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Remember

SO it’s been several month’s since my last post, and I thought with the Holidays upon us, it was time to do one before the year runs out.

Where do I Start? The past year has been a year of stress, love, no time, performances and best friends.  Work has been unbearably busy with major changes for both my team and vendors, the love of my life continues to amaze me, the time I have to do what I want and need seems non-existent, we have started to get paying gigs for our country music, and we made many new fabulous friends. Why I titled this entry “remember”, is I have been feeling so blessed and happy, yet really frustrated at the same time.  You know how sometimes you get so tired of all life’s challenges and so called growth opportunities?  How you have a great day and something or someone just comes along and screws that good “high” up.  Life…….sometimes it’s a real downer.

When it gets to this point for me, When life’s challenges and choice’s become overwhelming, I turn to Mother-Father- God, ………and remember the good things.

  • If you have a Job, Remember – you are fortunate to have a job, there are so many that don’t.
  • Remember – that one person can’t effect your happiness and joy……. unless you let them.
  • Remember – that every situation has a choice, and you have the power to choose…..always.  and It is in that choice that you define who you really are.  
  • Remember – that friends and family are precious……never take them for granted.  
  • Remember –  to stop and appreciate the day and time you have…..you will never get this moment back.
  • Remember to say “I really appreciate you” to those you depend on and who are always there for you. 
  • Remember to say “I love you”……. And often.  

So to begin the Holiday Season…..Remember, and be thankful for what you have, be thankful for who you love and appreciate, and for having another day in this crazy, wonderful life.  

Peace. Love. Happiness.

 Veronica Crystal Young                 TVArtscapes.com

40s Goddess

 

 

 

New Years 2014

SO it’s New Years, Again!!!!  This year seemed to fly by as usual and it’s time to reassess our lives, figure out our goals for the coming year and remember all the “stuff” that happened this past year that made us laugh, made us cry and made us who we are. Some people only tend to focus on the good things that happened,  some only the bad.  I say look at everything, for “everything” is what shapes us and makes us grow. It helps to stay away from those “good-bad” labels  too.  I always feel if we can learn and grow from any circumstance, we are a better person for it. 

Awareness is always a first step into change for our future.  It allows us to see opportunities to change behaviors  and to be the person we want to be. How we deal with conflict, how we deal with adversity, how we react when someone hurts or angers us.  All these things can provide insight into who we are.  If we are willing to have an honest talk with ourselves and do some self examination, we can discover new strengths and change what we don’t like in ourselves and celebrate the awesomeness that  we do like.

Ask yourself if  you need to change any behaviors to handle situations differently.    Do you need to address others in any way, make amends or express your true feelings?  Be more proactive and decisive when it comes to uncomfortable situations? Work less to spend more time with family?  Work more to handle that large debt or curve spending habits?  Spend more time being thankful for what you have instead of wanting what you don’t have?  Tell those you love that you love them…everyday.   Reassess that relationship with “that” person – you know the one.  The one that never makes you feel good and always makes you doubt yourself,  keeps you walking on eggshells, is a total chore to be around because they are so draining?  Is it time to move on?  Do you need to be more kind, less judgmental? Do you need to take time away from everyone to chill and focus on you?

There are so many things to review in a year, but here is a great thing to do to help with the assessment.  Fill an empty Jar with all the things thathappen in the year.  Come New Years, pull all the notes out and review them.   It’s an awesome way to remember the year and I’m going to do this in 2014.  Thanks  Facebook friends for sharing this tidbit!

So in closing, I want to wish everyone a great New Year.  And remember, The start of a New Year is always a chance for new beginnings, but EVERY DAY is also a chance to start anew!  We hold our world in our hands…… it’s all in the handling of each situation and each moment. 

Peace, Love and Prosperity!  

Veronica Crystal Young, 40s Goddess

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Creativity

As I sit here watching the sunrise, I find myself thinking about creativity.  Creation.  Our ability to manifest something wonderful and all the excitement, work and love that goes into every thought and process for that creation.   It has been awhile since I have made a blog entry, so this topic seems fitting as I have been busy “creating” something new in my life.  

A few of you know that I am a singer, or at least I have been.  Performing in bands, musicals and shows, any piano bar that would let me……Ithas always been a passion of mine.  In my late 20s I was a songwriter, but just like the “entire world,” my songs and voice never made it to the vast stage that is the general public.  My passion and love for singing and writing has been rekindled since I met Eric, and together we have created our first song. 

I can’t tell you the joy and happiness that working on and completing this song has brought me.  It rekindled my passion for telling my story thru music.  I certainly have my TV ArtScapes Nature Series and all the joy that creating these wonderful Nature DVDs brings, but now I have another outlet to express myself, and hopefully inspire. It has been so fun, working with someone that shares my passion for music. Oh yeah, and he is  also an awesome guitar player!  I am so blessed to have found my voice again.

We have been lucky enough to have found a place to hone our passion for singing.  It has been at the Vincent Hill Station Restaurant and Saloon, in Acton, California. We are known simply as “Eric and Veronica” and our picture, skillfully taken by JC Forbes, hangs on the “wall of fame” with other performers.  You can find us there most Sunday afternoons from 3:00 to 7:00PM.  We hope to unveil our new song in a few weeks. And as soon as I can find some extra time in the studio, it will be on YouTube!

All I know, and I can say this from experience, is never, ever, give up on the dream of what you want your life to be.  We have dreams and goals for a reason. Dreams are usually what fuels us. Dreams are  most always linked to our purpose in life.  Don’t deny the journey to explore and refine your passions.  The reward for that journey is far more valuable than giving up.  It’s a journey of self discovery, sometimes disappointing, sometimes joyous, but always enlightening.  And perhaps you will find fulfillment, contentment and love along the way.

What do you want to create? Do it now. There is no time better to start then today!

Love and Light Always,

Veronica Crystal Young- 40s Goddess

www.tvartscapes.com

 

ADVENTURE Push your limits

Fun, excitment, pushing limits……We all need it. At least that is what this writer thinks. 

Haven’t you ever seen extreme rock climbing, or bungee jumping, skydiving or ziplining and said, “Man, that looks fun but I could never do that!”

The morning started with anticipation and nervousness as we all gathered around the black harnesses laying on the floor.  Our instructors’ names were Amy and Robert, two young pups who had much fun pulling our legs and trying to add a little levity to the situation, as you could see the unspoken nervousness in some peoples eyes. “Anyone ever zipped before?”  Silence.  Instruction began and one of the main training points was how to slow down and brake.  Careful training ensued with step by step instructions about the importance of first looking up at the cable, and then placing your hand in the proper position to brake and have control of your speed.  Assessing your position from the treetop landing station and judging your pressure on the wire was very important.

There were several treetop reiteration of this instruction, especially when my best friend came hurling to a landing station full force without heeding Amy’s bird flapping arms indicating SLOW DOWN. 

Zipping across the forest tree-tops at 20-40 miles an hour with nothing but the clothes on your back really empowers you to feel like you have control over your destiny, because in this situation, you REALLY do.   If you do not brake correctly you could come up short at the end of the ZIP and have to pull your way into the treetop station. Brake to late and you could crash and burn.  Well, not really, because Amy and Robert are professionals and there are safeguards for that, but you get my meaning. 

I don’t know about you it seems to me most people, including me, get caught up in their everyday routines, and all the pressures of life, and we forget to take risks, forget to challenge ourselves, because frankly, we are too tired. Try to make a real effort to do something to challenge yourself, push your comfort zones.   Zip thru life with excitement and no fear.   If you must put on the brakes, do so smoothly with clear intention.  Take your time to assess all choices, consequences, and responsibilities to arrive at any and all destinations and goals.  We always have the choice and the power over our own destinies, even if, at times, it doesn’t feel like it.

Oh, and if you do try something, and you find that it is too overwhelming to handle for where you are today, remember you can always go back and try again. Sometimes when this happens I like to visualize before actually doing the “push my limits” exercise. Like skydiving.  Pretty intense. I thank God the clouds came in after flight school because I had to wait to jump.  I had a whole week to visualize jumping out of that plane, and it helped when it came time to take that leap.

We all really should try to do something at least once a month, definitely once a year, outside our comfort zone. Push yourself to reach the place of challenge and exhilaration because, believe me, it can change your perspective and have a positive impact on how you feel about yourself and your path. Just try it once.  Like the ad says….Just Do It!

You’ll be glad you did. And remember, “It is said, the man who lives without risk, does not live.”

Veronica Crystal Young    40s Goddess        www.tvartscapes.com

                            

New Years – Reflection and Self Discovery

Well it’s another New Years Eve. I always hear that it has come so fast!  And I’m usually the one saying it. It seems like we just had New Years Eve and that I built my vision board for 2012.  But here it is again.  Last year was not the best Holiday Season, at least for me. It wasn’t special, it wasn’t exciting, I didn’t even put up a tree!  This year was different. Amazing how life can change on a dime, isn’t it? 

 This Christmas was the best Christmas ever, at least that is this writer’s feeling.  This past year has brought both real heartache and true love……all in the same year.  I guess it’s lucky that way.  Balance is important and it is really heaven when we can achieve it amidst a harried and insecure world.

So on the agenda for the holidays was parties with good friends and meeting some new ones; shopping on Christmas Eve to feel the hustle and bustle of the holidays, and of course spending time with my Eric. My tree was the best one ever with butterflies, New Orleans style masks, glitter and every girls favorite, shoe ornaments! All these things made this the best Holiday ever! 

On the stressful side this season was Family and work drama.  Sometimes it seems this drama will never end and it’s a part of everyday living, but I believe it’s all in how you hande it. You can be aware of all the drama playing out, choose to acknowledge it and engage in the continuing saga, or be aware of it and decide if engaging in it is worth your time, effort and possible aggravation. Obviously some drama needs to be addressed, especially if it effects your work adversely or family happiness. Maybe sincere apologies need to be made, not only to diffuse the drama, but to mend hearts and families. Maybe a clarification of events or of a discussion that took place. Search your heart and soul and hear what your inner voice is telling you. Don’t be afraid to say you were in the wrong either. It’s not about being right or wrong. Life is all about growth and being real. You can’t be real if you can’t even admit you have faults and make mistakes. And if your soul searching reveals some self-discoveries that are less than pleasant, treat yourself and others, for that matter, with gentle thoughts, love and forgiveness.  It’s the only way……and besides It’s the New Year!   A time for reflection, renewal, and moving past obstacles that keep you from your Fabulous Self! 

So my friends, I will close by wishing all of you a safe, drama free, prosperous,  loving New Year. Enjoy the reflective New Years Eve in this, the remainder of 2012. The end of the world did not happen and I’m so glad because I have so much to do! Including finishing yet another TV ArtScapes DVD – HanaScapes and MountainScapes!

Love, Light and Happiness People.  Live it, Spread it,  Be it.
The world needs it.

Veronia Crystal Young   40s Goddess    www.tvartscapes.com   

Appreciation

Open.  What a gift. Life has a way of teaching us so many lessons.   I write this blog because it is one of the places to voice my lessons, observations and stories.  The past 4 months have been stressful, scary and so perfect that I have to write about Appreciation today.
Several things have happened to inspire this topic.  You may have noticed that it has been several months since my last entry.  Well that is due to a few changes in my life that have been both nerve-wracking and quite wonderful….quite perfect to put it more aptly. 

On the work front, I have acquired yet another department and quite a large responsibility.  With it comes some hefty learning for me, new staff and all the challenges that brings with it, and the assimilation with my current team. It has been challenging and scary but manageable when I break it up into smaller goals and complete “my check-off” lists.  It has been both stressful and fulfilling as I navigate the new position, staff, and identify operations and improvements needed.

It makes me appreciate my team, who are always on top of their work and who have “can do” attitudes. It makes me appreciate my fellow managers who are very supportive and who teach me new things every day. It makes me appreciate the relationships I have with what I like to call the “Epic core,” a group of hardworking strategists and technical builders. Sometimes if it weren’t for them, I think I would lose my mind! It makes me appreciate my boss for believing in me and giving me so many opportunities to grow and contribute. Sometimes with your work situation, it helps to stop and count your gratitude’s.  It helps the days go by smoother and sometimes allows you to regroup from a negative attitude, giving a perspective on how it really could be much worse. Especially since so many struggle with not even having a job these days.  Count your blessings people.  If you have a job, find the thankfulness. If you don’t and are searching, be thankful for the opportunities that are coming your way and ask for the openness and grace to recognize it when it appears.

AND, now for the “quite perfect” part of this entry.  As I start this part of the entry, I’m sitting in the backyard with the sun rising, the grapevines overhead and the morning stillness, and a crow flies overhead.  My Native American animal cards come to mind and I look up Crow. 

Crow is an omen of change. The Ancient Chiefs tell us that Crow sees simultaneously the three fates – past, present, and future. If Crow medicine appears, learn to allow your personal integrity to be your guide. Your personal will can then emerge so that you will stand in your truth. The prime path of true Crow people says to be mindful of your opinions and actions. Be willing to walk your talk, speak your truth, know your life’s mission, and balance past, present, and future in the now. Shape shift that old reality and become your future self. Allow the bending of physical laws to aid in creating the shape shifted world of peace and love.

All of this is so true, especially for me now. About 4 months ago, practicing the concepts I stated in my “Open” entry, I met a very special man.  It had been a long time coming and I had always tried to believe that one day I would find the love of my life.  Searching for the special connection always eluded me.  Sure there were connections, but this was so different. A powerful, deep connection that comes with knowing and feeling real love and great joy that you are occupying the same world together. Time and space disappear and you feel connected……always. 

It has been my greatest joy, and I so appreciate him and how our life together is unfolding. It has taken many years to find, and yes, I was just about to give up hope. But shifting to “Open” made a difference in my daily life.  Accepting whatever the situation was in every given circumstance, knowing who I was and honoring and living that regardless of what others thought or said allowed me to receive.  Living your life authentically is magic, and practicing real appreciation sometimes forces acceptance and allows “Open” to happen. 
* Always live your truth.
* Live life to the fullest, with integrity, thankfulness and appreciation for where you are now.
* Be open to the opportunities Mother-Father-God will bring you.  She only brings what we can handle.

The Native American “Crow” medicine description burns in my mind as I leave you to find your authentic self and open to life’s loves and experiences. 

  • Learn to allow your personal integrity to be your guide, and your sense of feeling alone will vanish. Your personal will can then emerge so that you will stand in your truth. 
  •  Be mindful of your opinions and actions. Be willing to walk your talk, speak your truth, know your life’s mission, and balance past, present, and future in the now.
  • Shape shift that old reality and become your future self.
  • Allow the bending of physical laws to aid in creating the shape shifted world of peace, love, thankfulness and opportunity.

Blessed be….

Veronica Crystal Young      -40s Goddess           www.tvartscapes.com   

Courage

 This 4th of July holds a special significance for me. We all know what courage and resolve our forefathers needed to forge a new world order.   This year I have seen courage in some close friends and family, and I, too, have had to muster up a healthy dose. 

Courage. It’s not easy.
  
In this world where technology is increasingly replacing human connection, where jobs are sparse and tempers are high, and where psychological and physical abuse continues to create self-doubt, pain, and fear, Courage is necessary. 

*Necessary to really face ourselves, our faults and shortcomings. To be daring and place ourselves out in the world; vulnerable to hurt, failure, or fear of the unknown, or fear of repeating the past.
*Necessary to express who we really are.
*Necessary to be there for others in hard times.
*Necessary to speak up for our truths and our opinions. To have a voice and to know we count. Remembering that every person matters and is entitled to their opinion or truth, and no one is more important than another.

Courage is the nerve to speak up and act on our dreams, or tell our truths even in the face of all our fears.  Fear of not being accepted, being rejected, failing…I’m sure you can fill in whatever fear it is that keeps you from being all you can be; speaking your truth or living your life fully.  

It’s not easy.  My last post was about being open.  Being courageous is going one more step and having the guts to place yourself in situations that are hard and that have scary consequences, at least “perceived” scary consequences.   And we tend to be swayed by our expectation of those scary consequences.  But here’s the deal….  

Remember that the past does not equal the future, and NOW is the only true time. If we can remember this in every circumstance, and have faith that the universal Mother/Father/God will present what is best and next for us on this road called Life, then we will always have Courage. Our job then becomes the ability to see the path presented and find the choices that are true to who we are and who we want to be.  Trust your intuition on that path. It is the breathe of the Universe.

So this 4th of July, remember courage. Have the courage to speak up and have your voice heard. The courage to face a difficult task or help a friend or family member with a hard choice or situation. The courage to be vulnerable in the world. The courage to be 100% who you really are and find peace, happiness, freedom……..and love.  Your heart will know, trust it.  I do.  It is the greatest gift to ourselves we can give.

Live life, People!  With Love…….. and with COURAGE.

Veronica Crystal Young     -40s Goddess

www.tvartscapes.com       

 

Open

Last weekend I attended a retreat at the the beautiful Glen Ivy Hot Springs Resort and Spa. It was an inspirational place, and I loved it that my room was right next to a stream and waterfall for early morning walks.

The weekend started with a lovely gathering in the main lodge. The theme for the weekend was “love.” Well let’s face it, you can’t get a better topic or a more inspiring focus then that.

The women were from all over, from as far as New York and Canada. We all chose what aspect of love we wanted to focus on for the weekend, and we placed a symbol of that focus on the gold, fabric draped steps of the great room. I thought about what I brought as a symbol of love, and I knew immediately what my focus had to be.

In my hands was a stone shaped heart. I bought it in Sedona, one of the gorgeous places I love to go for reflection and renewal, and it seemed to have all the qualities of love. It had sections to it, lighter sections that seemed to be held together with darker strands of gold. To me the lighter sections symbolized the “pieces” of love, all the emotions and circumstances we encounter like passion, fear, doubt, acceptance, honesty, trust, hurt, compromise….and many more. The dark gold stand symbolized how a relationship is always held together with the power of love. BUT, the best thing about my heart rock was the center. It opened up to reveal dazzling, brilliant, crystals and that is where I found my inspiration for my focus that weekend.

Openness. As I held the heart rock in my hand, I was reminded that being open to love, being open to receive and being open to give, THAT is where the brilliance is. “Open” can be hard as we encounter life’s challenges, as we are hurt by the words and deeds of others, as we navigate our own doubts and build walls of protection and fear. Sometimes our own actions can derail us and we find it difficult to forgive ourselves. But if we open our hearts to the oneness in this world, to the magnificence of every living thing and every other person, we will know and experience love. A love of no judgement, no conditions and a love that includes love of ourselves, because how can there be magnificence in this world and not have it include you? We are all one. I can’t tell you how walking anywhere with a conscious openness can change your life. Peace, joy, a feeling of belonging and that you are never alone. Pretty awesome when we can remember to approach everything in life this way and make a conscious choice to remain open.

I have my stone heart sitting on my nightstand so as I wake up every morning I can remember to be “open” to life’s great treasures; in nature, in people, in the challenges of circumstance. Joy, peace, happiness and love is yours, be open to it.

The brilliance of open …….is magic. May you find it and keep it, for being open is Love.

Veronica Crystal Young    40sGoddess-

www.tvartscapes.com   

Valentine’s Day

Well, it’s Valentine’s Day, and I’m in beautiful Lake Tahoe again. A romantic setting…. gorgeous sunset, the lake, a fire pit, a martini, and inspiration. At least that is what comes up or me. Does it matter that I’m here alone on this day? Does it matter that I see couples everywhere, sharing their lives, dreams and moments together? Does it sting, just a little? 

 In years past it has been hard to be alone on this special of days. A day to express appreciation, caring and love for that special someone is your life. But what to do if you are currently single? What if that special “other” is not in the picture, at least for now?

I decided to treat myself to a great late lunch by the Lake at my favorite resturaunt. It is right on the lake, has picture windows and I am writing, reflecting and capturing the moment in both video and pictures, my favorite thing to do. I am so full of peace and love. Isn’t that what Valentine’s Day is all about? Do you need another person to feel those things? I don’t think so. But with that said, let’s face it, seeing a beautiful sunset, walking the bamboo forest or experiencing the power of a waterfall is just that much more  magnificent when shared. THAT is what I miss.

So if you are single, if that significant other has eluded you to date, do something for that special “you.”
That wonderful, loving person that YOU are. You deserve it. Learn to appreciate you and the time you have in this life. Appreciate the NOW that is so difficult to continually live in this crazy world. Celebrate and love the person you are! All of you. No matter what faults you think you have, or what your perception is of what you are lacking.  

By the way, we don’t need a special day to celebrate. Live the celebration of YOU every day. Make the plan to do something for your wonderful self at least once a month. Because you, my dears, are gorgeous and complete just as you are, and just as you are NOW.   You are a Goddess after all!

Love to you this Valentine’s Day. May your days be filled with Love. And here’s wishing, if you desire it, that someone special will appear in your life. Someone deserving, and exactly what you want…..to share life moments.

 Peace and light,

Veronica Crystal Young   

Integrity

Ok, so it was time to re-evaluate a few priorities again.  Yes. It’s a constant struggle, this thing called life.  Always encountering situations where we can continue to create who we are.

Sometimes on this journey, we encounter situations that test our integrity.   What do we believe, who are we, what do we want to project.  Do we compromise what we know is right even just for a little while because, well, we just “need to?” Do we have something to prove or does our mind go a mile a minute rationalizing the situation? We women are good at that. Do we take care of ourselves or someone else at the cost of our own integrity?  Do we have something we did that we are not proud of and that we beat ourselves up for?

Here’s a news flash.  Everyone does.  Cut your self a break!  As women, we evaluate, questions, evaluate again, dissect a situation to death! Why this, why that, what did I do to bring this on, and even “What was I thinking!”

All we have to remember, at any time, in any situation, is who we are and what we want to be is defined by our actions.  That really is it.  And if we stumble, if we fall, if we experience a “What the hell did I do” moment, it’s ok.  Make amends and apologies if it’s needed, and forgive yourself….for being human, having a lapse in judgement or for losing yourself for the moment, and move on with your fantastic, wonderful life. Because it is! Believe that too, and if you don’t, well that’s another subject all together.  “What do you need to be happy.”

Integrity.  It is what we believe and how we act based on those beliefs.  Make no mistake.  Actions speak louder than words and if you are not acting in alignment with your beliefs or words, you might need to evaluate what you really do believe, or who you really are.  And people, that can be a painful realization sometimes.  But not one that can’t be changed. That’s what life is all about, the journey…constant change….evaluation of self, connection and Love …always love.   At least that is what this writer believes.  Besides, How boring would life be without challenges, change and growth?

So as I sit by the pool in beautiful Palm Springs, (yes, I have to brag) I am grateful for everything and everyone in my life.  My family and friends fill me with love and I am blessed for it.  My work (All of the various hats I wear) fulfills me. My work relationships can be challenging, but I would have it no other way for it helps me grow. And I thank mother/father/god for my life, my experiences and the lessons that move me closer to oneness, for truly, we are all one.  Blessed be,,…

GO AND GET IT!  Whatever it is!

Veronica Crystal Young                 www.tvartscapes.com