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Challenges

ChallengesChallenges are always at the root of growth. They can be issues that are work related, family, friends….maybe even our very thoughts on where we stand with religion, our country, and the state of the world.

I have always welcomed challenge, as it is an opportunity for personal growth. An opportunity to demonstrate who I really am as well as reflect on any choices I make and how they impact the world and others. Facing difficult situations is also a great time to evaluate what is really important in your life, what is worth your time and energy. If dealing with a stressful situation leaves you drained and unable to be yourself and who you truly are, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate your participation? If you decide to continue to engage the challenge, how might you take care of yourself in combating stress, fatigue, anger or depression?

Challenges are thrown up daily, and we can develop our own prescriptions to fight these burn-out symptoms, and help us master the art of “being.” I like to say “BE” stands for Beginning and End. Beginning and End occupy the same time, which is NOW. In order to just experience the NOW, we need to be present and not allow thoughts and worries about the past or future, about those “challenges” that might have derailed our stability.

I always try to make the time to go to a beach, a lake or take a walk in nature if life drains my psyche.   Reflection for me is so much easier away from the constant barrage of electronics and people. God’s rhythms of the ocean waves, a waterfall or the wind thru the trees in a forest always makes for a deep connection to “Be” and “Now”, not to mention a total recharge and reconnect for my mind.

So welcome challenges. Welcome them as wonderful chances to grow, reflect, make choices, be in the Now, and reflect who you truly are.   Beautiful and Love.

Love and Light Always,

Veronica Crystal Young   40s Goddess

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Remember

SO it’s been several month’s since my last post, and I thought with the Holidays upon us, it was time to do one before the year runs out.

Where do I Start? The past year has been a year of stress, love, no time, performances and best friends.  Work has been unbearably busy with major changes for both my team and vendors, the love of my life continues to amaze me, the time I have to do what I want and need seems non-existent, we have started to get paying gigs for our country music, and we made many new fabulous friends. Why I titled this entry “remember”, is I have been feeling so blessed and happy, yet really frustrated at the same time.  You know how sometimes you get so tired of all life’s challenges and so called growth opportunities?  How you have a great day and something or someone just comes along and screws that good “high” up.  Life…….sometimes it’s a real downer.

When it gets to this point for me, When life’s challenges and choice’s become overwhelming, I turn to Mother-Father- God, ………and remember the good things.

  • If you have a Job, Remember – you are fortunate to have a job, there are so many that don’t.
  • Remember – that one person can’t effect your happiness and joy……. unless you let them.
  • Remember – that every situation has a choice, and you have the power to choose…..always.  and It is in that choice that you define who you really are.  
  • Remember – that friends and family are precious……never take them for granted.  
  • Remember –  to stop and appreciate the day and time you have…..you will never get this moment back.
  • Remember to say “I really appreciate you” to those you depend on and who are always there for you. 
  • Remember to say “I love you”……. And often.  

So to begin the Holiday Season…..Remember, and be thankful for what you have, be thankful for who you love and appreciate, and for having another day in this crazy, wonderful life.  

Peace. Love. Happiness.

 Veronica Crystal Young                 TVArtscapes.com

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Choose Love

I sat on the edge of the Grand Canyon. The snow was so white, and it glistened as it lay next to the red and orange rock that made up a frightening drop off a cliff. The snow had stopped just hours before and the clouds, light from the release, looked like cotton in the sky, and they threw eerie shadows over this great wonder of the world.  The wind was cold and it whipped thru the Canyon, as if to announce, “I can whip thru the open air  and I can go wherever I want; over your Cliffs, thru your trees, down ravines.”  It didn’t care if there were walls and cliffs a mile deep, it found it’s way to the bottom and back up again, sometimes with such force it knocked over weak signs and old tree trunks that had the life taken from them, except for the snakes and critters that might call them home.

 

What a place.  I seem so small compared to this great Canyon, a beauty of mother earth that has been a place of wonder and astonishment for centuries.  Being here, any worries or supposed hardships in my life, any doubts, any negativity or hurt seems to melt away.  There is only Love, love of this place called Earth and its’ mysteries, love of the people I see here, love for myself; feelings of awe, blessings, and peace.  How I wish everyone could experience it. To open your heart and feel love all around and feel so full.  I tell you it is the best medicine on earth!

I am so happy and fortunate to have my friends, my work, my family….my life.  We all have hardships, to varying degrees. But no matter where our paths have taken us, we always have the power and the choice to love.  Never forget that.  You don’t have to be in a wonderful, inspiring place to feel and experience the love, all you have to do is chose it. It’s there, believe me.

This Holiday season, remember to sprinkle each day with love.  No matter where you are, no matter what time, what place, what people you are with, always remember to open your heart to Love.  Be thankful for what you have and who you are.  And know that you are loved too.

Peace and Love to you my friends, always…..

40’s Goddess     Veronica Crystal Young

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What’s Important

As I reach another Birthday, I can’t help but think about ….what’s important.

Having been away from the hustle and bustle of work, city life for a week or so, it’s really easy to feel what is important, especially with this sunrise!

As I woke up at 5:30AM to pack up my camera & coffee, I started out praying the sun would cooperate with me this time and produce an amazing sight. As I drove thru the jungle and finally to the parking lot of the State Park, the sound of the pounding waves were unmistakable.  Four days past when the Tsunami was suppose to hit, mother nature was reeling. I grabbed my coffee and I could see in the distance the sun trying to peak out from behind grey clouds over a grey ocean.

The ground was made up of lava rocks and is covered in places with bright green; It is a beautiful contrast against the dark black rock.  As I neared the edge of the rock, the sun was barely creeping up in the horizon, the clouds had cleared a bit, and my heart was just soaring.  How can anyone be depressed, upset or sad around this? I actually cried a little at the stunning beauty.  It was breathtaking.  No one, I mean not a soul was around.   It was me and the ocean…..and the great creator.

I thought about my life, what had been joyful this past year, and what had been a challenge.  Those things I wish I could change, those things I needed to let go because I couldn’t change them, and I thought about what I wanted in my life. I have always been strong. I have always thought I knew what was important and what I wanted.  In this place……it was hard to think about “real” life.   At times I can find myself struggling with what I really want, with what’s important.  In this magical place, where you cannot help but feel magnificent calm and creative inspiration, I can see it very clearly.

Family. Love them and appreciate them with all your heart, for despite the trying times, and there will be some, they are your anchors to this life and to who you are.  Good or bad, they help shape you. Your parents and siblings helped shape your earliest thoughts and ideas about this world, yourself and others.  Your spouse helps you remember who you really are and shares your soul’s purpose. Your children help you re-examine life and how you see the world. Bless them, and tell them as often as possible, how much you love and care for them.  There is nothing as strong as family. (See Dad and Mom)

Friends. Love them and tell them often. Also forgive them, for there are times when they will disappoint or hurt you.  They are human, get over it. And know that true friends will always have your best interest at heart and will always protect and love you. (See “Friends” )

You. Love and forgive yourself, for there are times when you will disappoint and hurt yourself, times when you wish you could change the past.  Whatever you feel you did or did not do that caused any type of regret. You are human, get over it!  Life it too short. Despite our tradition of new year’s resolutions, the reality is, we have the opportunity daily to start over and renew our lives.

World Peace.  Enough said on that one.  I think you get it.

Bottom line  for what’s important – Love. Love for everyone and everything, no matter what is said, done or not done. No matter the circumstance, no matter the choices, the right choice and the only choice – is love.  That’s what’s important.  What a lovely world if everyone could just get this one thing.

It’s that simple….. and that hard.   Peace and Love my Friends….

40s Goddess  –  Veronica Crystal Young

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Friends

I can’t believe how fast this year has flown by.  Last year I was spending my holiday here in Sedona and here I am again, enjoying the red rocks, peace and serenity of mother nature.  I’m traveling a little further to the Grand Canyon in a few days so that will be a brand new adventure!  But I digress, I wanted to talk about Friends for the Holidays…. so here it is.

Friends…so great to have friends that you can talk to about anything without being judged, friends that you can trust to be there for you no matter what, friends that keep you real and won’t let you get away with being stupid or inappropriate. Friends who will keep your secrets in confidence and tell you like it is even though it may hurt.  It’s hard to find….. Having true friends is a treasure and we should never take it for granted.

Sometimes we may make mistakes, sometimes they will make mistakes, each of us acting less than our wonderful selves from pressures at home, at work…or just because we have some fear leading us in the wrong direction.  But owning up to our mistakes, taking responsibility for our actions and expressing any apologies needed is a start to getting things back on track. True friendship is golden and having true friends is the richest thing in the world.

I have groups of friends as we probably all do. Personal friends, work friends, comedy friends, professional-creative friends and a group of Goddess Friends.  There is some cross over but each group of friends is distinct and I can be a little different in each circle.  I know I am pretty quiet in the comedy group of friends as I’m a bit intimidated by all the wonderful talent!  I am very outspoken with my group of Goddess friends and personal friends, and the work and entertainment friend’s groups’ are a little more “political.”  Political meaning there are “correct” ways to act and interact.  I hate that but hey, that’s life right?  Honesty, integrity, fairness is the key to all interactions, no matter the group.  Trying to actually live that amongst all the personalities, political pulls and human nature is sometimes pretty challenging, especially when in a Management position. If I hold onto those 3 things, I’m doing good!

So I want to acknowledge a few groups of my friends.

Mary and Fred Willard’s Sketch comedy class friends – You inspire me.  You remind me not to take myself too seriously, and that there is joy and laughter in everything, even the tough times.

Cedars-Sinai Medical Center work friends – You inspire me.  You keep me grounded, fulfilled, and real….knowing that we are helping people and fellow staff……working thru some tough system hurdles together and figuring it all out, because that’s what we do!

Crystal Eyes Entertainment friends – You inspire me.  You give me such joy! You bring out the creative juices in me for “The Cougar News©” or “TV ArtScapes®.”  Thank you for sharing your talent and creativity.

Goddess friends – You inspire me.  You are my best friends, my chosen sisters. I feel loved and blessed to have you in my life. …thank you for being my family.

So who do you count as your friends?  Have you told them lately that you are happy and blessed to have them in your life?  The holidays are a perfect time for that.  So what are you waiting for?   It’s almost 2012!   (Ok, it’s only a movie!)

Lots O’Love people!

40s Goddess
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Dad

Dad

As Father’s day came around again, last week I find I want to write about that days subject –  Dad’s.

We all have one. When we are little, they seem to be larger than life. This can be positive or negative, depending on your Dad, of course.  As a girl, you know and trust that Dad will protect and provide for you.  I can only assume it is the same for boys.

We get a lot from our parents.  How relationships work, how they don’t.  How to trust or not trust, how to love, how to hate.  Being a parent is a hugh responsibility.  Some people are meant to be parents, some not.  No matter which type of parent you think you are or will become, know that you have a great impact on the little ones that depend on you every day.

My Dad was very dedicated to us when we were young.  He worked 2 jobs and my mother was able to stay at home, which was a great thing.  When we four kids grew older, around 10-15, he took a job with the post office which is where he retired.  We always took great vacations – camping, boating, going to other states and national parks. It was a blast and those are times I will always cherish.

My dad was also “the enforcer.”  You know that line, “wait till your father gets home,” well we heard it a lot.  Or maybe it was just something us kids understood without the actual words being said.  We knew if we were giving mom grief or we were fighting a little too much, that we would be in trouble when Dad got home, so we were basically “scared” into being good kids.  I guess that’s the point, right?

Around my 7th or 8th grade year my Father changed. Maybe it was the fact that my two older brothers were at those difficult teenage years.  Maybe it was because his own memories of this teenage years came back to him (Whatever that was) and he couldn’t disconnect from the anger, hurt , guilt or abuse from his own past.  I don’t know.  Towards me he became more controlling and became physically abusive.  Towards my brothers he just became mean and we all suffered his psychological abuse.  No matter the reason, It happened and it is a part of my past and who I am. It always will be.  But the past is the past, and it is imprtant to understand and that.

As you grow older, the larger than life persona that was Dad fades away as we come to realize he is just  a man, just a human being like everyone else.  He has his faults, flaws, hang-ups…just like the rest of us.  There comes a time in every adult’s life where we can either blame our parents for the way our lives turned out, or we can forgive and move on to the reach the other side…to individuality, strength, self-worth and love.  It’s a much better road, I assure you.

I forgave my Dad along time ago.  He sits in a Alzheimer’s home currently.  He has forgotten the life of abuse he inflicted. It’s convenient I guess.  His guilt is also forgotten and he spends his time in “no time” with “no body.”  He lost his entire family due to his inability to search his soul, face himself and his demons and do what is right with the responsibility of raising a family.

I used to be sad on Father’s Day.  But now, I just remember the good man, the man I knew he was before whatever latched onto him that took him to dark places that he did not have the strength to battle.  Before he lost site of Love and of himself.

I forgive you Dad.  I love the man you once were…..and I miss him.I hope you find peace, I know I have.

So as Father’s day passes again, remember your Dad.   The good, the bad, the struggles, the joys…and bless the man that helped create the wonderful, strong, beautiful person that is YOU.

Love and Light always my friends,

Veronica Crystal Young –   40s Goddess

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Mom

Moms – So much to teach us….. and we have much to teach them.   As I fly up to be with mom for a few days, I have time to reflect on how we have communicated, loved, fought, learned and grew.   She has contributed to my personality, my fears, my dreams, and my values.  I would like to think I have influenced hers.

Growing up in her full-time love, devotion and caretaking was a luxury I feel most children and families these days do not enjoy.   Most families have working parents and I feel very fortunate to have had a full-time parent able to stay at home.   Not that there weren’t things she could have done differently…. meaning better, in my humble “non-parenting” opinion.  Hey, I can have an opinion on my own life!  But believe me, I don’t know how she did it!

Four small children by the time she was 25 and in a strange new county where she was leaning the language and the customs.  It’s all I can do to manage my own life let alone think about all that was involved with raising that many small children, not to mention learning a new country and language (which she did since she was in America I might add!).  Yes, I have a problem with people living here for years and never learning the language, Sorry.  But I digress…..

Shaping four little people’s minds and hearts is a tall order!  I learned quite a few things from my mother; Responsibility to family and friends, Appreciation for the beauty in nature, Unconditional love, Patience and Forgiveness.  All invaluable lessons for a successful life.

I would like to think that I have helped her realize a few things. Live in the moment and don’t worry so much…about everything!  Things will happen in their time and some things we do not have any control over.  Acceptance for what life brings.  We need to Trust in ourselves and what we want.  And lastly, It’s OK to toot your own horn every once in awhile….cause we are all fabulous!!!!!

Eventually it will be time for our roles to reverse.  The caretaking, responsibility and unconditional love she showed me returned with my adoration, respect and express thanks for a job well done.  Thanks Mom!   I love you, and be at peace knowing you have a Fabulous Daughter!!!!!

Tell your Mom you love her today.  And if she is no longer here, remember what she gave you.  LIFE, for one thing!

VCYoung   40sGoddess