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LIFE

Contemplate, self evaluate, make choices, weigh consequences, work hard, be kind to yourself and others, appreciate nature and all its gifts, take responsibility for your actions, respect others opinions, and love-love-love.

Create your life, Create your loves, Be who you really are. There is only one YOU.    May your New Year be filled with……… Life.

 

Some great quotes for the New Year:

“In the end, it’s not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how man moments took your breath away.” ― Shing Xiong

“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” ― Mae West

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” ― Oscar Wilde

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” ― George Bernard Shaw

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” ― Anne Frank

“Where there is love there is life.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

Enough said…

Veronica Crystal Young     -40s Goddess      www.tvartscapes.com

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ADVENTURE Push your limits

Fun, excitment, pushing limits……We all need it. At least that is what this writer thinks. 

Haven’t you ever seen extreme rock climbing, or bungee jumping, skydiving or ziplining and said, “Man, that looks fun but I could never do that!”

The morning started with anticipation and nervousness as we all gathered around the black harnesses laying on the floor.  Our instructors’ names were Amy and Robert, two young pups who had much fun pulling our legs and trying to add a little levity to the situation, as you could see the unspoken nervousness in some peoples eyes. “Anyone ever zipped before?”  Silence.  Instruction began and one of the main training points was how to slow down and brake.  Careful training ensued with step by step instructions about the importance of first looking up at the cable, and then placing your hand in the proper position to brake and have control of your speed.  Assessing your position from the treetop landing station and judging your pressure on the wire was very important.

There were several treetop reiteration of this instruction, especially when my best friend came hurling to a landing station full force without heeding Amy’s bird flapping arms indicating SLOW DOWN. 

Zipping across the forest tree-tops at 20-40 miles an hour with nothing but the clothes on your back really empowers you to feel like you have control over your destiny, because in this situation, you REALLY do.   If you do not brake correctly you could come up short at the end of the ZIP and have to pull your way into the treetop station. Brake to late and you could crash and burn.  Well, not really, because Amy and Robert are professionals and there are safeguards for that, but you get my meaning. 

I don’t know about you it seems to me most people, including me, get caught up in their everyday routines, and all the pressures of life, and we forget to take risks, forget to challenge ourselves, because frankly, we are too tired. Try to make a real effort to do something to challenge yourself, push your comfort zones.   Zip thru life with excitement and no fear.   If you must put on the brakes, do so smoothly with clear intention.  Take your time to assess all choices, consequences, and responsibilities to arrive at any and all destinations and goals.  We always have the choice and the power over our own destinies, even if, at times, it doesn’t feel like it.

Oh, and if you do try something, and you find that it is too overwhelming to handle for where you are today, remember you can always go back and try again. Sometimes when this happens I like to visualize before actually doing the “push my limits” exercise. Like skydiving.  Pretty intense. I thank God the clouds came in after flight school because I had to wait to jump.  I had a whole week to visualize jumping out of that plane, and it helped when it came time to take that leap.

We all really should try to do something at least once a month, definitely once a year, outside our comfort zone. Push yourself to reach the place of challenge and exhilaration because, believe me, it can change your perspective and have a positive impact on how you feel about yourself and your path. Just try it once.  Like the ad says….Just Do It!

You’ll be glad you did. And remember, “It is said, the man who lives without risk, does not live.”

Veronica Crystal Young    40s Goddess        www.tvartscapes.com

                            

Open

Last weekend I attended a retreat at the the beautiful Glen Ivy Hot Springs Resort and Spa. It was an inspirational place, and I loved it that my room was right next to a stream and waterfall for early morning walks.

The weekend started with a lovely gathering in the main lodge. The theme for the weekend was “love.” Well let’s face it, you can’t get a better topic or a more inspiring focus then that.

The women were from all over, from as far as New York and Canada. We all chose what aspect of love we wanted to focus on for the weekend, and we placed a symbol of that focus on the gold, fabric draped steps of the great room. I thought about what I brought as a symbol of love, and I knew immediately what my focus had to be.

In my hands was a stone shaped heart. I bought it in Sedona, one of the gorgeous places I love to go for reflection and renewal, and it seemed to have all the qualities of love. It had sections to it, lighter sections that seemed to be held together with darker strands of gold. To me the lighter sections symbolized the “pieces” of love, all the emotions and circumstances we encounter like passion, fear, doubt, acceptance, honesty, trust, hurt, compromise….and many more. The dark gold stand symbolized how a relationship is always held together with the power of love. BUT, the best thing about my heart rock was the center. It opened up to reveal dazzling, brilliant, crystals and that is where I found my inspiration for my focus that weekend.

Openness. As I held the heart rock in my hand, I was reminded that being open to love, being open to receive and being open to give, THAT is where the brilliance is. “Open” can be hard as we encounter life’s challenges, as we are hurt by the words and deeds of others, as we navigate our own doubts and build walls of protection and fear. Sometimes our own actions can derail us and we find it difficult to forgive ourselves. But if we open our hearts to the oneness in this world, to the magnificence of every living thing and every other person, we will know and experience love. A love of no judgement, no conditions and a love that includes love of ourselves, because how can there be magnificence in this world and not have it include you? We are all one. I can’t tell you how walking anywhere with a conscious openness can change your life. Peace, joy, a feeling of belonging and that you are never alone. Pretty awesome when we can remember to approach everything in life this way and make a conscious choice to remain open.

I have my stone heart sitting on my nightstand so as I wake up every morning I can remember to be “open” to life’s great treasures; in nature, in people, in the challenges of circumstance. Joy, peace, happiness and love is yours, be open to it.

The brilliance of open …….is magic. May you find it and keep it, for being open is Love.

Veronica Crystal Young    40sGoddess-

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Valentine’s Day

Well, it’s Valentine’s Day, and I’m in beautiful Lake Tahoe again. A romantic setting…. gorgeous sunset, the lake, a fire pit, a martini, and inspiration. At least that is what comes up or me. Does it matter that I’m here alone on this day? Does it matter that I see couples everywhere, sharing their lives, dreams and moments together? Does it sting, just a little? 

 In years past it has been hard to be alone on this special of days. A day to express appreciation, caring and love for that special someone is your life. But what to do if you are currently single? What if that special “other” is not in the picture, at least for now?

I decided to treat myself to a great late lunch by the Lake at my favorite resturaunt. It is right on the lake, has picture windows and I am writing, reflecting and capturing the moment in both video and pictures, my favorite thing to do. I am so full of peace and love. Isn’t that what Valentine’s Day is all about? Do you need another person to feel those things? I don’t think so. But with that said, let’s face it, seeing a beautiful sunset, walking the bamboo forest or experiencing the power of a waterfall is just that much more  magnificent when shared. THAT is what I miss.

So if you are single, if that significant other has eluded you to date, do something for that special “you.”
That wonderful, loving person that YOU are. You deserve it. Learn to appreciate you and the time you have in this life. Appreciate the NOW that is so difficult to continually live in this crazy world. Celebrate and love the person you are! All of you. No matter what faults you think you have, or what your perception is of what you are lacking.  

By the way, we don’t need a special day to celebrate. Live the celebration of YOU every day. Make the plan to do something for your wonderful self at least once a month. Because you, my dears, are gorgeous and complete just as you are, and just as you are NOW.   You are a Goddess after all!

Love to you this Valentine’s Day. May your days be filled with Love. And here’s wishing, if you desire it, that someone special will appear in your life. Someone deserving, and exactly what you want…..to share life moments.

 Peace and light,

Veronica Crystal Young   

Integrity

Ok, so it was time to re-evaluate a few priorities again.  Yes. It’s a constant struggle, this thing called life.  Always encountering situations where we can continue to create who we are.

Sometimes on this journey, we encounter situations that test our integrity.   What do we believe, who are we, what do we want to project.  Do we compromise what we know is right even just for a little while because, well, we just “need to?” Do we have something to prove or does our mind go a mile a minute rationalizing the situation? We women are good at that. Do we take care of ourselves or someone else at the cost of our own integrity?  Do we have something we did that we are not proud of and that we beat ourselves up for?

Here’s a news flash.  Everyone does.  Cut your self a break!  As women, we evaluate, questions, evaluate again, dissect a situation to death! Why this, why that, what did I do to bring this on, and even “What was I thinking!”

All we have to remember, at any time, in any situation, is who we are and what we want to be is defined by our actions.  That really is it.  And if we stumble, if we fall, if we experience a “What the hell did I do” moment, it’s ok.  Make amends and apologies if it’s needed, and forgive yourself….for being human, having a lapse in judgement or for losing yourself for the moment, and move on with your fantastic, wonderful life. Because it is! Believe that too, and if you don’t, well that’s another subject all together.  “What do you need to be happy.”

Integrity.  It is what we believe and how we act based on those beliefs.  Make no mistake.  Actions speak louder than words and if you are not acting in alignment with your beliefs or words, you might need to evaluate what you really do believe, or who you really are.  And people, that can be a painful realization sometimes.  But not one that can’t be changed. That’s what life is all about, the journey…constant change….evaluation of self, connection and Love …always love.   At least that is what this writer believes.  Besides, How boring would life be without challenges, change and growth?

So as I sit by the pool in beautiful Palm Springs, (yes, I have to brag) I am grateful for everything and everyone in my life.  My family and friends fill me with love and I am blessed for it.  My work (All of the various hats I wear) fulfills me. My work relationships can be challenging, but I would have it no other way for it helps me grow. And I thank mother/father/god for my life, my experiences and the lessons that move me closer to oneness, for truly, we are all one.  Blessed be,,…

GO AND GET IT!  Whatever it is!

Veronica Crystal Young                 www.tvartscapes.com

Choose Love

I sat on the edge of the Grand Canyon. The snow was so white, and it glistened as it lay next to the red and orange rock that made up a frightening drop off a cliff. The snow had stopped just hours before and the clouds, light from the release, looked like cotton in the sky, and they threw eerie shadows over this great wonder of the world.  The wind was cold and it whipped thru the Canyon, as if to announce, “I can whip thru the open air  and I can go wherever I want; over your Cliffs, thru your trees, down ravines.”  It didn’t care if there were walls and cliffs a mile deep, it found it’s way to the bottom and back up again, sometimes with such force it knocked over weak signs and old tree trunks that had the life taken from them, except for the snakes and critters that might call them home.

 

What a place.  I seem so small compared to this great Canyon, a beauty of mother earth that has been a place of wonder and astonishment for centuries.  Being here, any worries or supposed hardships in my life, any doubts, any negativity or hurt seems to melt away.  There is only Love, love of this place called Earth and its’ mysteries, love of the people I see here, love for myself; feelings of awe, blessings, and peace.  How I wish everyone could experience it. To open your heart and feel love all around and feel so full.  I tell you it is the best medicine on earth!

I am so happy and fortunate to have my friends, my work, my family….my life.  We all have hardships, to varying degrees. But no matter where our paths have taken us, we always have the power and the choice to love.  Never forget that.  You don’t have to be in a wonderful, inspiring place to feel and experience the love, all you have to do is chose it. It’s there, believe me.

This Holiday season, remember to sprinkle each day with love.  No matter where you are, no matter what time, what place, what people you are with, always remember to open your heart to Love.  Be thankful for what you have and who you are.  And know that you are loved too.

Peace and Love to you my friends, always…..

40’s Goddess     Veronica Crystal Young

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What Do You Need To Be Happy

What do you need to be happy? This is a hard question sometimes and one I have been asking myself again lately.  Why now, you may ask?  Well, I do this about every two years, evaluate what I really want, why I want it, can I get it, and again why I want it. I think it is important to ask yourself why you want it the most because sometimes what you think you want, when it comes right down to it, you really don’t. You like the romance of it maybe, the glamour of it, the fact that it feeds your Mr. Ego man, “Fred, living in your head” maybe, but do you really want all that this choice entails?

Is it the fact that you choose something that seems unreachable or that you can never have which just points out a useless impulse to go after something unattainable. Are you constantly trying to find that perfect job, perfect partner, perfect vacation, perfect friend, perfect life? What about where you are now?  What about who is here now, the job you have now, the friends you have now, your home now? What needs to change to make you feel that you are truly happy and have it all the way you truly want it.  Well, I’ll tell you what needs to change.  YOU.

You need to change.  It’s all in your attitude and in your choice in how you choose to look at it. I’m not saying that seeking a better life, having goals and reaching for those dreams is not important, I’m just saying being miserable with your life or incomplete for being where you are in life journey is just useless and an excuse.

Choose to be happy and thankful with where you are. Make changes in your life if you want to allow the universe to present different options for you. Believe me, She will.

What’s next on your journey called life to excite, challenge, create, & love.  I don’t know about you but I want life to be an adventure, one that I live every day, (or at least on the weekends!) I can’t be bothered with those who mull thru life day after day with no purpose, challenges, passions or dreams.  To be honest, I cannot even imagine it.  How can you relate to that for goodness sakes?  It’s boring, it’s safe….. it’s time to shake it up people!  Ok, ok, I realize I’m on my soap box about passion and dreams again, and yes I have some goals I still pursue.  Keeps me active….and tired!  But I can’t go thru life waiting for the next vacation or the next relationship or the next day to do what I want.  I need to do it now, waiting is not an option when it comes to happiness.

And another thing about waiting. Clean out that closet, unclutter your life, simplify.  There is no time like the present!  You will be amazed at how this opens up your space for change both physically and mentally.

I have been blessed with 2 lives, one creative that feeds my passions and soul, and one “practical” that feeds me, literally.  And recently I just came back from beautiful Vail, Colorado shooting another title in the TV ArtScapes series. “MountainScapes.” Gorgeous rivers, waterfalls and mountains. Every time I visit nature and these beautiful places, I am inspired yet again to live each day to the fullest, to appreciate and love where I am now and who I am now.   How about you?  What are you waiting for…yet again?

Blessings and Love always,

40s Goddess      Veronica Crystal Young www.tvartscapes.com

Control

As I sit here on the beautiful island of Maui, I find myself thinking about Control. I have been going thru a control phase in my life, mostly because lately at work I have had to juggle a lot of information, people, personalities and projects, as well as assign tasks and manage a new team of analysts.   Control and extreme organization is a must and I find it is spilling over into my personal and home life.   Now this can be good and this can be bad.

The Good. I have organized and de-cluttered  my house.  I went thru the entire house picking up things that the neighborhood shelter or salvation army could use. A good friend of mine was great enough to build me some shelves in my home office and I finally can see and actually use my 3rd bathroom.  I have transformed it into my own personal “Spa” where I can pamper myself, take bubble baths , light candles and burn Eucalyptus oils while listening to the “Spa” channel on XM, and watching the ocean waves of Hawaii or a waterfall from Oregon. Ahhhh.   So feeling so out of control at work, I felt the need to have control over my home situation.   If the house or my office is a mess, It’s one more thing that I can’t get a handle on and I can be easily distracted. Walking into the clean, organized house, seeing everything in it’s place and just being able to unwind from the hectic day at the office is heaven, and has been my saving grace.

The Bad. At work, If I am not conscience of it, I can get really, really detailed and anal and drive everyone crazy, including myself I might add.  Trying to put processes and workflows in place and making sure everyone follows them for tracking and accountability purposes is just a real pain, but necessary to get the job done and keep juggling everything so we are on track. That’s the bad at work.  The bad in my personal life is a bit more complex.

When emotions run high, I sometimes lose perspective and I realize I really need to keep the control issue in check.  How do I do that? Well, first thing, I realize nothing is real anyway.  We make so much up.  The situation you are upset about, the guy you are wishing will call, the deal you are wishing would happen…….People, let it go!  Surrender. That’s all I can say.

You will drive yourself nuts trying to analyze everything.  We women are good at that one. Things will happen if they are suppose to happen, try to leave it to the Higher power. Try…it’s hard.  You have to believe whatever is best for you, mother/father/god will provide. Whatever you need in this life, whatever your challenges and lessons, you will overcome and learn.  I’m not saying don’t prepare, study, plan or engage in relationship, I’m just saying realize after you do the work, meet that special person, or present your deal, you need to let “life happen.”

What is your path?  What is your life’s passion?  Who is your life’s partner?  When will it reveal itself? When will he show up?  Will you miss it? Will you misread signs based on your wants and needs?  It all seems so complicated, but it really is not. Just surrender people.  Everything is as it should be. We have to believe that.  Being in this beautiful place called Maui at the moment, how can I not know and feel this as truth?  I do, and yes, it’s still hard.

We all have lessons to learn, and if we don’t learn them the first time, don’t worry, they will be back soon enough…another time, another place.  You can count on it.

Control.  Just Surrender.  It’s that simple…..and that hard.

Peace and love always,

40s Goddess    Veronica Crystal Young

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Dreams

DreamsDreams.   We all have them.

Something that makes our heart dance and our soul sing.  Something that we know we were born to do.   But how many of us have given up on our dreams?  How many times have we made excuses and justified not following our hearts desire? How many times have someone said to us, you’re crazy!  You’d give up XYZ to go and do that?  How many times have we passed up opportunity for comfort or “being safe?”

Having a “great job” has it benefits as well as its’ traps if you are not pursuing your passion.  Giving up on your dreams is a sure way to age and have those horrible emotions depression and regret visit your door. Don’t let it happen!

So with that said, I have embarked on a new adventure!  One of my dreams has always been to empower and inspire women.  Having come from a less than positive childhood, I have always felt the need to empower  women to believe that they are powerful, beautiful, sexy women, who have total control over their destiny. …. .at any age, size, shape, or color. There are many stereotypes and assumptions made about people and with the constant media stream of what is considered beautiful and acceptable, judgments and labels abound.  One label that has emerged, hardly new but more used now, is the label “cougar.”   This label is being used for women, over the age of 40 who enjoy going after what they want, are confident and secure in who they are and have the courage to go after it,….Oh, and what they tend to like is the company of younger men.  I love that!

Unfortunately, the label has become a negative one, with a horrible TV show in past years called “The Cougar” and the recent addition to the fall line-up “Cougartown” with Courtney Cox.  I’ve been watching it and at least every women in it is not a sleeze or desperate, older women on the prowl….but it’s close.  The jury is still out on this one.

My take on the whole thing is why do women have to be labeled if they date younger men?  If they are confident, know what they want, are independent and go after it…why the animal label? I’m sure a man came up with that one!

So, with all that said, besides producing the “TV ArtScapes” relaxation nature series for HD and big screen TVs, my latest endeavor takes me to producing my own women’s news magazine show.   Granted I have taken advantage of this term ”cougar” for part of the title, “The Cougar News,” but only in that I want to change the perception and make it a positive one.  One that means a women is confident, happy, secure, independent, beautiful and knows what she wants, and personally, I don’t think that’s a bad thing, Frankly, It’s about time.

So to all the women out there, at any age….you are Wise, Powerful, Beautiful…and Youth is in your Passions and Dreams.  Go and Get it!

Show 1 – The Cougar News   Hunter vs Hunted
Getting Ready to Launch
40s Goddess   Veronica Crystal Young
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Regret

RegretAll I can say about this is Regret is such a negative emotion.  It also comes when we are not living in the present.  Regret can only live if we live in the past for how can you have regret for something in the future?  And if you regret something you did right now, as soon as you feel it, the time has past.  So let’s see what we can do about this emotion that can stifle, hurt and make you crazy!

Here is the textbook definition:  Regret is an intelligent and/or emotional dislike for personal past acts and behaviors. Regret is often felt when someone feels sadness, shame, embarrassment, depression, or guilt after committing an action or actions that the person later wishes that he or she had not done.

The reality is, if something is done, it’s done.  No amount of regret, sadness, depression…whatever you are feeling, (or should I say choose to feel), will change that fact.  I have three words to say consequences, communication and responsibility. My three favorite subjects!

Any and all action we take has a result (Consequence).  It is human nature to label these consequences as “good” or “bad” but I know I have to remember I am the one that labels this.  If I have what I consider a negative emotion based on some action I have had like sadness, depression, anger etc, I label the consequence “bad.”  When this happens, I have 3 choices.  1) Take some action to rectify the situation as you see it or 2) wallow in the bad feeling and hope it doesn’t last long (your choice) or 3)  Accept it, forgive yourself and move on. I suggest, as a rule, 1 or 3 because # 2 just builds walls and closes us off to people and experiences. Not a great way to live.

So, with that said, I confess I recently had been living in the “wallow.” I know, I know…take my own advice!  But sometimes it’s necessary to feel the hurt and pain of regret.  Maybe it will get you off your ass to do what you need to do, or feel you need to do!  I know it has me. I’m still working myself crazy at the hospital, but I am forcing myself to make time to do the projects, production and passion that feeds my soul.  We all have too….because Youth is in our Passions!   Hey, I think I just figured out my next segment!

So, be well my friends.  And always remember to live in the present, forgive the past, and go for your dreams. Life is too short!

Veronica Crystal Young – 40s Goddesss

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