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New Years 2014

SO it’s New Years, Again!!!!  This year seemed to fly by as usual and it’s time to reassess our lives, figure out our goals for the coming year and remember all the “stuff” that happened this past year that made us laugh, made us cry and made us who we are. Some people only tend to focus on the good things that happened,  some only the bad.  I say look at everything, for “everything” is what shapes us and makes us grow. It helps to stay away from those “good-bad” labels  too.  I always feel if we can learn and grow from any circumstance, we are a better person for it. 

Awareness is always a first step into change for our future.  It allows us to see opportunities to change behaviors  and to be the person we want to be. How we deal with conflict, how we deal with adversity, how we react when someone hurts or angers us.  All these things can provide insight into who we are.  If we are willing to have an honest talk with ourselves and do some self examination, we can discover new strengths and change what we don’t like in ourselves and celebrate the awesomeness that  we do like.

Ask yourself if  you need to change any behaviors to handle situations differently.    Do you need to address others in any way, make amends or express your true feelings?  Be more proactive and decisive when it comes to uncomfortable situations? Work less to spend more time with family?  Work more to handle that large debt or curve spending habits?  Spend more time being thankful for what you have instead of wanting what you don’t have?  Tell those you love that you love them…everyday.   Reassess that relationship with “that” person – you know the one.  The one that never makes you feel good and always makes you doubt yourself,  keeps you walking on eggshells, is a total chore to be around because they are so draining?  Is it time to move on?  Do you need to be more kind, less judgmental? Do you need to take time away from everyone to chill and focus on you?

There are so many things to review in a year, but here is a great thing to do to help with the assessment.  Fill an empty Jar with all the things thathappen in the year.  Come New Years, pull all the notes out and review them.   It’s an awesome way to remember the year and I’m going to do this in 2014.  Thanks  Facebook friends for sharing this tidbit!

So in closing, I want to wish everyone a great New Year.  And remember, The start of a New Year is always a chance for new beginnings, but EVERY DAY is also a chance to start anew!  We hold our world in our hands…… it’s all in the handling of each situation and each moment. 

Peace, Love and Prosperity!  

Veronica Crystal Young, 40s Goddess

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Stolen

Well I’ve debated on whether to even write this or not, but I decided it would be a good idea if even one person is helped by it. 

Last week my wallet was stolen, right out of my purse, in a grocery store. I turned my back for a moment when reaching for items, and it was gone when I went to check-out. Damn! No wallet.   Within 20 minutes 3 credit cards had fraudulent charges on them. Thank goodness the grocery store was close to my home and I was able to call all companies and the bank quickly and report the theft.

I was devastated, not to mention angry.  I sometimes forget that there are people in this world who are selfish, criminal and just plain bad.  People who have no regard for others at all.  I tend to think the absolute best of people until they show their ugly side.  I made excuses like they must have been hungry or maybe they had children to feed or they have been out of work, etc.  But the way the charges happened so fast, and in different directions from the store, calculated and direct, made me realize these were just plain thieves, robbers and horrible people. Later that week I discovered that there had been a robbery that same night in the parking garage. 

I guess I can count my lucky stars I wasn’t directly engaged and the theft happened without a confrontation, but that doesn’t help the feeling of violation and the headaches of getting your life back in order after this type of ordeal.

It has been a week and there was so much to do.  If this ever happens to you there are obvious actions to take.  1) Call all Credit cards and report cards stolen. 2) Place an alert on all 3 credit agencies regarding stolen wallet.  3) Make a police report that details what happened and the lost sustained.  4) Apply for new License with DMV. 

Also, just to prepare for the worst, always keep Credit card info for cards you have in your wallet at home.  Only carry cards you actually use.  And I hope I don’t have to remind everyone to never keep your PINS, social security card or passwords in your wallet. That’s just common sense.   Always make sure you have a secret password on all your credit cards.  It is an additional security piece of information that you can request on your cards.

So this incident is behind me.  I am still disheartened by the apathy of the grocery store and the police, but with everything else going on in the world, I guess one lost wallet is low on the totem pole. And you can be sure these thieves count on that.

So my friends, just a note to stay alert, always keep your purse and wallet close, and try to keep a positive attitude about people when something like this happens.   Lean on your friends and family for moral and emotional support, and remember each day is a gift.  To be lived fully and freely…..while keeping both eyes open about the truth of the less than honest people of the world.

Remember, no one can steal your happiness or love, unless you let them.  Don’t let them!  Back to editing the next DVD – MountainScapes.

Peace, Love and Light always,

Veronica Crystal Young   40s Goddess

www.tvartscapes.com    

 

New Years – Reflection and Self Discovery

Well it’s another New Years Eve. I always hear that it has come so fast!  And I’m usually the one saying it. It seems like we just had New Years Eve and that I built my vision board for 2012.  But here it is again.  Last year was not the best Holiday Season, at least for me. It wasn’t special, it wasn’t exciting, I didn’t even put up a tree!  This year was different. Amazing how life can change on a dime, isn’t it? 

 This Christmas was the best Christmas ever, at least that is this writer’s feeling.  This past year has brought both real heartache and true love……all in the same year.  I guess it’s lucky that way.  Balance is important and it is really heaven when we can achieve it amidst a harried and insecure world.

So on the agenda for the holidays was parties with good friends and meeting some new ones; shopping on Christmas Eve to feel the hustle and bustle of the holidays, and of course spending time with my Eric. My tree was the best one ever with butterflies, New Orleans style masks, glitter and every girls favorite, shoe ornaments! All these things made this the best Holiday ever! 

On the stressful side this season was Family and work drama.  Sometimes it seems this drama will never end and it’s a part of everyday living, but I believe it’s all in how you hande it. You can be aware of all the drama playing out, choose to acknowledge it and engage in the continuing saga, or be aware of it and decide if engaging in it is worth your time, effort and possible aggravation. Obviously some drama needs to be addressed, especially if it effects your work adversely or family happiness. Maybe sincere apologies need to be made, not only to diffuse the drama, but to mend hearts and families. Maybe a clarification of events or of a discussion that took place. Search your heart and soul and hear what your inner voice is telling you. Don’t be afraid to say you were in the wrong either. It’s not about being right or wrong. Life is all about growth and being real. You can’t be real if you can’t even admit you have faults and make mistakes. And if your soul searching reveals some self-discoveries that are less than pleasant, treat yourself and others, for that matter, with gentle thoughts, love and forgiveness.  It’s the only way……and besides It’s the New Year!   A time for reflection, renewal, and moving past obstacles that keep you from your Fabulous Self! 

So my friends, I will close by wishing all of you a safe, drama free, prosperous,  loving New Year. Enjoy the reflective New Years Eve in this, the remainder of 2012. The end of the world did not happen and I’m so glad because I have so much to do! Including finishing yet another TV ArtScapes DVD – HanaScapes and MountainScapes!

Love, Light and Happiness People.  Live it, Spread it,  Be it.
The world needs it.

Veronia Crystal Young   40s Goddess    www.tvartscapes.com   

What Do You Need To Be Happy

What do you need to be happy? This is a hard question sometimes and one I have been asking myself again lately.  Why now, you may ask?  Well, I do this about every two years, evaluate what I really want, why I want it, can I get it, and again why I want it. I think it is important to ask yourself why you want it the most because sometimes what you think you want, when it comes right down to it, you really don’t. You like the romance of it maybe, the glamour of it, the fact that it feeds your Mr. Ego man, “Fred, living in your head” maybe, but do you really want all that this choice entails?

Is it the fact that you choose something that seems unreachable or that you can never have which just points out a useless impulse to go after something unattainable. Are you constantly trying to find that perfect job, perfect partner, perfect vacation, perfect friend, perfect life? What about where you are now?  What about who is here now, the job you have now, the friends you have now, your home now? What needs to change to make you feel that you are truly happy and have it all the way you truly want it.  Well, I’ll tell you what needs to change.  YOU.

You need to change.  It’s all in your attitude and in your choice in how you choose to look at it. I’m not saying that seeking a better life, having goals and reaching for those dreams is not important, I’m just saying being miserable with your life or incomplete for being where you are in life journey is just useless and an excuse.

Choose to be happy and thankful with where you are. Make changes in your life if you want to allow the universe to present different options for you. Believe me, She will.

What’s next on your journey called life to excite, challenge, create, & love.  I don’t know about you but I want life to be an adventure, one that I live every day, (or at least on the weekends!) I can’t be bothered with those who mull thru life day after day with no purpose, challenges, passions or dreams.  To be honest, I cannot even imagine it.  How can you relate to that for goodness sakes?  It’s boring, it’s safe….. it’s time to shake it up people!  Ok, ok, I realize I’m on my soap box about passion and dreams again, and yes I have some goals I still pursue.  Keeps me active….and tired!  But I can’t go thru life waiting for the next vacation or the next relationship or the next day to do what I want.  I need to do it now, waiting is not an option when it comes to happiness.

And another thing about waiting. Clean out that closet, unclutter your life, simplify.  There is no time like the present!  You will be amazed at how this opens up your space for change both physically and mentally.

I have been blessed with 2 lives, one creative that feeds my passions and soul, and one “practical” that feeds me, literally.  And recently I just came back from beautiful Vail, Colorado shooting another title in the TV ArtScapes series. “MountainScapes.” Gorgeous rivers, waterfalls and mountains. Every time I visit nature and these beautiful places, I am inspired yet again to live each day to the fullest, to appreciate and love where I am now and who I am now.   How about you?  What are you waiting for…yet again?

Blessings and Love always,

40s Goddess      Veronica Crystal Young www.tvartscapes.com

Nature’s Healing

I’ve written about nature and connection before but it bears repeating.  I’ve been remise in writing for about 65 days.  Life has gotten the better of me these last few months, but I will work to change that because I am the only one that can.  Time to get back to business.

As I sit by the fast moving river in Beaver Creek, Colorado, the water seems to be on a mission!  I can’ t help but be inspired to also move thru whatever health and life issues have set me in a downward spiral with barely the strength to meet the day sometimes.  The Aspens seem to “twinkle” with the sun’s warmth dancing on their vibrant green leaves, and it is a striking contract with the white bark and knotted tree trunk which seems to have eyes eyes that say “everything is going to be ok.”  Simple really, we should take a clue from nature always.

This trip to Colorado was about renewal for me. It was about taking back my power, reflecting on my choices and making a decision on a course of action.  Hiking, biking, rafting and experiencing nature’s beauty (and adventure) helped to calm the stress, focus my thoughts, and relax.  Something I hope the TV ArtScapes DVD series I have developed about “feeling” like nature is right outside your window, brings to whoever sees it.  We all have too much stress in our lives, we need to learn to acquiesce to calm.  Relax, renew, recharge in nature.  And you don’t need anyone else to do it either.

Every time I am in nature, every time, I feel great, inspired by it’s magnificence. I am reminded that we are all one, we are all here on this planet to contribute, to live, to love to share and finally return to mother earth and,  I believe, continue on our journey in some way.  Take a hike, ride a bike, visit the ocean or forest……nature’s healing awaits!

Peace, joy and adventure always,

40s goddess        Veronica Crystal Young

www.tvartscapes.com www.crystaleyesinc.com

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Regret

RegretAll I can say about this is Regret is such a negative emotion.  It also comes when we are not living in the present.  Regret can only live if we live in the past for how can you have regret for something in the future?  And if you regret something you did right now, as soon as you feel it, the time has past.  So let’s see what we can do about this emotion that can stifle, hurt and make you crazy!

Here is the textbook definition:  Regret is an intelligent and/or emotional dislike for personal past acts and behaviors. Regret is often felt when someone feels sadness, shame, embarrassment, depression, or guilt after committing an action or actions that the person later wishes that he or she had not done.

The reality is, if something is done, it’s done.  No amount of regret, sadness, depression…whatever you are feeling, (or should I say choose to feel), will change that fact.  I have three words to say consequences, communication and responsibility. My three favorite subjects!

Any and all action we take has a result (Consequence).  It is human nature to label these consequences as “good” or “bad” but I know I have to remember I am the one that labels this.  If I have what I consider a negative emotion based on some action I have had like sadness, depression, anger etc, I label the consequence “bad.”  When this happens, I have 3 choices.  1) Take some action to rectify the situation as you see it or 2) wallow in the bad feeling and hope it doesn’t last long (your choice) or 3)  Accept it, forgive yourself and move on. I suggest, as a rule, 1 or 3 because # 2 just builds walls and closes us off to people and experiences. Not a great way to live.

So, with that said, I confess I recently had been living in the “wallow.” I know, I know…take my own advice!  But sometimes it’s necessary to feel the hurt and pain of regret.  Maybe it will get you off your ass to do what you need to do, or feel you need to do!  I know it has me. I’m still working myself crazy at the hospital, but I am forcing myself to make time to do the projects, production and passion that feeds my soul.  We all have too….because Youth is in our Passions!   Hey, I think I just figured out my next segment!

So, be well my friends.  And always remember to live in the present, forgive the past, and go for your dreams. Life is too short!

Veronica Crystal Young – 40s Goddesss

www.tvartscapes.com www.crystaleyesinc.com

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Life Changes

Life Changes – Scary, risky, some say very frivolous and irresponsible in these changing times with recession on every newcast, forclosures on the rise and the unemployment rate climbing.  Yet I need to acknowledge what I know is true.  Working 9-5 has allowed me to be independent and have a lifestyle that is fullfilling, to say the least.  But I’ve allowed my passions to only creep into a small piece of my life, always “playing it safe.”  I had to ask myself on the deepest level, why?  What is the main thing holding me back? 

When I got right down to it, it was fear of feeling like I “knew” enough; feeling like I “had” enough; feeling like “I” was enough.  Did I have enough to get thru a transition period however long that “transition period” was?  Did I have enough proper knowledge? Was I confident enough in my technical skills to really be confident and be successful?  And failure, well, that is always a big one.  And how much time and money would I have to go thru before that big “Failure” stamp would be firming planted in my mind and forehead for all to see.  Come on, you know you think that too!

Well, fear and all, I decided to take the plunge. It IS scary and risky.  But it is also exciting…… and the unknown is wide open.  I know deep down that It is always my choice to have the fear stop me from my life’s passions.  It is my responsibility to take action if I want a change. After all,  “fear” is usually based on the past.  And we all know, the past does not equal the future, and the unknown is in front of us with all the possibilities of our dreams.

What is stopping you from pursing your dreams and passions?     

Live, Love….. and know you have the gift of choice for Life Change…..if you want it,                

-VCYoung, 40’s Goddess                    Subscribe