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Challenges

ChallengesChallenges are always at the root of growth. They can be issues that are work related, family, friends….maybe even our very thoughts on where we stand with religion, our country, and the state of the world.

I have always welcomed challenge, as it is an opportunity for personal growth. An opportunity to demonstrate who I really am as well as reflect on any choices I make and how they impact the world and others. Facing difficult situations is also a great time to evaluate what is really important in your life, what is worth your time and energy. If dealing with a stressful situation leaves you drained and unable to be yourself and who you truly are, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate your participation? If you decide to continue to engage the challenge, how might you take care of yourself in combating stress, fatigue, anger or depression?

Challenges are thrown up daily, and we can develop our own prescriptions to fight these burn-out symptoms, and help us master the art of “being.” I like to say “BE” stands for Beginning and End. Beginning and End occupy the same time, which is NOW. In order to just experience the NOW, we need to be present and not allow thoughts and worries about the past or future, about those “challenges” that might have derailed our stability.

I always try to make the time to go to a beach, a lake or take a walk in nature if life drains my psyche.   Reflection for me is so much easier away from the constant barrage of electronics and people. God’s rhythms of the ocean waves, a waterfall or the wind thru the trees in a forest always makes for a deep connection to “Be” and “Now”, not to mention a total recharge and reconnect for my mind.

So welcome challenges. Welcome them as wonderful chances to grow, reflect, make choices, be in the Now, and reflect who you truly are.   Beautiful and Love.

Love and Light Always,

Veronica Crystal Young   40s Goddess

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Life

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LIFE

Contemplate, self evaluate, make choices, weigh consequences, work hard, be kind to yourself and others, appreciate nature and all its gifts, take responsibility for your actions, respect others opinions, and love-love-love.

Create your life, Create your loves, Be who you really are. There is only one YOU.    May your New Year be filled with……… Life.

 

Some great quotes for the New Year:

“In the end, it’s not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how man moments took your breath away.” ― Shing Xiong

“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” ― Mae West

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” ― Oscar Wilde

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” ― George Bernard Shaw

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” ― Anne Frank

“Where there is love there is life.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

Enough said…

Veronica Crystal Young     -40s Goddess      www.tvartscapes.com

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New Years 2014

SO it’s New Years, Again!!!!  This year seemed to fly by as usual and it’s time to reassess our lives, figure out our goals for the coming year and remember all the “stuff” that happened this past year that made us laugh, made us cry and made us who we are. Some people only tend to focus on the good things that happened,  some only the bad.  I say look at everything, for “everything” is what shapes us and makes us grow. It helps to stay away from those “good-bad” labels  too.  I always feel if we can learn and grow from any circumstance, we are a better person for it. 

Awareness is always a first step into change for our future.  It allows us to see opportunities to change behaviors  and to be the person we want to be. How we deal with conflict, how we deal with adversity, how we react when someone hurts or angers us.  All these things can provide insight into who we are.  If we are willing to have an honest talk with ourselves and do some self examination, we can discover new strengths and change what we don’t like in ourselves and celebrate the awesomeness that  we do like.

Ask yourself if  you need to change any behaviors to handle situations differently.    Do you need to address others in any way, make amends or express your true feelings?  Be more proactive and decisive when it comes to uncomfortable situations? Work less to spend more time with family?  Work more to handle that large debt or curve spending habits?  Spend more time being thankful for what you have instead of wanting what you don’t have?  Tell those you love that you love them…everyday.   Reassess that relationship with “that” person – you know the one.  The one that never makes you feel good and always makes you doubt yourself,  keeps you walking on eggshells, is a total chore to be around because they are so draining?  Is it time to move on?  Do you need to be more kind, less judgmental? Do you need to take time away from everyone to chill and focus on you?

There are so many things to review in a year, but here is a great thing to do to help with the assessment.  Fill an empty Jar with all the things thathappen in the year.  Come New Years, pull all the notes out and review them.   It’s an awesome way to remember the year and I’m going to do this in 2014.  Thanks  Facebook friends for sharing this tidbit!

So in closing, I want to wish everyone a great New Year.  And remember, The start of a New Year is always a chance for new beginnings, but EVERY DAY is also a chance to start anew!  We hold our world in our hands…… it’s all in the handling of each situation and each moment. 

Peace, Love and Prosperity!  

Veronica Crystal Young, 40s Goddess

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ADVENTURE Push your limits

Fun, excitment, pushing limits……We all need it. At least that is what this writer thinks. 

Haven’t you ever seen extreme rock climbing, or bungee jumping, skydiving or ziplining and said, “Man, that looks fun but I could never do that!”

The morning started with anticipation and nervousness as we all gathered around the black harnesses laying on the floor.  Our instructors’ names were Amy and Robert, two young pups who had much fun pulling our legs and trying to add a little levity to the situation, as you could see the unspoken nervousness in some peoples eyes. “Anyone ever zipped before?”  Silence.  Instruction began and one of the main training points was how to slow down and brake.  Careful training ensued with step by step instructions about the importance of first looking up at the cable, and then placing your hand in the proper position to brake and have control of your speed.  Assessing your position from the treetop landing station and judging your pressure on the wire was very important.

There were several treetop reiteration of this instruction, especially when my best friend came hurling to a landing station full force without heeding Amy’s bird flapping arms indicating SLOW DOWN. 

Zipping across the forest tree-tops at 20-40 miles an hour with nothing but the clothes on your back really empowers you to feel like you have control over your destiny, because in this situation, you REALLY do.   If you do not brake correctly you could come up short at the end of the ZIP and have to pull your way into the treetop station. Brake to late and you could crash and burn.  Well, not really, because Amy and Robert are professionals and there are safeguards for that, but you get my meaning. 

I don’t know about you it seems to me most people, including me, get caught up in their everyday routines, and all the pressures of life, and we forget to take risks, forget to challenge ourselves, because frankly, we are too tired. Try to make a real effort to do something to challenge yourself, push your comfort zones.   Zip thru life with excitement and no fear.   If you must put on the brakes, do so smoothly with clear intention.  Take your time to assess all choices, consequences, and responsibilities to arrive at any and all destinations and goals.  We always have the choice and the power over our own destinies, even if, at times, it doesn’t feel like it.

Oh, and if you do try something, and you find that it is too overwhelming to handle for where you are today, remember you can always go back and try again. Sometimes when this happens I like to visualize before actually doing the “push my limits” exercise. Like skydiving.  Pretty intense. I thank God the clouds came in after flight school because I had to wait to jump.  I had a whole week to visualize jumping out of that plane, and it helped when it came time to take that leap.

We all really should try to do something at least once a month, definitely once a year, outside our comfort zone. Push yourself to reach the place of challenge and exhilaration because, believe me, it can change your perspective and have a positive impact on how you feel about yourself and your path. Just try it once.  Like the ad says….Just Do It!

You’ll be glad you did. And remember, “It is said, the man who lives without risk, does not live.”

Veronica Crystal Young    40s Goddess        www.tvartscapes.com

                            

New Years – Reflection and Self Discovery

Well it’s another New Years Eve. I always hear that it has come so fast!  And I’m usually the one saying it. It seems like we just had New Years Eve and that I built my vision board for 2012.  But here it is again.  Last year was not the best Holiday Season, at least for me. It wasn’t special, it wasn’t exciting, I didn’t even put up a tree!  This year was different. Amazing how life can change on a dime, isn’t it? 

 This Christmas was the best Christmas ever, at least that is this writer’s feeling.  This past year has brought both real heartache and true love……all in the same year.  I guess it’s lucky that way.  Balance is important and it is really heaven when we can achieve it amidst a harried and insecure world.

So on the agenda for the holidays was parties with good friends and meeting some new ones; shopping on Christmas Eve to feel the hustle and bustle of the holidays, and of course spending time with my Eric. My tree was the best one ever with butterflies, New Orleans style masks, glitter and every girls favorite, shoe ornaments! All these things made this the best Holiday ever! 

On the stressful side this season was Family and work drama.  Sometimes it seems this drama will never end and it’s a part of everyday living, but I believe it’s all in how you hande it. You can be aware of all the drama playing out, choose to acknowledge it and engage in the continuing saga, or be aware of it and decide if engaging in it is worth your time, effort and possible aggravation. Obviously some drama needs to be addressed, especially if it effects your work adversely or family happiness. Maybe sincere apologies need to be made, not only to diffuse the drama, but to mend hearts and families. Maybe a clarification of events or of a discussion that took place. Search your heart and soul and hear what your inner voice is telling you. Don’t be afraid to say you were in the wrong either. It’s not about being right or wrong. Life is all about growth and being real. You can’t be real if you can’t even admit you have faults and make mistakes. And if your soul searching reveals some self-discoveries that are less than pleasant, treat yourself and others, for that matter, with gentle thoughts, love and forgiveness.  It’s the only way……and besides It’s the New Year!   A time for reflection, renewal, and moving past obstacles that keep you from your Fabulous Self! 

So my friends, I will close by wishing all of you a safe, drama free, prosperous,  loving New Year. Enjoy the reflective New Years Eve in this, the remainder of 2012. The end of the world did not happen and I’m so glad because I have so much to do! Including finishing yet another TV ArtScapes DVD – HanaScapes and MountainScapes!

Love, Light and Happiness People.  Live it, Spread it,  Be it.
The world needs it.

Veronia Crystal Young   40s Goddess    www.tvartscapes.com   

Courage

 This 4th of July holds a special significance for me. We all know what courage and resolve our forefathers needed to forge a new world order.   This year I have seen courage in some close friends and family, and I, too, have had to muster up a healthy dose. 

Courage. It’s not easy.
  
In this world where technology is increasingly replacing human connection, where jobs are sparse and tempers are high, and where psychological and physical abuse continues to create self-doubt, pain, and fear, Courage is necessary. 

*Necessary to really face ourselves, our faults and shortcomings. To be daring and place ourselves out in the world; vulnerable to hurt, failure, or fear of the unknown, or fear of repeating the past.
*Necessary to express who we really are.
*Necessary to be there for others in hard times.
*Necessary to speak up for our truths and our opinions. To have a voice and to know we count. Remembering that every person matters and is entitled to their opinion or truth, and no one is more important than another.

Courage is the nerve to speak up and act on our dreams, or tell our truths even in the face of all our fears.  Fear of not being accepted, being rejected, failing…I’m sure you can fill in whatever fear it is that keeps you from being all you can be; speaking your truth or living your life fully.  

It’s not easy.  My last post was about being open.  Being courageous is going one more step and having the guts to place yourself in situations that are hard and that have scary consequences, at least “perceived” scary consequences.   And we tend to be swayed by our expectation of those scary consequences.  But here’s the deal….  

Remember that the past does not equal the future, and NOW is the only true time. If we can remember this in every circumstance, and have faith that the universal Mother/Father/God will present what is best and next for us on this road called Life, then we will always have Courage. Our job then becomes the ability to see the path presented and find the choices that are true to who we are and who we want to be.  Trust your intuition on that path. It is the breathe of the Universe.

So this 4th of July, remember courage. Have the courage to speak up and have your voice heard. The courage to face a difficult task or help a friend or family member with a hard choice or situation. The courage to be vulnerable in the world. The courage to be 100% who you really are and find peace, happiness, freedom……..and love.  Your heart will know, trust it.  I do.  It is the greatest gift to ourselves we can give.

Live life, People!  With Love…….. and with COURAGE.

Veronica Crystal Young     -40s Goddess

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Rain – Its Healing Powers

The healing and life giving property of water.  We need it, and it usually brings all sorts of feelings and emotions when it comes.  Some people have mood swings when it rains.  Some curl up with a good book, some light a fireplace and spend time with a loved one, others work at home or shop or just simply enjoy it.

Regardless of how you feel about the rain, it will always come…eventually, giving the healing and life sustaining water that mother earth needs. Water is an amazing gift, and being a Pisces, It is one of my favorite things in life, in any form. 

Oceans, lakes, streams….the rain. It is a reminder to me about flow, about allowing what is, and it always instills in me a personal strength and inspiration. I can’t help but be inspired when I sit at the bottom of a powerful waterfall or on the cliffs overlooking a tempestuous sea.

No matter how you feel about the rain, try to use it as a time to reflect.  A time to check in with your soul and replenish your own personal strength and examine your beliefs.  Is there anything you need to nurture in yourself that you have not been paying attention too? Do you need to take a day and appreciate what you have instead of what you don’t have? Take a breather from the constant “do-do-do” of life and decide how to honor yourself.  Re-evaluate anything that is not serving you. Today is just as good a day to do it. And when the sun finally comes out, it is a reminder to us that there is always sunshine after the storm. Always another day to start anew, always a great light that will shine both in you and from you, when you are honoring who you are and your magnificence.  Because, my dears, you are truly that magnificent.

Take your cue from the rain, and nurture that which is ”you”.
Growth will occur, and your light will shine…. Always.  

Love and Light this fine rainy Day!!

 Veronica Crystal Young   -40s Goddess
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Integrity

Ok, so it was time to re-evaluate a few priorities again.  Yes. It’s a constant struggle, this thing called life.  Always encountering situations where we can continue to create who we are.

Sometimes on this journey, we encounter situations that test our integrity.   What do we believe, who are we, what do we want to project.  Do we compromise what we know is right even just for a little while because, well, we just “need to?” Do we have something to prove or does our mind go a mile a minute rationalizing the situation? We women are good at that. Do we take care of ourselves or someone else at the cost of our own integrity?  Do we have something we did that we are not proud of and that we beat ourselves up for?

Here’s a news flash.  Everyone does.  Cut your self a break!  As women, we evaluate, questions, evaluate again, dissect a situation to death! Why this, why that, what did I do to bring this on, and even “What was I thinking!”

All we have to remember, at any time, in any situation, is who we are and what we want to be is defined by our actions.  That really is it.  And if we stumble, if we fall, if we experience a “What the hell did I do” moment, it’s ok.  Make amends and apologies if it’s needed, and forgive yourself….for being human, having a lapse in judgement or for losing yourself for the moment, and move on with your fantastic, wonderful life. Because it is! Believe that too, and if you don’t, well that’s another subject all together.  “What do you need to be happy.”

Integrity.  It is what we believe and how we act based on those beliefs.  Make no mistake.  Actions speak louder than words and if you are not acting in alignment with your beliefs or words, you might need to evaluate what you really do believe, or who you really are.  And people, that can be a painful realization sometimes.  But not one that can’t be changed. That’s what life is all about, the journey…constant change….evaluation of self, connection and Love …always love.   At least that is what this writer believes.  Besides, How boring would life be without challenges, change and growth?

So as I sit by the pool in beautiful Palm Springs, (yes, I have to brag) I am grateful for everything and everyone in my life.  My family and friends fill me with love and I am blessed for it.  My work (All of the various hats I wear) fulfills me. My work relationships can be challenging, but I would have it no other way for it helps me grow. And I thank mother/father/god for my life, my experiences and the lessons that move me closer to oneness, for truly, we are all one.  Blessed be,,…

GO AND GET IT!  Whatever it is!

Veronica Crystal Young                 www.tvartscapes.com

Permission

Sitting here watching the sailboats go out of the marina, the sun trying to crack thru the haze, I see birds flocking around the empty tables looking for any morsel of nourishment they can find.  Peaceful when no one is around, but I know soon it will be bustling with people, adults and kids alike, taking advantage of the beautiful holiday weekend.

Yes, I’m not working today.  I had to sit down with myself yesterday and have a serious talk.  I have been running myself into the ground with work certifications, extra curricular activities and my businesses at home with no time for myself at all.  Looking in the mirror lately is just scary!  So I set some time aside to clean the house, it was such a mess.  When I was done I took a long, hot bath, went to bed early and promised myself that I had to take care of having a day off at least once a week.

Now unless you know me, you do not know how hard that is to do!  I always feel like I have to be doing something, especially for my businesses.  A very good and wise friend asked me, “Who has set the deadline on anything for your businesses?”  I had to stop and say, well me.  Why am I doing this to myself.  It is just crazy.

I told myself, well there ARE reasons.  I have to make sure I write the blog at least monthly, I have to do a News show at least monthly, I have to get the new Website up, I have to actually finish the 3 DVDs in post-production for TV ArtScapes…..and of course, I have to go to my regular work 50 hours a week!  Man, I need to get a life, I thought.

Another very good friend of mine came to my rescue a few weeks ago when I was in meltdown mode.  He said, you know, if you put all that energy into the film you want to make, you’d have it done in a year.  I thought, about it, and you know, he is so right. But would putting all my other projects on hold for a year feel like I failed? I thought it might but again, there is really no timeline but the one I have set.  And my pursuits and energy, while very diverse, have allowed me to realize and create many of my dream projects, but having limited time, exhausts me for sure!

So it’s all about permission.  Giving yourself permission to take the road and path you feel the most strongly about.  Make the decision and have laser focus on that path.  You will accomplish what you need to do, or if you don’t, you may found out you want to change that path or at least find out what NOT to do on the way to that goal.

So give yourself permission to have laser focus.  If you have other pursuits, don’t feel like you have failed, they are “on hold” for now.  While you go after your dream, and experience life to the fullest!  Blessing to all, and my you live life to the fullest!

Love and Light Always!

Veronica Crystal Young

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What Do You Need To Be Happy

What do you need to be happy? This is a hard question sometimes and one I have been asking myself again lately.  Why now, you may ask?  Well, I do this about every two years, evaluate what I really want, why I want it, can I get it, and again why I want it. I think it is important to ask yourself why you want it the most because sometimes what you think you want, when it comes right down to it, you really don’t. You like the romance of it maybe, the glamour of it, the fact that it feeds your Mr. Ego man, “Fred, living in your head” maybe, but do you really want all that this choice entails?

Is it the fact that you choose something that seems unreachable or that you can never have which just points out a useless impulse to go after something unattainable. Are you constantly trying to find that perfect job, perfect partner, perfect vacation, perfect friend, perfect life? What about where you are now?  What about who is here now, the job you have now, the friends you have now, your home now? What needs to change to make you feel that you are truly happy and have it all the way you truly want it.  Well, I’ll tell you what needs to change.  YOU.

You need to change.  It’s all in your attitude and in your choice in how you choose to look at it. I’m not saying that seeking a better life, having goals and reaching for those dreams is not important, I’m just saying being miserable with your life or incomplete for being where you are in life journey is just useless and an excuse.

Choose to be happy and thankful with where you are. Make changes in your life if you want to allow the universe to present different options for you. Believe me, She will.

What’s next on your journey called life to excite, challenge, create, & love.  I don’t know about you but I want life to be an adventure, one that I live every day, (or at least on the weekends!) I can’t be bothered with those who mull thru life day after day with no purpose, challenges, passions or dreams.  To be honest, I cannot even imagine it.  How can you relate to that for goodness sakes?  It’s boring, it’s safe….. it’s time to shake it up people!  Ok, ok, I realize I’m on my soap box about passion and dreams again, and yes I have some goals I still pursue.  Keeps me active….and tired!  But I can’t go thru life waiting for the next vacation or the next relationship or the next day to do what I want.  I need to do it now, waiting is not an option when it comes to happiness.

And another thing about waiting. Clean out that closet, unclutter your life, simplify.  There is no time like the present!  You will be amazed at how this opens up your space for change both physically and mentally.

I have been blessed with 2 lives, one creative that feeds my passions and soul, and one “practical” that feeds me, literally.  And recently I just came back from beautiful Vail, Colorado shooting another title in the TV ArtScapes series. “MountainScapes.” Gorgeous rivers, waterfalls and mountains. Every time I visit nature and these beautiful places, I am inspired yet again to live each day to the fullest, to appreciate and love where I am now and who I am now.   How about you?  What are you waiting for…yet again?

Blessings and Love always,

40s Goddess      Veronica Crystal Young www.tvartscapes.com