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Expectations

ExpectationSuch a big word that holds so much meaning.  Happy, sad, miserable, or ecstatic.  Our emotions and moods can run the gamut, depending on what our expectations are in any given situation. 

 

Just look at the “real” reason you are upset or happy in any given situation.  Are you feeling badly about yourself or a situation? That usually comes down to an expectation not realized, either with yourself or with someone else.  If you are ecstatic, was your expectation much less then the reality of the situation?   

 

Painful as it may be, when I dig deep to look at certain choices that I’ve made, it’s my own expectations that have hurt me.  Was my expectation too high? Was the reality of achieving the goal to crazy or impossible?  Was it that I had set up a meeting, call, or trip and my expectations fell short of the reality?  Did someone follow-thru with what I thought would happen or totally floor me with the opposite response, good or bad?  Remember the “good and “bad” is just your perception.  That’s a whole other topic!

 

I guess the most important thing to remember is that we have the control to choose our expectations. Just like it is in our control to deal with our perceived negative repercussions of expectations not realized.  We can either, except responsibility for our actions and for having X expectations about the circumstances; or we can blame outcomes on someone or something else which is really, I think, a cop-out. 

 

My question is…..Why would you want to act like a victim?  Like something was done to you? How disempowering is that? Granted, there are times when you don’t have any control over a situation but it’s all in your handling, your reaction to the outcome where the “gold” of who you are really is. Because, let’s face it, how we show up in the world, our actions, our non-actions……are all reflections of who we really are.  It’s our choice to show up and handle things in which ever way is our true self.

 

And one more thing….I feel we must find the capacity for forgiveness, forgiveness for others, as well as ourselves.  That’s a big one.  If you feel you made a mistake, if you were hurt by someone or you hurt someone and you continually beat yourself up for it, what good could possibly come from that?  Life is too short….GET OVER IT! 

 

So I guess the best thing to have is no expectations at all.  This is difficult to say the least.  If we are not attached to an outcome and just allow the “flow of life” to happen……we could be pleasantly surprised.  Besides, most expectations are based on past experience and we all know that old adage “the past does not equal the future…..”  Except when it does.  (Did I actually say that after all this?)  Ok, I need to let it go and get over it!

 

Blessings and Happy Wishes for the Coming Year!

 

40s Goddess    Veronica Crystal Young   

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Life Changes

Life Changes – Scary, risky, some say very frivolous and irresponsible in these changing times with recession on every newcast, forclosures on the rise and the unemployment rate climbing.  Yet I need to acknowledge what I know is true.  Working 9-5 has allowed me to be independent and have a lifestyle that is fullfilling, to say the least.  But I’ve allowed my passions to only creep into a small piece of my life, always “playing it safe.”  I had to ask myself on the deepest level, why?  What is the main thing holding me back? 

When I got right down to it, it was fear of feeling like I “knew” enough; feeling like I “had” enough; feeling like “I” was enough.  Did I have enough to get thru a transition period however long that “transition period” was?  Did I have enough proper knowledge? Was I confident enough in my technical skills to really be confident and be successful?  And failure, well, that is always a big one.  And how much time and money would I have to go thru before that big “Failure” stamp would be firming planted in my mind and forehead for all to see.  Come on, you know you think that too!

Well, fear and all, I decided to take the plunge. It IS scary and risky.  But it is also exciting…… and the unknown is wide open.  I know deep down that It is always my choice to have the fear stop me from my life’s passions.  It is my responsibility to take action if I want a change. After all,  “fear” is usually based on the past.  And we all know, the past does not equal the future, and the unknown is in front of us with all the possibilities of our dreams.

What is stopping you from pursing your dreams and passions?     

Live, Love….. and know you have the gift of choice for Life Change…..if you want it,                

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Life is Short

LET’S LIVE IT!              

This is my first attempt at blogging, so you’ll have to forgive any ranting. I felt the need to write out some thoughts and hopefully it will be some things you can relate to.

As I get older I find that it feels like there is less and less time in a day for the things I want to accomplish. But….that said, this will be at least a weekly post, and believe me when I say that will be a big feat for me!

Reflection and Introspection have been a big part of my life for many years. It has become alittle more so since the loss of a few close friends in the past months. I find myself taking stock of what I have accomplished, what dreams remain dreams unfulfilled, and who in my life I need to hug and make sure they know how much I love them. All I can say is that I am sorry it took these losses in my life to turn my self doubt and fear into action.

What are you putting off in your life due to fear of the unknown? Fear of failure? Fear of looking stupid or being unliked? I’m sure you have your own list.  Now, in my 40’s, I am ready to take some risks and follow my heart. Scary….but needed….finally! Because believe me, the regret pill is much harder to swallow than that failure pill.

Till next week….
Love and Live like there is no tomorrow, my friends….           

VCYoung, 40s Goddess      

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