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Challenges

ChallengesChallenges are always at the root of growth. They can be issues that are work related, family, friends….maybe even our very thoughts on where we stand with religion, our country, and the state of the world.

I have always welcomed challenge, as it is an opportunity for personal growth. An opportunity to demonstrate who I really am as well as reflect on any choices I make and how they impact the world and others. Facing difficult situations is also a great time to evaluate what is really important in your life, what is worth your time and energy. If dealing with a stressful situation leaves you drained and unable to be yourself and who you truly are, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate your participation? If you decide to continue to engage the challenge, how might you take care of yourself in combating stress, fatigue, anger or depression?

Challenges are thrown up daily, and we can develop our own prescriptions to fight these burn-out symptoms, and help us master the art of “being.” I like to say “BE” stands for Beginning and End. Beginning and End occupy the same time, which is NOW. In order to just experience the NOW, we need to be present and not allow thoughts and worries about the past or future, about those “challenges” that might have derailed our stability.

I always try to make the time to go to a beach, a lake or take a walk in nature if life drains my psyche.   Reflection for me is so much easier away from the constant barrage of electronics and people. God’s rhythms of the ocean waves, a waterfall or the wind thru the trees in a forest always makes for a deep connection to “Be” and “Now”, not to mention a total recharge and reconnect for my mind.

So welcome challenges. Welcome them as wonderful chances to grow, reflect, make choices, be in the Now, and reflect who you truly are.   Beautiful and Love.

Love and Light Always,

Veronica Crystal Young   40s Goddess

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Stolen

Well I’ve debated on whether to even write this or not, but I decided it would be a good idea if even one person is helped by it. 

Last week my wallet was stolen, right out of my purse, in a grocery store. I turned my back for a moment when reaching for items, and it was gone when I went to check-out. Damn! No wallet.   Within 20 minutes 3 credit cards had fraudulent charges on them. Thank goodness the grocery store was close to my home and I was able to call all companies and the bank quickly and report the theft.

I was devastated, not to mention angry.  I sometimes forget that there are people in this world who are selfish, criminal and just plain bad.  People who have no regard for others at all.  I tend to think the absolute best of people until they show their ugly side.  I made excuses like they must have been hungry or maybe they had children to feed or they have been out of work, etc.  But the way the charges happened so fast, and in different directions from the store, calculated and direct, made me realize these were just plain thieves, robbers and horrible people. Later that week I discovered that there had been a robbery that same night in the parking garage. 

I guess I can count my lucky stars I wasn’t directly engaged and the theft happened without a confrontation, but that doesn’t help the feeling of violation and the headaches of getting your life back in order after this type of ordeal.

It has been a week and there was so much to do.  If this ever happens to you there are obvious actions to take.  1) Call all Credit cards and report cards stolen. 2) Place an alert on all 3 credit agencies regarding stolen wallet.  3) Make a police report that details what happened and the lost sustained.  4) Apply for new License with DMV. 

Also, just to prepare for the worst, always keep Credit card info for cards you have in your wallet at home.  Only carry cards you actually use.  And I hope I don’t have to remind everyone to never keep your PINS, social security card or passwords in your wallet. That’s just common sense.   Always make sure you have a secret password on all your credit cards.  It is an additional security piece of information that you can request on your cards.

So this incident is behind me.  I am still disheartened by the apathy of the grocery store and the police, but with everything else going on in the world, I guess one lost wallet is low on the totem pole. And you can be sure these thieves count on that.

So my friends, just a note to stay alert, always keep your purse and wallet close, and try to keep a positive attitude about people when something like this happens.   Lean on your friends and family for moral and emotional support, and remember each day is a gift.  To be lived fully and freely…..while keeping both eyes open about the truth of the less than honest people of the world.

Remember, no one can steal your happiness or love, unless you let them.  Don’t let them!  Back to editing the next DVD – MountainScapes.

Peace, Love and Light always,

Veronica Crystal Young   40s Goddess

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Courage

 This 4th of July holds a special significance for me. We all know what courage and resolve our forefathers needed to forge a new world order.   This year I have seen courage in some close friends and family, and I, too, have had to muster up a healthy dose. 

Courage. It’s not easy.
  
In this world where technology is increasingly replacing human connection, where jobs are sparse and tempers are high, and where psychological and physical abuse continues to create self-doubt, pain, and fear, Courage is necessary. 

*Necessary to really face ourselves, our faults and shortcomings. To be daring and place ourselves out in the world; vulnerable to hurt, failure, or fear of the unknown, or fear of repeating the past.
*Necessary to express who we really are.
*Necessary to be there for others in hard times.
*Necessary to speak up for our truths and our opinions. To have a voice and to know we count. Remembering that every person matters and is entitled to their opinion or truth, and no one is more important than another.

Courage is the nerve to speak up and act on our dreams, or tell our truths even in the face of all our fears.  Fear of not being accepted, being rejected, failing…I’m sure you can fill in whatever fear it is that keeps you from being all you can be; speaking your truth or living your life fully.  

It’s not easy.  My last post was about being open.  Being courageous is going one more step and having the guts to place yourself in situations that are hard and that have scary consequences, at least “perceived” scary consequences.   And we tend to be swayed by our expectation of those scary consequences.  But here’s the deal….  

Remember that the past does not equal the future, and NOW is the only true time. If we can remember this in every circumstance, and have faith that the universal Mother/Father/God will present what is best and next for us on this road called Life, then we will always have Courage. Our job then becomes the ability to see the path presented and find the choices that are true to who we are and who we want to be.  Trust your intuition on that path. It is the breathe of the Universe.

So this 4th of July, remember courage. Have the courage to speak up and have your voice heard. The courage to face a difficult task or help a friend or family member with a hard choice or situation. The courage to be vulnerable in the world. The courage to be 100% who you really are and find peace, happiness, freedom……..and love.  Your heart will know, trust it.  I do.  It is the greatest gift to ourselves we can give.

Live life, People!  With Love…….. and with COURAGE.

Veronica Crystal Young     -40s Goddess

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Permission

Sitting here watching the sailboats go out of the marina, the sun trying to crack thru the haze, I see birds flocking around the empty tables looking for any morsel of nourishment they can find.  Peaceful when no one is around, but I know soon it will be bustling with people, adults and kids alike, taking advantage of the beautiful holiday weekend.

Yes, I’m not working today.  I had to sit down with myself yesterday and have a serious talk.  I have been running myself into the ground with work certifications, extra curricular activities and my businesses at home with no time for myself at all.  Looking in the mirror lately is just scary!  So I set some time aside to clean the house, it was such a mess.  When I was done I took a long, hot bath, went to bed early and promised myself that I had to take care of having a day off at least once a week.

Now unless you know me, you do not know how hard that is to do!  I always feel like I have to be doing something, especially for my businesses.  A very good and wise friend asked me, “Who has set the deadline on anything for your businesses?”  I had to stop and say, well me.  Why am I doing this to myself.  It is just crazy.

I told myself, well there ARE reasons.  I have to make sure I write the blog at least monthly, I have to do a News show at least monthly, I have to get the new Website up, I have to actually finish the 3 DVDs in post-production for TV ArtScapes…..and of course, I have to go to my regular work 50 hours a week!  Man, I need to get a life, I thought.

Another very good friend of mine came to my rescue a few weeks ago when I was in meltdown mode.  He said, you know, if you put all that energy into the film you want to make, you’d have it done in a year.  I thought, about it, and you know, he is so right. But would putting all my other projects on hold for a year feel like I failed? I thought it might but again, there is really no timeline but the one I have set.  And my pursuits and energy, while very diverse, have allowed me to realize and create many of my dream projects, but having limited time, exhausts me for sure!

So it’s all about permission.  Giving yourself permission to take the road and path you feel the most strongly about.  Make the decision and have laser focus on that path.  You will accomplish what you need to do, or if you don’t, you may found out you want to change that path or at least find out what NOT to do on the way to that goal.

So give yourself permission to have laser focus.  If you have other pursuits, don’t feel like you have failed, they are “on hold” for now.  While you go after your dream, and experience life to the fullest!  Blessing to all, and my you live life to the fullest!

Love and Light Always!

Veronica Crystal Young

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Choose Love

I sat on the edge of the Grand Canyon. The snow was so white, and it glistened as it lay next to the red and orange rock that made up a frightening drop off a cliff. The snow had stopped just hours before and the clouds, light from the release, looked like cotton in the sky, and they threw eerie shadows over this great wonder of the world.  The wind was cold and it whipped thru the Canyon, as if to announce, “I can whip thru the open air  and I can go wherever I want; over your Cliffs, thru your trees, down ravines.”  It didn’t care if there were walls and cliffs a mile deep, it found it’s way to the bottom and back up again, sometimes with such force it knocked over weak signs and old tree trunks that had the life taken from them, except for the snakes and critters that might call them home.

 

What a place.  I seem so small compared to this great Canyon, a beauty of mother earth that has been a place of wonder and astonishment for centuries.  Being here, any worries or supposed hardships in my life, any doubts, any negativity or hurt seems to melt away.  There is only Love, love of this place called Earth and its’ mysteries, love of the people I see here, love for myself; feelings of awe, blessings, and peace.  How I wish everyone could experience it. To open your heart and feel love all around and feel so full.  I tell you it is the best medicine on earth!

I am so happy and fortunate to have my friends, my work, my family….my life.  We all have hardships, to varying degrees. But no matter where our paths have taken us, we always have the power and the choice to love.  Never forget that.  You don’t have to be in a wonderful, inspiring place to feel and experience the love, all you have to do is chose it. It’s there, believe me.

This Holiday season, remember to sprinkle each day with love.  No matter where you are, no matter what time, what place, what people you are with, always remember to open your heart to Love.  Be thankful for what you have and who you are.  And know that you are loved too.

Peace and Love to you my friends, always…..

40’s Goddess     Veronica Crystal Young

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Relax Already!

Relax Already!

So you would think that being in one of the most beautiful places on earth would make one relax, wind down and really take life slow, releasing all the tensions and problems one thinks is clogging up their life. Well, I’m here to tell you…. no! It’s not that easy for some of us.

There I was in Maui, at the beautiful Hyatt Hotel with stunning waterfalls, lagoons, and several pools right on the ocean, and it still was hard to just relax, sleep on a lounge chair or read a book, at least for an hour or two. I was still so anxious and in work mode, it was hard to “turn off” totally. I know it will take a few days…thank goodness I was there for a few days, at least I’ll be relaxed by the third day….I hope.

Does it take you some time to decompress? Do you get anxious or feel like you should be “doing” something to fill up the time? I, at least, have my videography and filming that makes me feel like I am not “wasting time.” And what is wasting time? Why do some of us feel that if we are not pursing our passions, working towards something or visiting family or friends that we are “wasting time?” I guess it comes from being a type A personality, where nothing is ever quite done, nothing is ever perfect. I have to sit down with myself and have a heart to heart talk, and give myself permission to relax. Permission to let time run out and watch it go by with absolutely no regret for not filling it with work, or calls or “business stuff.” I was going to be filming in a few days and that is my greatest joy, but until then, laying by the pool, sipping a pina colada and making new friends was just gonna have to do! It’s rough…..I know.

So give yourself permission to just be and enjoy time without feeling like you have to be somewhere, be doing anything or talking to anyone. Enjoy the “Being” and the rejuvenation will begin. You will have a fresh perspective on everything and you can actually start the process of learning how to “be” all the time, even when you are home, at work or in stressful situations. Teach yourself to take a moment to check into the “being” state. It is the Now, it is sacred, and it is necessary….for all of us.

Peace and love my friends. May you find the state of “being,’ relaxed and rejuvenated by life’s simple moments. They are life’s greatest moments.  Mahalo….

40s Goddess    Veronica Crystal Young

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Control

As I sit here on the beautiful island of Maui, I find myself thinking about Control. I have been going thru a control phase in my life, mostly because lately at work I have had to juggle a lot of information, people, personalities and projects, as well as assign tasks and manage a new team of analysts.   Control and extreme organization is a must and I find it is spilling over into my personal and home life.   Now this can be good and this can be bad.

The Good. I have organized and de-cluttered  my house.  I went thru the entire house picking up things that the neighborhood shelter or salvation army could use. A good friend of mine was great enough to build me some shelves in my home office and I finally can see and actually use my 3rd bathroom.  I have transformed it into my own personal “Spa” where I can pamper myself, take bubble baths , light candles and burn Eucalyptus oils while listening to the “Spa” channel on XM, and watching the ocean waves of Hawaii or a waterfall from Oregon. Ahhhh.   So feeling so out of control at work, I felt the need to have control over my home situation.   If the house or my office is a mess, It’s one more thing that I can’t get a handle on and I can be easily distracted. Walking into the clean, organized house, seeing everything in it’s place and just being able to unwind from the hectic day at the office is heaven, and has been my saving grace.

The Bad. At work, If I am not conscience of it, I can get really, really detailed and anal and drive everyone crazy, including myself I might add.  Trying to put processes and workflows in place and making sure everyone follows them for tracking and accountability purposes is just a real pain, but necessary to get the job done and keep juggling everything so we are on track. That’s the bad at work.  The bad in my personal life is a bit more complex.

When emotions run high, I sometimes lose perspective and I realize I really need to keep the control issue in check.  How do I do that? Well, first thing, I realize nothing is real anyway.  We make so much up.  The situation you are upset about, the guy you are wishing will call, the deal you are wishing would happen…….People, let it go!  Surrender. That’s all I can say.

You will drive yourself nuts trying to analyze everything.  We women are good at that one. Things will happen if they are suppose to happen, try to leave it to the Higher power. Try…it’s hard.  You have to believe whatever is best for you, mother/father/god will provide. Whatever you need in this life, whatever your challenges and lessons, you will overcome and learn.  I’m not saying don’t prepare, study, plan or engage in relationship, I’m just saying realize after you do the work, meet that special person, or present your deal, you need to let “life happen.”

What is your path?  What is your life’s passion?  Who is your life’s partner?  When will it reveal itself? When will he show up?  Will you miss it? Will you misread signs based on your wants and needs?  It all seems so complicated, but it really is not. Just surrender people.  Everything is as it should be. We have to believe that.  Being in this beautiful place called Maui at the moment, how can I not know and feel this as truth?  I do, and yes, it’s still hard.

We all have lessons to learn, and if we don’t learn them the first time, don’t worry, they will be back soon enough…another time, another place.  You can count on it.

Control.  Just Surrender.  It’s that simple…..and that hard.

Peace and love always,

40s Goddess    Veronica Crystal Young

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Live Your Best Life

LiveYourBestLife

So this week I really hit a wall.   Working so many hours and neglecting my creative side and time with friends and family really has been taking its toll.  I had to re-evaluate what is important in my life (Yet again) and what it will take to actually, as Oprah says “Live my Best Life.”

I had to ask myself, what is killing myself at work doing for me?  What gratification do I get out of it?  There must be some reason.  And then the worst thought crossed my mind.  Is it because Crystal Eyes Entertainment and the DVD business was feeling a little success and I got scared?  You know the whole, “afraid of success” mentality.  I never really understood that concept but maybe I am sabotaging my creative success for the stable life the hospital affords?  That makes me even more frustrated than I already am!

So what does being a workaholic mean? Is it for the feeling of accomplishment I feel when things get done correctly? The satisfaction I feel when heading up a big project and seeing it become a success? Is it the feeling that I make a difference? Is it for the recognition of a job well done?  Is it because any less than perfect would not be acceptable? Yes, I think all those things, at least for me.  Ask yourself this hard question if you have the workaholic syndrome too. Sometimes you can be surprised at the answers.

So what do I need to do to avoid the “Comfort” eating, the “Couch Potato” syndrome after working for 12 hours at the Hospital?  What do I need to do to get my energy back, have more time to spend with Friends and Family, work on my creative projects, have time and money to travel to great places and still make time to find that special man?   All these things will make up my formula for “Living My Best life.”  Commitment and determination will be the key to my success.  Oh, and that trip to Cabo and Hawaii later this year will help with the motivation, don’t you know!

So what is YOUR Formula for Living Your Best Life?  What can you commit to this week to ensure you are living it?

Just do it. No excuses. Half the year is over.  What are you waiting for?

Love and Light, my friends,

40s Goddess

Veronica Crystal Young      www.tvartscapes.com www.crystaleyesinc.com

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