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ADVENTURE Push your limits

Fun, excitment, pushing limits……We all need it. At least that is what this writer thinks. 

Haven’t you ever seen extreme rock climbing, or bungee jumping, skydiving or ziplining and said, “Man, that looks fun but I could never do that!”

The morning started with anticipation and nervousness as we all gathered around the black harnesses laying on the floor.  Our instructors’ names were Amy and Robert, two young pups who had much fun pulling our legs and trying to add a little levity to the situation, as you could see the unspoken nervousness in some peoples eyes. “Anyone ever zipped before?”  Silence.  Instruction began and one of the main training points was how to slow down and brake.  Careful training ensued with step by step instructions about the importance of first looking up at the cable, and then placing your hand in the proper position to brake and have control of your speed.  Assessing your position from the treetop landing station and judging your pressure on the wire was very important.

There were several treetop reiteration of this instruction, especially when my best friend came hurling to a landing station full force without heeding Amy’s bird flapping arms indicating SLOW DOWN. 

Zipping across the forest tree-tops at 20-40 miles an hour with nothing but the clothes on your back really empowers you to feel like you have control over your destiny, because in this situation, you REALLY do.   If you do not brake correctly you could come up short at the end of the ZIP and have to pull your way into the treetop station. Brake to late and you could crash and burn.  Well, not really, because Amy and Robert are professionals and there are safeguards for that, but you get my meaning. 

I don’t know about you it seems to me most people, including me, get caught up in their everyday routines, and all the pressures of life, and we forget to take risks, forget to challenge ourselves, because frankly, we are too tired. Try to make a real effort to do something to challenge yourself, push your comfort zones.   Zip thru life with excitement and no fear.   If you must put on the brakes, do so smoothly with clear intention.  Take your time to assess all choices, consequences, and responsibilities to arrive at any and all destinations and goals.  We always have the choice and the power over our own destinies, even if, at times, it doesn’t feel like it.

Oh, and if you do try something, and you find that it is too overwhelming to handle for where you are today, remember you can always go back and try again. Sometimes when this happens I like to visualize before actually doing the “push my limits” exercise. Like skydiving.  Pretty intense. I thank God the clouds came in after flight school because I had to wait to jump.  I had a whole week to visualize jumping out of that plane, and it helped when it came time to take that leap.

We all really should try to do something at least once a month, definitely once a year, outside our comfort zone. Push yourself to reach the place of challenge and exhilaration because, believe me, it can change your perspective and have a positive impact on how you feel about yourself and your path. Just try it once.  Like the ad says….Just Do It!

You’ll be glad you did. And remember, “It is said, the man who lives without risk, does not live.”

Veronica Crystal Young    40s Goddess        www.tvartscapes.com

                            

Courage

 This 4th of July holds a special significance for me. We all know what courage and resolve our forefathers needed to forge a new world order.   This year I have seen courage in some close friends and family, and I, too, have had to muster up a healthy dose. 

Courage. It’s not easy.
  
In this world where technology is increasingly replacing human connection, where jobs are sparse and tempers are high, and where psychological and physical abuse continues to create self-doubt, pain, and fear, Courage is necessary. 

*Necessary to really face ourselves, our faults and shortcomings. To be daring and place ourselves out in the world; vulnerable to hurt, failure, or fear of the unknown, or fear of repeating the past.
*Necessary to express who we really are.
*Necessary to be there for others in hard times.
*Necessary to speak up for our truths and our opinions. To have a voice and to know we count. Remembering that every person matters and is entitled to their opinion or truth, and no one is more important than another.

Courage is the nerve to speak up and act on our dreams, or tell our truths even in the face of all our fears.  Fear of not being accepted, being rejected, failing…I’m sure you can fill in whatever fear it is that keeps you from being all you can be; speaking your truth or living your life fully.  

It’s not easy.  My last post was about being open.  Being courageous is going one more step and having the guts to place yourself in situations that are hard and that have scary consequences, at least “perceived” scary consequences.   And we tend to be swayed by our expectation of those scary consequences.  But here’s the deal….  

Remember that the past does not equal the future, and NOW is the only true time. If we can remember this in every circumstance, and have faith that the universal Mother/Father/God will present what is best and next for us on this road called Life, then we will always have Courage. Our job then becomes the ability to see the path presented and find the choices that are true to who we are and who we want to be.  Trust your intuition on that path. It is the breathe of the Universe.

So this 4th of July, remember courage. Have the courage to speak up and have your voice heard. The courage to face a difficult task or help a friend or family member with a hard choice or situation. The courage to be vulnerable in the world. The courage to be 100% who you really are and find peace, happiness, freedom……..and love.  Your heart will know, trust it.  I do.  It is the greatest gift to ourselves we can give.

Live life, People!  With Love…….. and with COURAGE.

Veronica Crystal Young     -40s Goddess

www.tvartscapes.com       

 

Open

Last weekend I attended a retreat at the the beautiful Glen Ivy Hot Springs Resort and Spa. It was an inspirational place, and I loved it that my room was right next to a stream and waterfall for early morning walks.

The weekend started with a lovely gathering in the main lodge. The theme for the weekend was “love.” Well let’s face it, you can’t get a better topic or a more inspiring focus then that.

The women were from all over, from as far as New York and Canada. We all chose what aspect of love we wanted to focus on for the weekend, and we placed a symbol of that focus on the gold, fabric draped steps of the great room. I thought about what I brought as a symbol of love, and I knew immediately what my focus had to be.

In my hands was a stone shaped heart. I bought it in Sedona, one of the gorgeous places I love to go for reflection and renewal, and it seemed to have all the qualities of love. It had sections to it, lighter sections that seemed to be held together with darker strands of gold. To me the lighter sections symbolized the “pieces” of love, all the emotions and circumstances we encounter like passion, fear, doubt, acceptance, honesty, trust, hurt, compromise….and many more. The dark gold stand symbolized how a relationship is always held together with the power of love. BUT, the best thing about my heart rock was the center. It opened up to reveal dazzling, brilliant, crystals and that is where I found my inspiration for my focus that weekend.

Openness. As I held the heart rock in my hand, I was reminded that being open to love, being open to receive and being open to give, THAT is where the brilliance is. “Open” can be hard as we encounter life’s challenges, as we are hurt by the words and deeds of others, as we navigate our own doubts and build walls of protection and fear. Sometimes our own actions can derail us and we find it difficult to forgive ourselves. But if we open our hearts to the oneness in this world, to the magnificence of every living thing and every other person, we will know and experience love. A love of no judgement, no conditions and a love that includes love of ourselves, because how can there be magnificence in this world and not have it include you? We are all one. I can’t tell you how walking anywhere with a conscious openness can change your life. Peace, joy, a feeling of belonging and that you are never alone. Pretty awesome when we can remember to approach everything in life this way and make a conscious choice to remain open.

I have my stone heart sitting on my nightstand so as I wake up every morning I can remember to be “open” to life’s great treasures; in nature, in people, in the challenges of circumstance. Joy, peace, happiness and love is yours, be open to it.

The brilliance of open …….is magic. May you find it and keep it, for being open is Love.

Veronica Crystal Young    40sGoddess-

www.tvartscapes.com   

Hope

So people, some things have happened in my life to bring up the subject of Hope.  Family struggles,  friends doubting themselves or life’s path, and me, struggling with some “Hope” issues of my own. 

 Hope is a very powerful thing.  It can get you thru each day when the days are filled with hardship, both emotionally and physically.  It is sometimes hard to find when the days are looking dark, you are feeling quite alone and you can’t seem to grasp any energy and picture your life in a positive light.   Here are some things that I do to turn that darkness into light.

 1)      Be still and thank the universe (This is the “God” of your faith).  Give thanks and gratitude for living, for this wonderful school of life, for this wonderful experience called “human,” flaws and all.  Truly think about all that is you, all that you have accomplished. If you feel like you have not accomplished anything, just look at the fact that you are a powerful, beautiful being.  One that has choices and control over what to create in this life.  Choice is truly a gift.  Being thankful and recognizing the gifts you have in your life, is the first step to Hope.

 2)      Get clear on what you “think” you need.  I only put it that way because sometimes what we think we need is so far from the truth.  State what this is in clear, concise sentences.  Even better to write it down because action has power and moves energy.  And always say, “I humbly request, this, or in your infinite wisdom, something better.”  This is because the universe knows exactly what we need, even though it doesn’t feel like it sometimes!

 3)      Ask the universe to provide direction for you.  Mother/Father God is very good at putting up sign posts and synchronicities in your life to point you in the right direction. It is up to us to recognize them and act.

 4)      Trust yourself when taking action…. Or no action.  I say this because sign posts and directions sometimes point to “wait.”  This can be really hard, especially for those of us who are used to action, action, and more action.  Yes, I am guilty of this, but I’ve come to realize the wisdom of doing nothing in certain situations.  No action is really an action, it is the action of wait till I receive better information, or wait because it looks like a current path is harmful to you or others.  And try not to confuse a “no action” feeling with fear of action.  This too is difficult, but if you really look at what actions are speaking to you, it should be obvious which ones are tied to fear.  Over coming that fear might be the right road.  Only you can get to the heart of that one.

 5)      One day at a time.  If you constantly look at your life in terms of past and future, you will set yourself up.  Now this is fine if your entire life has been bliss.  But hardship and pain has a way of latching onto us, living in our bodies and our souls, and cropping up as fear for future and present situations.  It’s called being Human!  Remember the past does not necessarily equal the future, and no one can predict the future.  NOW is the only way to live.  Don’t miss it by being depressed, fearful and preoccupied with “what if.” Take today for today, live life to the fullest, because TODAY is a sure thing.

 6)      Lastly, know that the universe and the energy that drives her, does not wish anything but love and the best for us. She wants us to be loved and to love…. to be creative and powerful beings, free to chose our destiny’s.  I know because I feel that love and supportive energy every day.  I see it in the beauty and balance of nature;  I see it the faces of children;  I see it when I experience a kind gesture from someone; I see it in the little miracles that happen when you least expect it.  

 Hope….. it is a blessed virtue, and I wish it for everyone so that they may find their own majesty, beauty and grace.  Love and Light, my beautiful people.  Till next time on this journey of discovery!

40s Goddess     Veronica Crystal Young                   www.tvartscapes.com         

Nature’s Healing

I’ve written about nature and connection before but it bears repeating.  I’ve been remise in writing for about 65 days.  Life has gotten the better of me these last few months, but I will work to change that because I am the only one that can.  Time to get back to business.

As I sit by the fast moving river in Beaver Creek, Colorado, the water seems to be on a mission!  I can’ t help but be inspired to also move thru whatever health and life issues have set me in a downward spiral with barely the strength to meet the day sometimes.  The Aspens seem to “twinkle” with the sun’s warmth dancing on their vibrant green leaves, and it is a striking contract with the white bark and knotted tree trunk which seems to have eyes eyes that say “everything is going to be ok.”  Simple really, we should take a clue from nature always.

This trip to Colorado was about renewal for me. It was about taking back my power, reflecting on my choices and making a decision on a course of action.  Hiking, biking, rafting and experiencing nature’s beauty (and adventure) helped to calm the stress, focus my thoughts, and relax.  Something I hope the TV ArtScapes DVD series I have developed about “feeling” like nature is right outside your window, brings to whoever sees it.  We all have too much stress in our lives, we need to learn to acquiesce to calm.  Relax, renew, recharge in nature.  And you don’t need anyone else to do it either.

Every time I am in nature, every time, I feel great, inspired by it’s magnificence. I am reminded that we are all one, we are all here on this planet to contribute, to live, to love to share and finally return to mother earth and,  I believe, continue on our journey in some way.  Take a hike, ride a bike, visit the ocean or forest……nature’s healing awaits!

Peace, joy and adventure always,

40s goddess        Veronica Crystal Young

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Athena

Net worth is not self-worth

You are a unique creation—so valuable that no accountant could calculate it. Like an original work of art, there is no other like you. Irreplaceable. Valuable beyond all measure. You.

Unfortunately, most of us underestimate our own value and are unclear about why we’re here on the planet. We buy into popular culture’s definition of worth—that you are what you do and what you own. The world says your value will be measured exclusively in relationship to what others have. Believing in the world’s value system ties you to a treadmill of endless work to prove your worth. Now is the time to redefine yourself and how you measure wealth.

Knowing your value and believing your incredible worth is the baseline for a healthy relationship with money. Without a strong definition of self-worth, money is meaningless. There is nothing you can measure your self-worth against.

How you handle money is ultimately an expression of self-worth. If you know and believe you are worth something, you will live richly at any income level. If you think you are worthless or if you double your value or are confused about your purpose on the planet, you will spend money in damaging ways to fill the void.

The root cause of all bad financial decisions is fear. If you’re not living up to your potential, if you’re stuck in a job you hate, if life isn’t turning out the way you planned, it’s because of decisions you made based on fear.

If you believe you’re a beloved child of God, you can never be bought. You will come to a place where money has no power over you. A place where you are in control—unswayed by the siren song of possessions. A place where you step lightly and with purpose on the planet.

To know your worth is to know your destiny. You were put on this earth to do great things, large and small. Each day, you have the choice to allow yourself to be governed by fear or faith. It’s your decision. Choose faith and flourish.

Lisa Horuczi Markus
Lisa is a Financial Planner and the Author of the book – Living a Blessed Life

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Life Changes

Life Changes – Scary, risky, some say very frivolous and irresponsible in these changing times with recession on every newcast, forclosures on the rise and the unemployment rate climbing.  Yet I need to acknowledge what I know is true.  Working 9-5 has allowed me to be independent and have a lifestyle that is fullfilling, to say the least.  But I’ve allowed my passions to only creep into a small piece of my life, always “playing it safe.”  I had to ask myself on the deepest level, why?  What is the main thing holding me back? 

When I got right down to it, it was fear of feeling like I “knew” enough; feeling like I “had” enough; feeling like “I” was enough.  Did I have enough to get thru a transition period however long that “transition period” was?  Did I have enough proper knowledge? Was I confident enough in my technical skills to really be confident and be successful?  And failure, well, that is always a big one.  And how much time and money would I have to go thru before that big “Failure” stamp would be firming planted in my mind and forehead for all to see.  Come on, you know you think that too!

Well, fear and all, I decided to take the plunge. It IS scary and risky.  But it is also exciting…… and the unknown is wide open.  I know deep down that It is always my choice to have the fear stop me from my life’s passions.  It is my responsibility to take action if I want a change. After all,  “fear” is usually based on the past.  And we all know, the past does not equal the future, and the unknown is in front of us with all the possibilities of our dreams.

What is stopping you from pursing your dreams and passions?     

Live, Love….. and know you have the gift of choice for Life Change…..if you want it,                

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Life is Short

LET’S LIVE IT!              

This is my first attempt at blogging, so you’ll have to forgive any ranting. I felt the need to write out some thoughts and hopefully it will be some things you can relate to.

As I get older I find that it feels like there is less and less time in a day for the things I want to accomplish. But….that said, this will be at least a weekly post, and believe me when I say that will be a big feat for me!

Reflection and Introspection have been a big part of my life for many years. It has become alittle more so since the loss of a few close friends in the past months. I find myself taking stock of what I have accomplished, what dreams remain dreams unfulfilled, and who in my life I need to hug and make sure they know how much I love them. All I can say is that I am sorry it took these losses in my life to turn my self doubt and fear into action.

What are you putting off in your life due to fear of the unknown? Fear of failure? Fear of looking stupid or being unliked? I’m sure you have your own list.  Now, in my 40’s, I am ready to take some risks and follow my heart. Scary….but needed….finally! Because believe me, the regret pill is much harder to swallow than that failure pill.

Till next week….
Love and Live like there is no tomorrow, my friends….           

VCYoung, 40s Goddess      

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