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Relax Already!

Relax Already!

So you would think that being in one of the most beautiful places on earth would make one relax, wind down and really take life slow, releasing all the tensions and problems one thinks is clogging up their life. Well, I’m here to tell you…. no! It’s not that easy for some of us.

There I was in Maui, at the beautiful Hyatt Hotel with stunning waterfalls, lagoons, and several pools right on the ocean, and it still was hard to just relax, sleep on a lounge chair or read a book, at least for an hour or two. I was still so anxious and in work mode, it was hard to “turn off” totally. I know it will take a few days…thank goodness I was there for a few days, at least I’ll be relaxed by the third day….I hope.

Does it take you some time to decompress? Do you get anxious or feel like you should be “doing” something to fill up the time? I, at least, have my videography and filming that makes me feel like I am not “wasting time.” And what is wasting time? Why do some of us feel that if we are not pursing our passions, working towards something or visiting family or friends that we are “wasting time?” I guess it comes from being a type A personality, where nothing is ever quite done, nothing is ever perfect. I have to sit down with myself and have a heart to heart talk, and give myself permission to relax. Permission to let time run out and watch it go by with absolutely no regret for not filling it with work, or calls or “business stuff.” I was going to be filming in a few days and that is my greatest joy, but until then, laying by the pool, sipping a pina colada and making new friends was just gonna have to do! It’s rough…..I know.

So give yourself permission to just be and enjoy time without feeling like you have to be somewhere, be doing anything or talking to anyone. Enjoy the “Being” and the rejuvenation will begin. You will have a fresh perspective on everything and you can actually start the process of learning how to “be” all the time, even when you are home, at work or in stressful situations. Teach yourself to take a moment to check into the “being” state. It is the Now, it is sacred, and it is necessary….for all of us.

Peace and love my friends. May you find the state of “being,’ relaxed and rejuvenated by life’s simple moments. They are life’s greatest moments.  Mahalo….

40s Goddess    Veronica Crystal Young

www.tvartscapes.com www.crystaleyesinc.com

 

Nature’s Healing

I’ve written about nature and connection before but it bears repeating.  I’ve been remise in writing for about 65 days.  Life has gotten the better of me these last few months, but I will work to change that because I am the only one that can.  Time to get back to business.

As I sit by the fast moving river in Beaver Creek, Colorado, the water seems to be on a mission!  I can’ t help but be inspired to also move thru whatever health and life issues have set me in a downward spiral with barely the strength to meet the day sometimes.  The Aspens seem to “twinkle” with the sun’s warmth dancing on their vibrant green leaves, and it is a striking contract with the white bark and knotted tree trunk which seems to have eyes eyes that say “everything is going to be ok.”  Simple really, we should take a clue from nature always.

This trip to Colorado was about renewal for me. It was about taking back my power, reflecting on my choices and making a decision on a course of action.  Hiking, biking, rafting and experiencing nature’s beauty (and adventure) helped to calm the stress, focus my thoughts, and relax.  Something I hope the TV ArtScapes DVD series I have developed about “feeling” like nature is right outside your window, brings to whoever sees it.  We all have too much stress in our lives, we need to learn to acquiesce to calm.  Relax, renew, recharge in nature.  And you don’t need anyone else to do it either.

Every time I am in nature, every time, I feel great, inspired by it’s magnificence. I am reminded that we are all one, we are all here on this planet to contribute, to live, to love to share and finally return to mother earth and,  I believe, continue on our journey in some way.  Take a hike, ride a bike, visit the ocean or forest……nature’s healing awaits!

Peace, joy and adventure always,

40s goddess        Veronica Crystal Young

www.tvartscapes.com www.crystaleyesinc.com

Cougar Travel

What’s Important

As I reach another Birthday, I can’t help but think about ….what’s important.

Having been away from the hustle and bustle of work, city life for a week or so, it’s really easy to feel what is important, especially with this sunrise!

As I woke up at 5:30AM to pack up my camera & coffee, I started out praying the sun would cooperate with me this time and produce an amazing sight. As I drove thru the jungle and finally to the parking lot of the State Park, the sound of the pounding waves were unmistakable.  Four days past when the Tsunami was suppose to hit, mother nature was reeling. I grabbed my coffee and I could see in the distance the sun trying to peak out from behind grey clouds over a grey ocean.

The ground was made up of lava rocks and is covered in places with bright green; It is a beautiful contrast against the dark black rock.  As I neared the edge of the rock, the sun was barely creeping up in the horizon, the clouds had cleared a bit, and my heart was just soaring.  How can anyone be depressed, upset or sad around this? I actually cried a little at the stunning beauty.  It was breathtaking.  No one, I mean not a soul was around.   It was me and the ocean…..and the great creator.

I thought about my life, what had been joyful this past year, and what had been a challenge.  Those things I wish I could change, those things I needed to let go because I couldn’t change them, and I thought about what I wanted in my life. I have always been strong. I have always thought I knew what was important and what I wanted.  In this place……it was hard to think about “real” life.   At times I can find myself struggling with what I really want, with what’s important.  In this magical place, where you cannot help but feel magnificent calm and creative inspiration, I can see it very clearly.

Family. Love them and appreciate them with all your heart, for despite the trying times, and there will be some, they are your anchors to this life and to who you are.  Good or bad, they help shape you. Your parents and siblings helped shape your earliest thoughts and ideas about this world, yourself and others.  Your spouse helps you remember who you really are and shares your soul’s purpose. Your children help you re-examine life and how you see the world. Bless them, and tell them as often as possible, how much you love and care for them.  There is nothing as strong as family. (See Dad and Mom)

Friends. Love them and tell them often. Also forgive them, for there are times when they will disappoint or hurt you.  They are human, get over it. And know that true friends will always have your best interest at heart and will always protect and love you. (See “Friends” )

You. Love and forgive yourself, for there are times when you will disappoint and hurt yourself, times when you wish you could change the past.  Whatever you feel you did or did not do that caused any type of regret. You are human, get over it!  Life it too short. Despite our tradition of new year’s resolutions, the reality is, we have the opportunity daily to start over and renew our lives.

World Peace.  Enough said on that one.  I think you get it.

Bottom line  for what’s important – Love. Love for everyone and everything, no matter what is said, done or not done. No matter the circumstance, no matter the choices, the right choice and the only choice – is love.  That’s what’s important.  What a lovely world if everyone could just get this one thing.

It’s that simple….. and that hard.   Peace and Love my Friends….

40s Goddess  –  Veronica Crystal Young

www.tvartscapes.com www.crystaleyesinc.com

Regret

RegretAll I can say about this is Regret is such a negative emotion.  It also comes when we are not living in the present.  Regret can only live if we live in the past for how can you have regret for something in the future?  And if you regret something you did right now, as soon as you feel it, the time has past.  So let’s see what we can do about this emotion that can stifle, hurt and make you crazy!

Here is the textbook definition:  Regret is an intelligent and/or emotional dislike for personal past acts and behaviors. Regret is often felt when someone feels sadness, shame, embarrassment, depression, or guilt after committing an action or actions that the person later wishes that he or she had not done.

The reality is, if something is done, it’s done.  No amount of regret, sadness, depression…whatever you are feeling, (or should I say choose to feel), will change that fact.  I have three words to say consequences, communication and responsibility. My three favorite subjects!

Any and all action we take has a result (Consequence).  It is human nature to label these consequences as “good” or “bad” but I know I have to remember I am the one that labels this.  If I have what I consider a negative emotion based on some action I have had like sadness, depression, anger etc, I label the consequence “bad.”  When this happens, I have 3 choices.  1) Take some action to rectify the situation as you see it or 2) wallow in the bad feeling and hope it doesn’t last long (your choice) or 3)  Accept it, forgive yourself and move on. I suggest, as a rule, 1 or 3 because # 2 just builds walls and closes us off to people and experiences. Not a great way to live.

So, with that said, I confess I recently had been living in the “wallow.” I know, I know…take my own advice!  But sometimes it’s necessary to feel the hurt and pain of regret.  Maybe it will get you off your ass to do what you need to do, or feel you need to do!  I know it has me. I’m still working myself crazy at the hospital, but I am forcing myself to make time to do the projects, production and passion that feeds my soul.  We all have too….because Youth is in our Passions!   Hey, I think I just figured out my next segment!

So, be well my friends.  And always remember to live in the present, forgive the past, and go for your dreams. Life is too short!

Veronica Crystal Young – 40s Goddesss

www.tvartscapes.com www.crystaleyesinc.com

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Dad

Dad

As Father’s day came around again, last week I find I want to write about that days subject –  Dad’s.

We all have one. When we are little, they seem to be larger than life. This can be positive or negative, depending on your Dad, of course.  As a girl, you know and trust that Dad will protect and provide for you.  I can only assume it is the same for boys.

We get a lot from our parents.  How relationships work, how they don’t.  How to trust or not trust, how to love, how to hate.  Being a parent is a hugh responsibility.  Some people are meant to be parents, some not.  No matter which type of parent you think you are or will become, know that you have a great impact on the little ones that depend on you every day.

My Dad was very dedicated to us when we were young.  He worked 2 jobs and my mother was able to stay at home, which was a great thing.  When we four kids grew older, around 10-15, he took a job with the post office which is where he retired.  We always took great vacations – camping, boating, going to other states and national parks. It was a blast and those are times I will always cherish.

My dad was also “the enforcer.”  You know that line, “wait till your father gets home,” well we heard it a lot.  Or maybe it was just something us kids understood without the actual words being said.  We knew if we were giving mom grief or we were fighting a little too much, that we would be in trouble when Dad got home, so we were basically “scared” into being good kids.  I guess that’s the point, right?

Around my 7th or 8th grade year my Father changed. Maybe it was the fact that my two older brothers were at those difficult teenage years.  Maybe it was because his own memories of this teenage years came back to him (Whatever that was) and he couldn’t disconnect from the anger, hurt , guilt or abuse from his own past.  I don’t know.  Towards me he became more controlling and became physically abusive.  Towards my brothers he just became mean and we all suffered his psychological abuse.  No matter the reason, It happened and it is a part of my past and who I am. It always will be.  But the past is the past, and it is imprtant to understand and that.

As you grow older, the larger than life persona that was Dad fades away as we come to realize he is just  a man, just a human being like everyone else.  He has his faults, flaws, hang-ups…just like the rest of us.  There comes a time in every adult’s life where we can either blame our parents for the way our lives turned out, or we can forgive and move on to the reach the other side…to individuality, strength, self-worth and love.  It’s a much better road, I assure you.

I forgave my Dad along time ago.  He sits in a Alzheimer’s home currently.  He has forgotten the life of abuse he inflicted. It’s convenient I guess.  His guilt is also forgotten and he spends his time in “no time” with “no body.”  He lost his entire family due to his inability to search his soul, face himself and his demons and do what is right with the responsibility of raising a family.

I used to be sad on Father’s Day.  But now, I just remember the good man, the man I knew he was before whatever latched onto him that took him to dark places that he did not have the strength to battle.  Before he lost site of Love and of himself.

I forgive you Dad.  I love the man you once were…..and I miss him.I hope you find peace, I know I have.

So as Father’s day passes again, remember your Dad.   The good, the bad, the struggles, the joys…and bless the man that helped create the wonderful, strong, beautiful person that is YOU.

Love and Light always my friends,

Veronica Crystal Young –   40s Goddess

www.tvartscapes.com www.crystaleyesinc.com

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Choose Your Path

Last week was about Time, this week it’s choosing the right path to reach your dream.    I have found that being able to do many things can be both a blessing and a curse.  Keeping up with all my new business ventures and ideas, I sometimes find it hard to focus on what path I need to take FIRST.  I’ve done the brainstorming and dreaming, now it’s time to tackle the MAIN project that I am passionate about.  This is where it gets hard.

I’m passionate about all of them! OK- doing 8 million projects half-assed is not going to work! In order to keep my sanity and actually make progress toward my goals, I have to put some things on the back burner.  I always feel like I am going to miss the boat if I don’t implement and finish a project as soon as I envision it,  but having the discipline to stay on track with a primary goal is important for success.   

Don’t spread yourself too thin with project after project.  Starting out on your own with little or no capitol and alot of ideas can be discouraging to say the least.  But DO WHAT YOU LOVE, do what makes you happy, do what feeds your soul…..and it will all come together.

My passion is creativity, on all levels.  One passion is photography.  I took all the pictures on this blog either with a digital camera or from a video still.  One project is to make cards and bookmarks with inspirational sayings with these images.  Another passion is nature, videography and editing, hence the creation of TV ArtScapes DVDs.  And let’s not forget filmmaking – Producing shows that inspire, inform, motivate and make us laugh!  We sure could use it with what is out there right now!!!

Notice healthcare is not on the passion list?  I’ve been doing that for 24 years.  It has served me well but the path I choose now is my creativity. 

So people, What do you dream of doing?  Is there a particular path you feel compelled to take?  What steps can you take to be on that path?  Let’s all Dream this week, shall we?  and remember to

Love, Live and choose Your Path,

 -VCYoung, 40’s Goddess     

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www.crystaleyesinc.com