, except responsibility for our actions and for having X expectations about the circumstances; or we can blame outcomes on someone or something else which is really, I think, a cop-out. 

 

My question is…..Why would you want to act like a victim?  Like something was done to you? How disempowering is that? Granted, there are times when you don’t have any control over a situation but it’s all in your handling, your reaction to the outcome where the “gold” of who you are really is. Because, let’s face it, how we show up in the world, our actions, our non-actions……are all reflections of who we really are.  It’s our choice to show up and handle things in which ever way is our true self.

 

And one more thing….I feel we must find the capacity for forgiveness, forgiveness for others, as well as ourselves.  That’s a big one.  If you feel you made a mistake, if you were hurt by someone or you hurt someone and you continually beat yourself up for it, what good could possibly come from that?  Life is too short….GET OVER IT! 

 

So I guess the best thing to have is no expectations at all.  This is difficult to say the least.  If we are not attached to an outcome and just allow the “flow of life” to happen……we could be pleasantly surprised.  Besides, most expectations are based on past experience and we all know that old adage “the past does not equal the future…..”  Except when it does.  (Did I actually say that after all this?)  Ok, I need to let it go and get over it!

 

Blessings and Happy Wishes for the Coming Year!

 

40s Goddess    Veronica Crystal Young   

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Patience

Hawaii Shoot -2008Hello Everyone!  I want to talk this week about something I find to be a great gift.  Patience.  Ok, I have to admit, it sometimes eludes me.  It can make you crazy, it can stifle action and effect your drive to succeed in a way that can suppress your passions. So here’s the thing.  When you become impatient, the main person effected  is YOU.  Your psyche, your blood pressure, your ability to be at peace.  Some would say resignation is a place where you can become truly patient, but I don’t think that’s true.  In my humble opinion, resignation implies no hope and sounds a bit like having a victim mentality. No hope? 
 
Acceptance is a term I’d rather use.  It’s much more powerful as it means you are making a conscious choice to be patient.  To accept that god/goddess, the universal energy , knows best how to deal with whatever you are being impatient about.   Trust that, my friends, remember that, and patience won’t be far behind. That to me, is a much stronger place to come from. 
Being patient with ourselves can be the hardest.  How many times has the frustration of impatience been an excuse for non-action in your life?  Building a business and all the decisions, work and effort going into that can sometimes take you to the “why bother” place……yes, the dreaded resignation.  How many times have you or others said “you need to be patient, ‘it’ doesn’t happen over night. ”  Well that’s true,  most of the time, but if that kind of thinking leads to non-action, it can start a vicious circle – lack of drive – more frustration – more impatience  – back to non-action.  This can only be self destruction and counter productive for any goal.  I know, I’ve been there.  Learning to accept where we are in the now and love the process…and trust.  A lot to ask, yes, but always know……It will happen as it should happen. That is for certain.
 
So, my friends, let’s see if we can go thru this week and try to exercise a little patience in our lives.  Of course, patience in dealing with co-workers, friends, family, etc.  But most of all, let’s give the gift of patience to ourselves.  It is an opportunity for growth and strength, as well as an opportunity to excerise  trust.   It’s your choice to be patient……..And remember that great saying?
“We could never learn to be brave and patient, if there were only joy in the world.” -Helen Keller
Live, Love….. and know you can exercise the Gift of Patience,         
-VCYoung, 40’s Goddess     
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