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Relax Already!

Relax Already!

So you would think that being in one of the most beautiful places on earth would make one relax, wind down and really take life slow, releasing all the tensions and problems one thinks is clogging up their life. Well, I’m here to tell you…. no! It’s not that easy for some of us.

There I was in Maui, at the beautiful Hyatt Hotel with stunning waterfalls, lagoons, and several pools right on the ocean, and it still was hard to just relax, sleep on a lounge chair or read a book, at least for an hour or two. I was still so anxious and in work mode, it was hard to “turn off” totally. I know it will take a few days…thank goodness I was there for a few days, at least I’ll be relaxed by the third day….I hope.

Does it take you some time to decompress? Do you get anxious or feel like you should be “doing” something to fill up the time? I, at least, have my videography and filming that makes me feel like I am not “wasting time.” And what is wasting time? Why do some of us feel that if we are not pursing our passions, working towards something or visiting family or friends that we are “wasting time?” I guess it comes from being a type A personality, where nothing is ever quite done, nothing is ever perfect. I have to sit down with myself and have a heart to heart talk, and give myself permission to relax. Permission to let time run out and watch it go by with absolutely no regret for not filling it with work, or calls or “business stuff.” I was going to be filming in a few days and that is my greatest joy, but until then, laying by the pool, sipping a pina colada and making new friends was just gonna have to do! It’s rough…..I know.

So give yourself permission to just be and enjoy time without feeling like you have to be somewhere, be doing anything or talking to anyone. Enjoy the “Being” and the rejuvenation will begin. You will have a fresh perspective on everything and you can actually start the process of learning how to “be” all the time, even when you are home, at work or in stressful situations. Teach yourself to take a moment to check into the “being” state. It is the Now, it is sacred, and it is necessary….for all of us.

Peace and love my friends. May you find the state of “being,’ relaxed and rejuvenated by life’s simple moments. They are life’s greatest moments.  Mahalo….

40s Goddess    Veronica Crystal Young

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What’s Important

As I reach another Birthday, I can’t help but think about ….what’s important.

Having been away from the hustle and bustle of work, city life for a week or so, it’s really easy to feel what is important, especially with this sunrise!

As I woke up at 5:30AM to pack up my camera & coffee, I started out praying the sun would cooperate with me this time and produce an amazing sight. As I drove thru the jungle and finally to the parking lot of the State Park, the sound of the pounding waves were unmistakable.  Four days past when the Tsunami was suppose to hit, mother nature was reeling. I grabbed my coffee and I could see in the distance the sun trying to peak out from behind grey clouds over a grey ocean.

The ground was made up of lava rocks and is covered in places with bright green; It is a beautiful contrast against the dark black rock.  As I neared the edge of the rock, the sun was barely creeping up in the horizon, the clouds had cleared a bit, and my heart was just soaring.  How can anyone be depressed, upset or sad around this? I actually cried a little at the stunning beauty.  It was breathtaking.  No one, I mean not a soul was around.   It was me and the ocean…..and the great creator.

I thought about my life, what had been joyful this past year, and what had been a challenge.  Those things I wish I could change, those things I needed to let go because I couldn’t change them, and I thought about what I wanted in my life. I have always been strong. I have always thought I knew what was important and what I wanted.  In this place……it was hard to think about “real” life.   At times I can find myself struggling with what I really want, with what’s important.  In this magical place, where you cannot help but feel magnificent calm and creative inspiration, I can see it very clearly.

Family. Love them and appreciate them with all your heart, for despite the trying times, and there will be some, they are your anchors to this life and to who you are.  Good or bad, they help shape you. Your parents and siblings helped shape your earliest thoughts and ideas about this world, yourself and others.  Your spouse helps you remember who you really are and shares your soul’s purpose. Your children help you re-examine life and how you see the world. Bless them, and tell them as often as possible, how much you love and care for them.  There is nothing as strong as family. (See Dad and Mom)

Friends. Love them and tell them often. Also forgive them, for there are times when they will disappoint or hurt you.  They are human, get over it. And know that true friends will always have your best interest at heart and will always protect and love you. (See “Friends” )

You. Love and forgive yourself, for there are times when you will disappoint and hurt yourself, times when you wish you could change the past.  Whatever you feel you did or did not do that caused any type of regret. You are human, get over it!  Life it too short. Despite our tradition of new year’s resolutions, the reality is, we have the opportunity daily to start over and renew our lives.

World Peace.  Enough said on that one.  I think you get it.

Bottom line  for what’s important – Love. Love for everyone and everything, no matter what is said, done or not done. No matter the circumstance, no matter the choices, the right choice and the only choice – is love.  That’s what’s important.  What a lovely world if everyone could just get this one thing.

It’s that simple….. and that hard.   Peace and Love my Friends….

40s Goddess  –  Veronica Crystal Young

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Expectations

ExpectationSuch a big word that holds so much meaning.  Happy, sad, miserable, or ecstatic.  Our emotions and moods can run the gamut, depending on what our expectations are in any given situation. 

 

Just look at the “real” reason you are upset or happy in any given situation.  Are you feeling badly about yourself or a situation? That usually comes down to an expectation not realized, either with yourself or with someone else.  If you are ecstatic, was your expectation much less then the reality of the situation?   

 

Painful as it may be, when I dig deep to look at certain choices that I’ve made, it’s my own expectations that have hurt me.  Was my expectation too high? Was the reality of achieving the goal to crazy or impossible?  Was it that I had set up a meeting, call, or trip and my expectations fell short of the reality?  Did someone follow-thru with what I thought would happen or totally floor me with the opposite response, good or bad?  Remember the “good and “bad” is just your perception.  That’s a whole other topic!

 

I guess the most important thing to remember is that we have the control to choose our expectations. Just like it is in our control to deal with our perceived negative repercussions of expectations not realized.  We can either, except responsibility for our actions and for having X expectations about the circumstances; or we can blame outcomes on someone or something else which is really, I think, a cop-out. 

 

My question is…..Why would you want to act like a victim?  Like something was done to you? How disempowering is that? Granted, there are times when you don’t have any control over a situation but it’s all in your handling, your reaction to the outcome where the “gold” of who you are really is. Because, let’s face it, how we show up in the world, our actions, our non-actions……are all reflections of who we really are.  It’s our choice to show up and handle things in which ever way is our true self.

 

And one more thing….I feel we must find the capacity for forgiveness, forgiveness for others, as well as ourselves.  That’s a big one.  If you feel you made a mistake, if you were hurt by someone or you hurt someone and you continually beat yourself up for it, what good could possibly come from that?  Life is too short….GET OVER IT! 

 

So I guess the best thing to have is no expectations at all.  This is difficult to say the least.  If we are not attached to an outcome and just allow the “flow of life” to happen……we could be pleasantly surprised.  Besides, most expectations are based on past experience and we all know that old adage “the past does not equal the future…..”  Except when it does.  (Did I actually say that after all this?)  Ok, I need to let it go and get over it!

 

Blessings and Happy Wishes for the Coming Year!

 

40s Goddess    Veronica Crystal Young   

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Patience

Hawaii Shoot -2008Hello Everyone!  I want to talk this week about something I find to be a great gift.  Patience.  Ok, I have to admit, it sometimes eludes me.  It can make you crazy, it can stifle action and effect your drive to succeed in a way that can suppress your passions. So here’s the thing.  When you become impatient, the main person effected  is YOU.  Your psyche, your blood pressure, your ability to be at peace.  Some would say resignation is a place where you can become truly patient, but I don’t think that’s true.  In my humble opinion, resignation implies no hope and sounds a bit like having a victim mentality. No hope? 
 
Acceptance is a term I’d rather use.  It’s much more powerful as it means you are making a conscious choice to be patient.  To accept that god/goddess, the universal energy , knows best how to deal with whatever you are being impatient about.   Trust that, my friends, remember that, and patience won’t be far behind. That to me, is a much stronger place to come from. 
Being patient with ourselves can be the hardest.  How many times has the frustration of impatience been an excuse for non-action in your life?  Building a business and all the decisions, work and effort going into that can sometimes take you to the “why bother” place……yes, the dreaded resignation.  How many times have you or others said “you need to be patient, ‘it’ doesn’t happen over night. ”  Well that’s true,  most of the time, but if that kind of thinking leads to non-action, it can start a vicious circle – lack of drive – more frustration – more impatience  – back to non-action.  This can only be self destruction and counter productive for any goal.  I know, I’ve been there.  Learning to accept where we are in the now and love the process…and trust.  A lot to ask, yes, but always know……It will happen as it should happen. That is for certain.
 
So, my friends, let’s see if we can go thru this week and try to exercise a little patience in our lives.  Of course, patience in dealing with co-workers, friends, family, etc.  But most of all, let’s give the gift of patience to ourselves.  It is an opportunity for growth and strength, as well as an opportunity to excerise  trust.   It’s your choice to be patient……..And remember that great saying?
“We could never learn to be brave and patient, if there were only joy in the world.” -Helen Keller
Live, Love….. and know you can exercise the Gift of Patience,         
-VCYoung, 40’s Goddess     
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